“I need feminism because… I shouldn’t have to hide my boobs!”

Alright, I’m going to ignore any sort of sexualization of boobs or whether they are or aren’t sexual organs arguments. I’m going to look at the realistic implications of legalising female toplessness:

- Forcefully groping someones breasts will no longer fall under the category of sexual assault. It will simply be physical assault, which will receive a significantly smaller punishment than the latter.

- If someone familiar to you gives you a hug, and as their arms wrap around you they end up grabbing the sides of your naked breasts instead of your shoulders, don’t expect to have any solid ground to report them. No, touching your boobs would be as un-offensive as touching your shoulders. I hope you are comfortable with a small amount friendly fondling.

- Now that your boobs are on display, you need to accept the fact that people will comment on them. In the same way that people comment on your dress style, your hair, your arms, your legs, your piercings, your tan, your face, your feet, or anything else that you choose to uncover and put on display, they will also begin to comment on your breasts. 
Here are some questions you should expect to receive when you go topless:

• “You should probably even out your bra tan”
• “you boobs look more veiny than mine”
• “Why are your nipples so dark?”
• “What size are you?”
• “Are you worried about your boobs going saggy without a bra?”
• “Your boobs are tiny/massive!”
• “Your nipples are tiny/massive!”
• “I find it so fascinating watching your boobs bounce up and down”
• “You should probably pluck those hairs around your areola”
• “You have a bit of acne there (points), maybe you should try X to clear it up”
• “They look a bit… droopy”

- Topless scenes will be acceptable for children’s movies and television. If being topless is as natural and as un-offensive as wearing a shirt, I don’t see why anyone would think this is unreasonable. We can have great time watching cartoons of women with breasts that defy physics. Our young girls, who won’t even have breasts at this stage, are going to have a great time hitting puberty.

- Now that we have legalized baring our breasts publicly, we cannot discriminate and put an age limit on this issue. This included teenies. Yes, those preteen girls with their little buds will be flouncing them around for any pedophile to fantasise over. Yes, those same pedophiles could even take photos of her, not directly of course, but she will be in the photo none the less. They can then take those photos home and wank all over it. The best part about it, feminists have made it legal for this to happen because of their bare-breast campaign.

- You can’t even keep photography of female toplessness illegal, because it is currently legal to have men topless in photographs. If you tried illegalize female toplessness yet keep male toplessness legal, than that would be discrimination and not equality. As we all know, feminism is about equality, right?

- fraudulentfeminist

I have so many issues with this, on so many levels. Especially considering I used to think this way myself.

I used to look down on the Indigenous Communities of Australia, as they too receive all of the above benefits yet the majority of them still seemed to be going no where with their lives. I was constantly hearing of the chronic problems in Alice Springs where the handouts were spent on copious amounts of alcohol, and just the issues that arose from those specific entitlements. I very rarely see Indigenous youth around the city or my area who aren’t walking in packs and trying to be gangster. A majority of them, from what I have seen, have quite consistently ruined the reputation of their culture by being poorly behaved, poorly dressed, foul mouthed and bad mannered.

Then one day I had to catch the train during peak hour to get to class. The train was fairly packed, and I chose to sit in a 4-way booth (two seats facing towards two seats opposite). The other man sitting in the corner of the booth was a very tall, burly looking Indigenous fellow. Instead of sitting opposite him, as my knees would have overlapped his, I sat on the adjacent corner of the booth. 4 seats, 2 commuters, peak hour.

As we continued towards the city, making more and more stops, the train very quickly began to fill. All the empty seats were gone, including the priority seating, and people were resorting to standing up in the aisles and holding on to the rails above.  

The only two seats left available on our entire carriage, were the two directly opposite and adjacent to this man I shared a booth with. Eventually I ended up scooting along, giving up my leg room, and sat opposite the burly Indigenous man. It didn’t take long for someone to swoop down and take my original seat, yet the one remaining seat, the seat adjacent to my fellow commuter, was empty for the entire journey into the city.

Meanwhile, I had politely apologised when I had moved and invaded his leg space with my own legs, and when I had finished the puzzle on my newspaper, I offered the paper to him with a smile and he seemed quite happy to receive it. I had noticed the other passengers behaviour towards him, so I made sure he received at least one kind gesture on his trip. Other than that we spent the rest of the journey in silence.

When we reached the main city station, and as the train mostly emptied, I got up to leave. My back was turned but I heard the guy I was sitting with call out to me. I turned around and I will never forget what happened next. He looked at me with an incredibly hurt look in his eyes, and he politely nodded his head and said, “Thank you, it means a lot to me.”

I don’t think he was talking about the newspaper, either. 

