if you don’t think biphobia is real pls unfollow me right now :)
if you think bi women are disgusting for sleeping with men doubly so :)
this was a post on r/truelesbians where op was asking “why are bi women rejected by a lot of lesbians?”
what i think a lot of ppl don’t understand when they call us “bincels” and “rapey” when we call out biphobia is that— we don’t, in fact, want lesbians to date us. not if they’re going to be saying shit like this. it’s the horrible things they say that we criticize.
i feel physically sick reading things like this. and these are p common opinions to have. if you aren’t really confident or secure in your sexuality/identity (which i’m not), you start to internalize these things. it takes a toll on you. the shame and self hatred can get overwhelming sometimes.
and there are ppl who try to say this doesn’t happen, it’s not an actual problem, bi women are just whiny and self victimizing. here is just a fraction of the receipts. there are literally hundreds of posts and comments like this on that sub and other similar subs.
i have always supported lesbians and will continue to support lesbians, and i am grateful to the lesbians who have done the same for me— but ultimately, bi women come first. i haven’t seen things like this on my own dash but if/when i do, i will call it out, even if i am laughed at, insulted, ridiculed, attacked, etc. i try to avoid getting into discourse as much as possible as it’s extremely stressful for me but we need to stand up for ourselves. no one else will.
bi women i love you we are not dirty, impure, tainted or lesser in any way because of our attraction to men regardless of what anyone says. i say that but i even have a hard time accepting it myself.
we are perfect the way we are. we are whole.weareenough
this shit also really just drives home the point that there’s a difference between someone being biphobic and someone just not wanting to date bi people.
just not wanting to date us bc you want to share the experience of being fully homosexual with your partner? perfectly understandable, i prefer to date other bisexual people for that exact reason. not wanting to date us just because you don’t want to, no explanation required? also fine! you don’t have to know why or want to say why, you’re allowed to not date anyone you don’t want to date for any reason.
explicitly stating that you find us disgusting and that you think about us having sex with men constantly and it disgusts you? maybe work that out with a therapist and also leave bi women the fuck alone. and don’t be mad at us when we don’t entertain your biphobia as something valid to think about us :)
this kinda shit is also directed towards lesbians who thought they were bi/generally aren’t ‘gold stars’ for whatever reason. and that’s pretty shitty, too. maybe stop and think about why you thing women who have slept with men are disgusting to you. misogyny and biphobia wrapped into one shitty belief lmao love that.
side note, yes it’s natural to think about who your partner has been with, but if you’re obsessing over it to such a degree that you make yourself nauseated thinking about it, that’s a problem. and if you have sex with us anyway and are actively trying not to think about something that revolts you that much, i would suggest perhaps not doing that and stop being a shitty person. no one deserves to have a sexual partner who thinks they’re gross.
image descrition: Previous photo is of two apparently female figures standing close to one another in a sexually tense moment. The person on the left stands isometrically to the camera with their back turned mostly to the viewer but the side of their face, jacket, and legs visible. This person is pale and wears a large black leather jacket, dark charcoal jeans, black cowboy boots and has their auburn hair down. They also are smoking a cigarette and looking down at the other figure.
The other figure is a lot less clothed and leans against a dining table’s chair almost as if they had stumbled back and are now pinned there by sexual intimidation of the first figure.Our second figure has lightly tanned skin, long dark hair pulled back into a high ponytail and large dark eyes emphasized by mascara and eye shadow. They wear black lacy, semi transparent lingerie consisting of a long sleeveless “coat” which drapes just barely over their breasts and hangs down behind them and off to either side. And they wear a pair of black garters attached to some smoky nylon stockings. Their feet are in black stilettoes and are splayed between the legs of the domineering figure.
They both appear to be in an old fancy hotel suite, with adult beverages in a silver cart on the side.
[Image: A mother reading a picture book to her child. The image is done in a traditional Chinese Paper Cutting style (剪纸). It is set on a background of the Bisexual Pride Flag with flower highlights picked out in the colours of the LGBTQ Rainbow Pride Flag. The sentiment “Happy Mother’s Day” is written around the borders in English, Chinese, Korean + Vietnamese]
Hand-drawn (primarily) black & white image of two female-presenting, goth-punk rocker types.