All my prejudices and judgements regarding Indigenous people of Australia sort of crumbled instantly at that moment. I finally realised how despite their special treatments from the government, they never really get treated right anywhere else. Probably because many people, like the one who very thoughtlessly threw the above image together, still have many lingering racist and prejudice behaviours, even if it is unintentional. 

I was bullied as a child, by my elder sister. She was never punished because my mum said she was older (could be seen as a privilege), which made me bitter. I began to lash out at my other siblings in the same way my elder sister lashed out at me, yet I ended up getting punished for the same crimes my sister was inflicting on me and getting away with. The injustice of it all really screwed me up, and I grew more and more resentful, angry and destructive.

The man I encountered that day on the train reminded me of my issues as a child, and the injustice I felt. Except he was a victim of a large scale social problem, fuelled by racial prejudices and privileges. Coloured people may be equal under written law, but the way they are treated on a social level still screams with the agony of racism. 

If you agree with the sentiments of the person who generated this meme, you are probably unaware, and unintentionally part of the problem.
 
- fraudulentfeminist

I need feminism because… Objectification…?

I find it ironic how one of the greatest enemies of feminism is the objectification and sexualization of women. Yet when a strong, independent women such as Rihanna dresses in a sheer full length gown, it is suddenly empowering and female-positive.

I find it ironic how feminists find it acceptable for women to use their bodies and sexuality to sell themselves, but when they consensually use their bodies to sell other people’s products or brands, it is suddenly oppression. Is this a double standard or am I missing something?

- fraudulentfeminist

I need feminism because… We are strong, independent women!

If you truly are strong, independent women, you would not be relying on feminism to address issues and hardships that most women are very capable, yet unwilling, to address themselves. Feminism relies on strong, independent women to prove that women are capable of showing the same equal levels of determination, talent, power, influence, resilience, toughness, persuasiveness, validity, devotion, leadership, and intellectual ability as any “male privileged” successful man or successful women.

Strong and independent women are, more often than not, enlightened enough to realise that they don’t need feminism, feminism needs them. Feminism needs strong, independent women to validate its claims about females being strong and independent. Don’t you see? Feminism rides on the back of successful, self empowered women, and steals the credit and recognition of their achievements to further push its own agenda!

This is what makes feminism (the first-wave, first-world modern “feminism”), such a dangerous and greedy political movement. It manipulates women into developing victim complexes before convincing them that they need this movement to help empower themselves to become strong and independent women. 

I am a woman. I firmly believe that almost every single woman in modern, first world countries have the opportunity of developing and improving themselves to become a strong, independent, self-empowered members of society. Some people act on these opportunities, some people prefer not too. Some people are overwhelmed by the struggles they may face, some people eat their struggles for breakfast. What I am saying is that we have equal opportunities and equal rights under law. What we choose to do with what we have access to is up to us. 

Besides, not all women poses is the drive and determination to become super-women-major-media-recognition powerhouses. That is okay. If it makes you happy and fulfilled, be a stay at home mum, view your partner as the head of your household, that still doesn’t make you any more or less strong, independent or empowered in your own way. Don’t let feminism convince you otherwise.

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… I don’t throw like a girl”

I do.

Broad shoulders are a masculine trait directly linked to the higher levels of testosterone in men. It isn’t because the patriarchy gave men the privilege of having increased levels of testosterone compared to women, it is because of biology, evolution, and just plain old cold hard science. As a result, the average male will typically have stronger, broader shoulders and consequentially better throwing abilities than your average women. Take note of the use of the word ‘average’ because there will always be anomalies regarding the strength capabilities of either gender.

When people say you throw like a girl, they are saying that your throw is weak, directly related to the fact that the average female will have smaller, weaker shoulders than the average male. When people say you throw like a girl as an insult, they aren’t insulting your gender, they are insulting your throwing capabilities. Take it within context, don’t manipulate it with accusations of male privilege and patriarchy. It really doesn’t takes a discerning mind to be able to recognise between malicious intentions and just gender stereotypical ignorance. It isn’t that hard.

Besides, if you don’t want to throw like a girl, prove it. Train yourself until you can throw as far if not further than the average male (average male I’m talking about here, don’t go around finding the smallest, lankiest, weakest men you can think of to out-throw in an attempt to prove your point). I study with a female who is a gym junkie and is just one of the many females who is probably stronger than a large percentage of men. A few of us were out throwing a footy around during break and she was seriously showing them up with her strength. Half the guys made 'she throws like a girl’ jokes but in such a way that they translated into 'holy shit, she throws like a girl’ which was steeped in the kind of respect that you only earn when you rightfully and successfully prove yourself worthy.

For the record, I don’t particularly like the phrase 'you throw like a girl’. It isnt something that thrills me a whole lot. I’ve only been told it a few times when I have abysmally failed to throw an object far enough but having it said to me was an experience none the less. I am incredibly non-confrontational in real life but I become insanely passive aggressive and Hulk-like internally. As an example, my initial internal reaction to being told that I throw like a girl would go along the lines of:

“No shit, Sherlock. Did you go to Detective School to figure that out? Yes, I throw like a girl but I’m not going to start pumping steroids so I can grow the shoulders big enough throw this stapler far enough to reach your thick skull.”

Guess what? Responding in such a way would make me a bitch. Responding with such fury to such a trivial issue would reflect worse on myself than it does on the initial offender. Responding to ignorance or hate, with even more hate, doesnt make me a more decent human being. I am much more rational than that. Besides, it doesn’t take long, a few seconds maybe, to cool down, make a lighthearted “your mum” joke and just laugh it off.

-fraudulentfeminist

I want to post this to counteract out the sickening amount of posts that blame the patriarchy/male privilege/men for this tragic event. For those who use the suffering of others to promote their own agenda. To those who use this massacre to insist that our society pre-conditions men to believe that they have the right to sex:

Assuming that our society has a system that teaches men from birth that they have the right to have sex with women is assuming that all men have been conditioned to think this way, and therefore currently DO think this way. The only people who actually think they have the right to sex… are rapists, not simply the entire male gender. Elliot was a psychopath, and to parallel his motives with innocent men who are also saddened by the massacre is very misguided. 

I have a brother, father, uncle, boyfriend, more male friends than female, and to see so many women on my dash this morning making unfounded statements about men, absolutely sickens me. Everyday men do not display the same sentiments that Elliot expressed. 

Here are two quotes from Elliot Rodger’s manifesto:
“I will torture some of the good looking people before I kill them, assuming that the good looking ones had the best sex lives. All of that pleasure they had in life, I will punish by bringing them pain and suffering.”
and
“On the morning before, I will drive down to my father’s house to kill my little brother, denying him of the chance to grow up to surpass me, along with my stepmother … as she will be in the way. ”  

Four men and two women are in an early grave because a psychotic man had a jealous rampage fuelled by sexual frustration. I don’t understand the amount of mental gymnastics people have to jump through to come to the conclusion that his actions weren’t spurred by any mental illness from those quotes alone. Just because one murderer/potential rapist/psycho made some inherently sexist comments about women to justify his actions, does that give people the right to presume that all men think like this? 

Can we stop stereotyping and generalizing the entire male gender over the actions of one mentally-unstable human? Can we just get back to supporting the victims families. 

“I need feminism because… I want to see more women in power.”

As a female myself, I wholeheartedly disagree. I do not want to see women come to power if their only redeeming quality is being female. I want to see passionate, dedicated, honest and humble human beings come to power because of their own individual merit based on their personality, morals, ethics and philosophy rather than the gender they identify as.

I understand that there isn’t a huge representation of women within the political realm, but I personally don’t see that as an inherently good or bad thing. I would rather see one highly acclaimed female in a position of power go down in history as a highly respected and renowned leader, than to see one hundred standard females in positions of power simply because we thought it was a woman’s turn. We desperately need to focus on quality, not quantity.

In regards to the apparent lack of high profile political female role models that is supposedly hurting our daughters… I think gendered role models are irrelevant. Why do we insist that little girls need to look up to bigger girls? Is it because the only thing they have in common is their gender? Why do we insist that girls and boys need to look up to their respective adult equivalances? That just further perpetuates gender stereotypes and divisions and encourages biased preferences. Can’t young girls look up to men like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther, and aren’t boys allowed to have Rosa Parks and Margaret Thatcher as role models? Yes, these people may have had their flaws, but they did some incredible good in the world and I think it is sad that we are still looking at their genders and not their merits.

We don’t need feminism simply because there is an imbalanced ratio of men:women in politics. We already know that it is possible for women to achieve high political positions in America (Thanks Hilary) but we need to look past peoples genders and support the individuals who truly deserve it.

fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… brain cells don’t exist in the penis”

I.. I just.. can’t even.

-fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… too many of my friends believe in equality but don’t think they are feminists”

This is probably because too many of your friends have a better understanding of what real equality is. I will say it again, in developed societies we already have equal rights and opportunities and are protected by law, and if either gender feels like they are being discriminated against they have equal right to take action by law. But feminism isn’t content with just equality and is actually spreading some really damaging propaganda…

I will start from the beginning: Every single primitive human society that has been documented or observed has followed the same pattern: Men hunt and protect, women care and nurture. That isn’t a coincidence. That is human nature. Those are our hardwired instincts. Those instincts (and other biological factors) are what give men and women their own physical and emotional differences. There are certain traits, behaviours, thoughts and actions that are typical of the male gender (typical, but not exclusive). Likewise, there are certain traits, behaviours, thoughts and actions that are typical of the female gender (again typical, but not exclusive). These all came from our instincts that helped us survive through the early stages of the human race.

Obviously the human race has progressed far enough to no longer need or rely on such a system of gender roles to survive, but that doesn’t mean we have evolved out of that instinctive set of behaviours. The majority of men are still going to want to be bread winners and protectors to support the family. The majority of women will still have that maternal instinct to care and nurture for their family. It isn’t because either party are oppressed or oppressors, it’s just how female and male genders have been hardwired.  

The thing I dislike about new wave feminism is that it demonizes these typical male and female dichotomies and calls them evil. The only evil is in the individuals who choose to judge each other based on gender stereotypes (For example, those who laugh at men who bake, or those who undermine women in the construction industry). 

Feminism is going so far as to pressure women into feeling that they need to be in male dominated areas of study, work and politics otherwise they are somehow being oppressed. It also guilt trips those who want to be stay at home mothers and tells them that their desires are the result of male oppression. It then shames men for simply being the gender majority in certain areas of study, work and politics. Feminism is spreading the ideology that being a woman in a male dominated area is feat deserving of more respect than an equally competent man in the very same situation.

My view on gender is much like the Chinese philosophy of Yin and Yang: “Yin and Yang are actually complementary, not opposing, forces, interacting to form a whole greater than either separate part.” (I use this in the context of society, not marriage or relationships)

Yes we are equal, but for beautifully different reasons. There is nothing wrong with stepping outside gender normatives, and there is nothing wrong with being content with them either. Stop telling me I have to be more like a man to be more of a woman.

-fraudulentfeminist

*Please don’t misinterpret this and presume that my argument excuses males who abuse females because of their “instincts” (I know someone is going to try bring it up).  That is taking my argument out of context and twisting it to fit your own agenda. 

“I need feminism because… I definitely deserve to get PAID as much as (or more than) anyone else.”

- If you are a casual worker, you do not deserve to get paid as much as the store manager. 
- If you are a high school teacher, you do not deserve to get paid as much as a university professor.
- If you are a nurse, you do not deserve to get paid as much as a doctor.
- If you are an apprentice chef, you do not deserve to get paid as much as the head chef.
- Just because you are a woman, doesn’t mean you deserve to get paid as much, or more than a man (and vice versa).

No one deserves anything, especially if the only factor contributing to that entitlement is your gender. You earn your pay. Simple as that. If you choose a lower income job, then you need to realise that you will earn a lower income than someone else who has chosen a higher income job. 

How about an example to make this more clear:
CHILDREN GET PAID 2c FOR EVERY DOLLAR AN ADULT MAKES! 

Now, is it reasonable to call that discrimination towards children? Should we stage protests and demand an intervention to ensure that parents are forced to pay their kids $11.45 for every hour that they stand at their shitty homemade lemonade stall? No, because in the situation involving the children/adults wage gap, it is so blatantly obvious that the statistic involved doesn’t disclose some really crucial information such as:
- How often do children work, compared to adults?
- How much time off do children take, compared to adults?
- How labour intensive is the work children do, compared to adults?
- Do the majority of children actively choose lower income jobs to accommodate their lifestyles, compared to adults?
- Do the majority of adults sacrifice a larger portion of their time and lifestyle to take these higher income jobs, compared to children?

So when we spew around this statistic about women earning 77c for every dollar a man makes… Why isn’t it is so blatantly obvious that the statistic involved doesn’t disclose some really crucial information such as:
- How often do women work, compared to men?
- How much time off do women take, compared to men?
- How labour intensive is the work women do, compared to men?
- Do the majority of women actively choose lower income jobs to accommodate their lifestyles, compared to the majority of men?
- Do the majority of men sacrifice a larger portion of their time and lifestyle to take these higher income jobs, compared to women?

Is this really so hard to comprehend, or are we going to blame the patriarchy again?

-fraudulentfeminist



(PS. Most modern countries have some sort of legal watchdog that prevents and punishes discrimination in the workforce. In Australia we have what is called the Fair Work Ombudsman that gives out information and advice and informs you of your legal rights for those who find themselves in situations that involve discrimination. If you are being discriminated against in the workforce, including payment issues, these institutions will help you out. You don’t have an excuse not to ask.) 