The person on the left is is wearing a belt-buckle (in colour) that is the Red, Pink, & White Lesbian Pride Flag, and holding a sign that says, “Happy International Women’s’ Day to All My Sisters!!” The person on the right is wearing a round pin (in colour) in the Blue, Pink, and White of the Trans Pride Flag and holding a sign that says, “Not just my Cis-ters”. Credit Art by Andi
A female-id’ing person kissing another female-id’ing person doesn’t ALWAYS mean one (or even both) of them self-identifies as Lesbian … Bisexual+ People exist!
Lesbian Women ❤️ Bi+ Women Bi+ Women Lesbian Women Bi+ Women other Bi+ Women … it’s all good!
Bisexuality is the attraction to more than one Gender, or to Genders similar to- and different from- one’s own.
It includes people of ALL Genders & Gender Presentations including but not limited to: Cis Intersex, Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Nonbinary, Trans and so many more.
Bisexual+, Biromantic+ (Bi+ or BiPlus for short) is the commonly used “shorthand” for the entire Non-Monosexual or otherwise MSpec (Multiple Gender Attraction Spectrum) Community including but not limited to: Bisexual/Biromantic, Ambisexual, Flexisexual, Fluid, Heteroflexible/Homoflexible, Multisexual, No Labels, Omnisexual, Pansexual, Plurisexual, PoMoSexual, Polysexual, Same-gender Loving (SGL), Sapiosexual, Queer-identified, and so many more.
SoPlease remember to ALWAYS include the “B” in LGBTQ+
I am seeking participants for a research study on the challenges (biphobia in particular) that bi+ women experience while participating in LGBTQ activism on campus.
Anyone who…
identifies as a woman to some degree who also experiences attraction to more than one gender (including but not limited to: bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, queer, fluid),
is a current undergraduate student (or recent graduate) who is (or has been) involved in at least one LGBTQ student organization on campus,
Bisexual activist and scholar Robin Ochs just announced the successful conclusion of a project she has been working on for 7 ½ years in collaboration with Amy Benson of Harvard University’s Schlesinger Library.
Back issues of Bi Women (now the Bi Women Quarterly) (1983-2009) and of North Bi Northwest (a publication of the Seattle Bisexual Women’s Network) are now archived and available via Harvard University’s Schlesinger Library. They have been digitized, and are searchable and available to the public.
Here’s the press release from Harvard’s Schlesinger Library:
Boston is home to the longest-lived bisexual women’s periodical in the world. Bi Women Quarterly, a grassroots publication, began in September 1983 as a project of the newly-formed Boston Bisexual Women’s Network.
Staffed entirely by volunteers, and containing essays, poetry, artwork, and short fiction on a wide range of themes, Bi Women Quarterly provides a voice for women who identify as bisexual, pansexual, and other non-binary sexual identities.
Robyn Ochs, editor of Bi Women Quarterly since 2009, donated the only complete collection of this publication to Schlesinger Library several years ago with the agreement that it would be preserved, and digitized in a searchable format. The digitized collection at Schlesinger covers the years 1983 to 2010.
We are delighted to announce that this project is complete, and this resource is now available to researchers and to the general public through Harvard’s catalog.
Making the voices of bi women accessible will hopefully provide researchers primary material with which to begin to fill this gap.
Issues of Bi Women Quarterly from 2009 to the present can be found online a BiWomenBoston.org. These more recent issues will be added to the Library’s collection in the near future.
tell me if this is just a me thing or whatever, but my go-to gift is and will always be food.
imagine knowing your partner so well that you know exactly how to make their favorite dish? you know how spicy their chili has to be for them to enjoy it, or you know that they like a little bit of instant espresso in their chocolate cake? And then you set them down and watch them take that first bite, and you see how their eyes light up as they realize that you remembered something they thought was so unimportant, but not to you.
i know i’ve made posts about making food for or eating food with your girlfriend before, but that’s because food is one of those things that is universally used and can still be very personal❤️
We’re looking for a summer intern who will focus on expanding our visibility & reach on social media in the U.S. & globally, increasing the number of people who know about this free & accessible resource.