I need feminism because I shouldn’t have to worry that my gender will stop me from being successful in the male dominated games industry.

Do we really have to keep doing this? I hate how we completely dehumanize the majority of people working within the games industry by labeling it as a “male dominated games industry”.  The way we use words can be so incredibly manipulative sometimes. When you use words such as “male dominated” it completely removes any sort of human context and replaces it with negative stereotypes because we are throwing around the word “dominated” which will always invoke negative connotations.

When you say words like “male dominated” you are almost implying that all the men in that particular industry are women-hating bigoted sexists who want to dominate over all of the women. That is a shitty and hurtful generalization to make. I’m going to slightly re-word the above quote:

“I need feminism because I shouldn’t have to worry that my gender will stop my from being successful in the games industry where 80% of the workforce happen to be really passionate and genuine men who are doing what they love.”

Yes, I understand that there are still people out there who are still inherently sexist towards women, to the point where it could be considered bigotry. These people are the minorities. There really is only a handful of people who will look at mind blowingly awesome work and deny the applicant because all they saw was the female gender of the creator behind the design.

Do you know what will actually stop you from being successful in the games industry (or any creative industry for that matter) 99% of the time? Lack of motivation, passion, talent, ambition, and creativity. You need all of this to succeed. We are all on tumblr, and we’ve all seen those amazing images, videos, music clips, or art… Yet the people who created them are absolute nobodies. It goes to show that just because you are insanely talented doesn’t mean you are going to make it if you don’t have the motivation and the passion to dedicate most of your life into getting your work out there and recognized. You can’t expect to have everything handed to you on a silver platter. 

Saying things like “I can’t be successful because there are lots of men” is a really copout way of giving up. Don’t make excuses. Stop blaming others. 

-fraudulentfeminist

“I support feminism because it is still not OK for a woman to go into a mens locker room”

As blatantly ridiculous as this statement is, it is still incredibly hard to argue against without being somewhat hypocritical.

On one hand I don’t believe that all men are rapists or perverts. On the other hand, I still don’t want men in the same room as me dressing or showering. You could argue that if I truly believed the first statement, than there would be no logical explanation as to why I would claim the other. 

But really, I’m more comfortable getting dressed around girls because we generally have the same anatomy. Girls have breasts. They may come in different shapes and sizes but they are all generally the same thing. We all have the same problems that come with breasts, we have the same familiarity when it comes to breasts. I’m only comfortable getting dressed around girls because we are all familiar with the anatomy we have.

For the exact same reasons I have to admit that I would feel uncomfortable being in a locker room while a transgender female (who had not undergone sex reassignment surgery) was changing. I wouldn’t refuse to be in the same locker room, as I would want to accept her and who she is regardless of her body. At the same time, I simply cannot ignore the fact that I am uncomfortable with penises. I am not used to penises because I have no experience with owning a penis or using one or what it feels like to have one. I am uncomfortable because I am unfamiliar. 

I guess it could be the same for why many men are made uncomfortable by the idea of periods. For girls, it is a natural monthly part of life that we deal with and as a result we are quite comfortable with talking about it, hearing about it and empathising with other females about it. If it is such a natural and normal part of your everyday woman, then why would men be so uncomfortable? Ding ding. They are uncomfortable because they are unfamiliar.

I don’t care if you are a woman who is unfazed by being in a locker room with naked/showering changing men, and I don’t care if you are a man who is unfazed by being in a locker room with naked changing/showering women. You might be fine with seeing body parts, but that doesn’t give you the right to to be present while other people are naked and vulnerable. It doesn’t give you the right to make them uncomfortable. I have the right to feel violated if someone of the opposite gender walked in on me with my most intimate parts on display, parts that they don’t have and they aren’t familiar with.  

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… All feminism means is equal rights for women… shouldn’t be controversial”

It shouldn’t be controversial, but it is. 

Because feminism only cares about equality when it benefits women. Feminism doesn’t care about equality when men are the ones suffering and when men are the ones with the short end of the stick. They only cherry pick the issues where females can benefit from change. It is a disgusting bias that is perfectly acceptable in feminist theory.

For example: Feminists don’t care that men have such low custody rates for their own children, because women benefit from that discrepancy so it doesn’t need to be addressed. Feminists don’t care that men make up the majority of homeless people, because women in that particular issue aren’t suffering more than men so it also doesn’t need to be addressed. Feminists don’t care that men have such a high rate of suicidal deaths, because women unsuccessfully commit it more often and clearly the ones who are dying just aren’t as important. 

The men suffering from these issues may get a footnote in a speech, but not one single piece of legislation that has been put forward by feminists  actually directly benefits men when they are the ones suffering. In fact, when men do try to get help for these issues through the MRM they are often shut down or ignored. I’ve also added a post from aaasources that highlights all the “equal rights” feminists claim to stand by.

Feminism doesn’t want equal rights for women, it wants privileges. They want the privilege of having an equal representation in all the fancy, smart, respectable, clean, high-paying jobs. Yet when it comes to the dirty, physically demanding, time consuming, dangerous jobs they don’t give a damn that men are the majority who are slugging it out just for a decent income. 

That’s controversial.  

-fraudulentfeminist

aaasources:

Feminists against equal protection from domestic abuse. 

Feminists threaten to kill woman for saying men need abuse shelters.

Feminists prevent a meeting about male suicide.

Feminists stage mock murders to scare men. 

Feminist attacks male cartoonist and is hailed a hero of feminism.

Feminists shut down forum for battered husbands.

Propaganda campaign against male fathers wanting custody.

Feminists wish to slander accused names before convicted. 

Try to shut down female prisons.

Create rape laws that exclude female rapists.

Make it impossible to charge women with rape.

Feminists against equal custody.

What have feminists done for men?

Female felons should serve home sentences.

Told judges to be lenient on women.

Feminists cover up female domestic violence.

Feminists don’t want the gov to help unemployed men.

Feminists launch campaigns to help girls only while boys are doing worse in every facet of education.

Males who were raped as a child still have to pay child support.

Women should have the right to put a child up for adoption before the father gets custody.

Feminists against beyond reasonable doubt when it’s male rapists.

5 rights feminism ignores for men.

Feminists blame males for their abuse.

The primary aggressor clause where only men get charged with abuse.

Shame men into going to war.

Feminists dismiss female child rapists.

Feminists say men can’t talk about domestic abuse.

Feminists mock a man who has his dick cut off.

Strawmanning MRA members.

feminists attack church.

Feminists transphobia

Feminists slander the MRM

Again, 

And again, 

Call them terrorists.

Feminists shut down a festival about gender equality for including men.

Most Americans aren’t feminists. 

 Feminist and Nazi parallels.

Feminists say women should only serve community sentences. 

Feminist Mary Koss denies male rape victims.

Yes doesn’t even mean yes. How all sex is rape. According to California campuses. Feminist Harriet Harman has publicly requested employers to hire women in preference to White men if both job candidates are equally

• Feminist fought a law against  Paternity Fraud.
• Also Suzanne Steinmetz and her children received death threats and bomb threats she discovered that  the rate at which men were victimized by domestic violence was similar to the rate for women.
• Richard Gelles and Murray Straus  have all received death threats from feminists, simply for publishing their findings (that female-to-male family violence was equal to the rate of male-to-female violence).

Feminist run site includes advice on how to bleed husbands dry during a divorce.

source: aaasources.tumblr.com

fraudulentfeminist:

“I need feminism because… People still act like being accused of rape is worse than being raped”

Firstly, rape is possibly one of the most violent and traumatizing acts of assault, second only to murder. Please do not think that I am undermining the true extent of how terrifying and violating it is. However, I honestly believe that being accused and convicted of committing a crime so heinous, while being innocent, comes with repercussions that are far more devastating then being a victim of rape.

Being raped can traumatize someone for the rest of their life. Some people can move on but most will never recover. People life in fear, they get anxiety, depression, suicidal tendencies, and some even develop anorexia as a means of coping. Rape doesn’t affect you for a moment; it affects you for the rest of your life. However, there is hope out there. There are countless support groups that help you deal with the trauma, and to ease the pain. There is the chance of closure for what happened to you, through prosecution. Your family and friends will support and love you through your ordeal and road to recovery. You may not recover completely, but you can move forward with your life.

However, when you are accused and prosecuted for being a rapist you also live with lifelong trauma. Firstly, spending time in prison, in isolation, for years on end. Missing out on your dreams, your ambitions, and your goals. Not to mention your inmates are likely to have their own justice system… Have you ever heard of the term “don’t drop the soap”? Once you survive your time in prison, and the trauma that comes with it, you get out to find that your partner and kids have left you and have filed a restraining order against you. If you were single at the time, you will be single and alone for the rest of your life. Your family and friends and everyone you care about will reject you. They will be ashamed and embarrassed by you. Wherever you go parents will be holding their kids close because they have a rapist alert app on their phone, and you have a permanent record. Finding a job to support yourself will be 1000x harder because employers do background checks, and no one is going to want to hire you. Society will look down on you and spit on your face as you spend the rest of your life waiting for the nightmare to end… All for something you didn’t do. 