We’re looking for a summer intern who will focus on expanding our visibility & reach on social media in the U.S. & globally, increasing the number of people who know about this free & accessible resource.
We’re looking for a summer intern who will focus on expanding our visibility & reach on social media in the U.S. & globally, increasing the number of people who know about this free & accessible resource.
this is the mindset i wish for all heterosexual and bisexual women
Looks at ops age
19
Figures
Damn, OP, biphobia isn’t a good look on you.
this ain’t biphobia goofy
Biphobia is everything they want to describe in it apparently, no matter that it is probably a bisexual woman who made that Tik Tok (or straight, but then you wouldn’t feel to sure about calling that “heterophobia”, right ?!?)
Febfems are amazing and their existence isn’t biphobic @anobodyisthelastthingyouare nor is it wrong for straight men to refuse to date men for feminist reasons (political celibacy). Hope this helps.
![A parody photo of the previous image. It creates the backdrop as a pastel watercolor, and has Poison Ivy and Harley Quinn drawn over each previous feminine figure Poison Ivy is on the left wearing a dark green leather jacket with 3 patches: a prominent "Be Green, Do Crime" patch with a rainbow-ish background, a circular patch that look likes Earth, and an Anarchy patch on the left sleeve facing away from the viewer. Her hair is bright orange-red with leafy vines and poison ivy leaves sticking up out of her long wild hair. Instead of a cigarette is a chewing twig and her dark charcoal jeans are torn at her knees showing off more of her olive green skin tone. Her cowboy boots are now a darkish green with red and light green detailing that makes heart shaped roses, leaves, and spiraled stems with thorns. Harley Quinn is on the right. She has medium tan skin and large brown eyes, but her brown hair has been shown to be shaved on the side so that her dyed blonde hair is piled up in the middle before being tied back into a pair of close-set pig tails. The one on the viewers right has a baby blue pontail holder and the dark blonde hair is dyed a teal-indigo-blue half way towards the end. The pigtail on the viewer's left has a pale pink pontyatil holder and likewise ends in red. There is red and blue clown paint diamonds over her eyes, but in the reverse order of the pigtails (red on our right, blue on our left). She wears a gold hoop earring, and her long sleeveless lingerie coat is now half pale salmon pink and half pale baby blue (same color as the pony tail holders) with pink on our right and blue on our left. Each side seems to have a heart and 3 diamonds in the colors of the opposite side (like a yin and yang reversal) sensually placed over the breast. The coat is torn at its bottom edges as if its seen a lot of action. Harley seems to have red tattoes on the side that faces the viewer, including a tattoo on her upper arm that bears resemblance to a poison ivy leaf by combining three red diamonds in the shape of a club (like from a card game). Red diamond tattoos circle her wrist and ankle like bracelets, and we can see that blue diamonds encircle her other ankle that sticks out between Poison Ivy's legs. She has red nail polish on the one hand that we can see. The lacey parts of her underwear bear resemblance to the spiraled thorn designs on ivy's boots. A slight natural buldge sticks out from her underwear, and the non-lacey charcoal parts attatch via garters to smoky and semi-teansparent nylon stockings. A red stiletto on the blue diamond ankled foot and a blue-indigo stilhetto on the red diamond ankled foot. Harley has fresh, lighter colored battle scars covering her hands, arm, torso, splitting her eyebrow, and grazing across the side of her shaved head. (And subtle stretch marks between her thighs) And she has older darker battle scars out from her bottom lip, across her shoulder, torso, legs, and stomach: including some that seem to spell out "Ha Ha" but is partially obscured by the coat. [end of parody description]](https://64.media.tumblr.com/7d1560aca84b15576e25e5aa8b79b793/208aa74410086ad5-dd/s2048x3072/79690c99db831ffc76c10b48c131138afa868c99.png)
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