I know I exaggerated both scenarios, but please, tell me how being unapologetic to those who are falsely accused is a positive attribute of “feminism”?  

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… no one debates whether men can "have it all”“

No one debates whether men can have it all because it is overwhelmingly presumed that a man has one role in life and that is to spend the rest of his life working to the bone to support the family. What use is a man unless he goes to work? That is what our society teaches. Men don’t have it all because from the moment they are born they are reared to be put to work. Society views their worth on how much money they bring in at the end of the day. That’s it. Their suitability as a potential partner is heavily based on what job they have and how able they are to support a future family…

… And when it comes to family, more often than not, a man will give up his precious time, that could’ve otherwise been spent with his wife and children, to work long hours to provide an income. Meanwhile, the wife is on maternity leave, or staying home with the kids, or working flexible hours to suit daycare, or working full time with a nanny for the kids. There is so much support for women with children out there. It is socially acceptable for them to stay at home and rear the children since it is an age old stereotype, and our culture has shifted (for the better) to make it more acceptable and respectable for a woman to go back to work after having kids. 

Men have been left out of this change in acceptability regarding family roles, yet they are still being blamed and accused of ‘having it all’ when the only option they really have is to get back to work? (Unless they want to face ridicule, of course). No, men don’t have it all because they are pressured into the only thing society thinks they are good for, earning money.

God, as a woman I cannot imagine the pressure they must grow up with and deal with. I mean, I face daily pressures set by expectations of how women should behave, or what women should do. But I don’t live under a rock, I know for a fact that men struggle with other issues that don’t affect me. Just because they don’t affect me, doesn’t mean they don’t exist, and I am not going to spend my life supporting a movement that is hell bent on removing any sort male support system because it believes women have it worse.

Feminist quotes like the ones above destroy what little credibility feminism has left. It shows just how one sided all their concerns are. They only ever think about how a particular issue affects women, but they could care less if that same issue affected men in an alternative way. Feminists caring about men? I don’t think so.

-fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… being loud and forceful doesn’t make me a bitch”

Um… it sort of does. 

Does anyone know how language works anymore? It’s a way of communicating with words that can be clearly interpreted others. Those words have meanings, and sometimes those meanings can adopt other meanings or evolve to mean something completely different, which is why you must also take into consideration the situation and context.

Now, just because a word itself can be used in a derogatory way, does not make the word itself derogatory. Take for example the word ‘gay’. ‘Gay’ is most commonly communicated and interpreted as a word to describe someone’s sexual orientation. (‘Homosexual’ works as well, but who has time for pronouncing 5 syllables?) However, ‘gay’ can also be used in a derogatory way or old-fashioned sense, in which case the context that the word is being used in determines the meaning of the word itself. 

When people call you a ‘bitch’ when you act loudly and forcefully, they do not mean you are literally a female dog, or that you are some sort of “pimp’s bitch” (aka hoe), because that is not the context they are using the word in. 

Being loud and forceful are two very unpleasant traits, and if the word ‘bitch’ is commonly used and interpreted within context to describe an unpleasant person (which it is), then that is one word that suits as an adjective. Alternative words that suit are: obnoxious, arrogant, annoying, overbearing, tiring, unpleasant etc.  

At the end of the day, regardless of what word they use, people are communicating to each other that they don’t like you for your loud and forceful behaviour. 

-fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… There are more MPs called Dave than female MPs”

Yeah. Fuck you, Dave. 

How dare you study politics and take an interest in leadership roles. What a selfish bastard you are, for pursuing a career that supports your country and keeps it from descending into anarchy. Fuck you, Dave, because it is entirely your fault that women aren’t as inclined to pursue leadership roles like being a Member of Parliament.

Women want more representation in politics, but none of them actually want to take on the responsibility of representation themselves; they want someone else to do it for them. 

“Too many men,” they say. “There are just too many Daves. This isn’t fair.”

Newsflash, Dave, you are a man. You are solely responsible for women avoiding politics. There are too many of you. Whatever you do, Dave, it means shit. No one is going to look up to you. Who gives a damn about your leadership skills, your integrity or honesty? You won’t ever be an inspiration or motivation for women pursuing politics, simply because you don’t have a vagina between your legs. As we all know, women only respect and admire other women.  

Holy shit, Dave, you didn’t think about that, did you? 

Made an info graph today..

-fraudulentfeminist

Just a few screen shots showcasing some of female-exclusive scholarships and handouts available in Queensland. 

This makes my blood boil right through my skin. 

If you are a female and the amount of males is deterring you away from a particular field of study, then maybe your motivation and ambition for that area of interest isn’t particularly high. You should probably consider other study options. If you are seriously going to let the gender of other students discourage you in such a way, you really aren’t mature enough to be studying in such an environment. Those other students are there because they are passionate and excited to learn something they love, and you want to demonise them for it because of their gender?  

Men aren’t the problem for consistently and overwhelming preferring fields such as engineering and architecture. Why should it be their problem? Why should they be sorry for trying to study and learn about something they love? If anything, females are perpetuating their own problem by not consistently and overwhelming preferring these areas of study (God, I hate the term “male-dominated”). Sitting back and waiting for other females to fill the void is lazy. Complaining about other females not choosing these stereotypically-male career paths is ignorant. You either lead by example, or your opinion means nothing. 

(For those of you are curious: I am a female architecture student)

I fully believe that enrolments, scholarships, job proposals, pay rises etc. should be competency based only, with no regard to the gender of the recipient/applicant. I stand by this 100% because that is what gender equality is. Gender equality isn’t filling up quotas to balance female:male ratios because gender equality is giving credit where credit is due without discriminating against their gender (this can also apply to age or racial discrimination). Denying a exceptionally qualified man a job because the company already has lots of men, and instead settling for a lesser qualified woman because of a thinly veiled excuse like diversity, is discrimination. 

I do think females need to be more encouraged to be proud of their enjoyment of maths and engineering from an earlier age. I don’t want to see young girls being ashamed of playing with robots and other mechanical toys. Yet with gender targeted scholarships like the ones above, it still sends the message that women aren’t good enough to do it on their own. Nothing is more disempowering, and undermining, than babying females with special treatment. It is condescending.  

I want to see women actively seeking these career options because they have a passion for that field of study. Passion is what makes a truly gifted and respectable career woman. You can buy numbers with gender-discriminatory scholarships, but you can’t buy passion. 

-fraudulentfeminist

I need feminism because… what about teh menz!

People are so consumed by focusing solely on female issues, no one actually stops to think about the validity of the “whataboutthemen” argument. As slow as the dialog is in the video, the creator makes some good points. 

- fraudulentfeminist

“I need feminism because… [underarm hair]”

Yesterday, while my boyfriend and I was watching Game of Thrones, he had his arm around me and I began to snuggle into his shoulder. He immediately pulled his arm into his side, and when I asked him why, he said he felt a little bit embarrassed because of his armpit hair. He was worried that it would’ve smelt and repulsed me, which is why he pulled his arm in. I asked a few more questions and he eventually he said that he thought it looked repulsive, it caused bad odor, felt a little bit itchy, and simply made him a little bit self-conscious. I tried telling him that most men had it and that it looked perfectly acceptable, but he kept his arms down and just said it was gross.

Yes, my boyfriend hates his underarm hair.

So I asked him why he doesn’t just shave it off. As embarrassed as he is by his armpit hair, he still feels pressured to look like a man. He said he didn’t want to shave it off because it wasn’t the manly thing to do. He NEVER said that he would look like a woman, because the difference between men and women is obviously a bit more complex than just a bit of hair under the pits. He simply talked about the pressure that he felt as a male to live up to certain expectations.

Now feminists will insist that de-stigmatising female armpit hair will magically make men feel better about shaving their pit-hair. They are wrong. They are simply making an excuse to prioritise female issues while justifying their discrimination by saying that the second-hand benefits will solve the mens issues too. Those sort of excuses are disgustingly manipulative. 

I absolutely abhor the fact that many feminists will blame certain male behaviour on a “deep-rooted hatred” of all things feminine as the underlying cause of their issues. For example:
- Men don’t wear dresses, because they hate feminine traits.
- Men don’t shave, because they hate feminine traits.
- Men don’t wear the colour pink, because they hate feminine traits.
- Men don’t sew, because they hate feminine traits.

Could we then insist that females do not shave their pits because of a deep-rooted hatred of men? For example: 
- Females aren’t hairy, because they hate masculine traits.
- Females aren’t dirty and unkept, because they hate masculine traits.
- Females aren’t bulky at the gym, because they hate masculine traits

Of course not, because as soon as you apply that exact same logic to women, it is suddenly invalid. As soon as you suggest that women shave their armpits because armpit hair is masculine and they do not want to look like manly men, feminists will go into defense mode and talk about the patriarchy and being oppressed. It is a double standard that they use, again, to promote and prioritise their own struggles, while ignoring the alternative struggles that men face. 

Does it ever occur to anyone that sometimes, men don’t like the gendered stereotypes society has placed on them either. Or are we going to continue to presume that only women are affect by armpit hair related stereotypes?

- fraudulentfeminist