#motivation

happy easter everybody! do/did you celebrate?

week 16 in my bujo!

again v late but here is my april monthly spread love the baby pink / baby blue color combo

a bit late but here is week 13

week 12 spring is finally here but so is my allergy

recently started a plant journal / directory to keep up with the special needs of my indoor plants so they can be their best plant self book: @houseofplants

week 11 in my bujo ✨ gudetama is mood use the code STELLASTUDIES for 10% off items at @missrosieshop

simple weekly spread for week 10 this week i also included a page for weekly spendings to motivate me save more lol also thanks @_11min for the cute stickers ❤️

peachy march spread a new semester starts tomorrow and it will hopefully be the last semester of my bachelors use the code STELLASTUDIES for 10% off items at missrosieshop.com

Arrogance is the belief that we’re better…humility visits us when we realise that we’re not.

The root of arrogance is insecurity, but that’s a discussion for another day.

If we’re sincere about wanting to benefit others or wanting to create good for those around us, when we get it wrong and we’re corrected, we’ll appreciate it.

In such cases, we’ll eat gratitude pie, not humble pie, right?

So, when it feels like we’ve been made to eat humble pie, we need to consider what our intention was behind what we did before we got things wrong.

On the surface, our intentions always appear noble.

But it’s that appearance of nobility that distracts is from sincerity.

When connecting with or checking your intention, be sure to dig deeper than what you experienced in that moment.

It’s only when we connect with our intention, our true intention, that we’ll be able to recognise how others are not deliberately malicious or selfish in their actions.

Instead, it will allow us to connect with empathy to the emotional needs that they have.

That’s how we break cycles of unhealthy behaviours.

Perhaps if we eat more humble pie we’ll discover gratitude?

#selfworth #selfawareness #ownyourlife #selfmastery #mindfulness #personalpower #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #theegosystem #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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Sometimes, we’re so focused on reacting to the disrespect that we receive from others that we don’t realise how we give up our self-respect in the process.

If we continue in reaction mode for long enough, we’ll find ourselves not only returning the favour by treating them the way that they treat us, but we’ll also find ourselves blaming them for our response.

That’s when we go beyond losing our self-respect and we begin losing ourselves completely.

Strangely though, we’re unlikely to do this with everyone.

We’ll often encounter total strangers or mere acquaintances who will treat us badly, but we’ll ignore them and continue focusing on what is important to us.

Therefore, the answer lies in how much significance we place in those relationships to which we lose ourselves.

The more significant that we want to be in their lives, the more we’ll convince ourselves about their significance in ours. That’s how we become emotionally invested in being treated with respect by them.

The less respect we receive, the more intense our emotional experience, resulting in us fighting fire with fire. In other words, giving them a taste of their own medicine.

That’s when respect becomes optional. When we convince ourselves that treating others the way that they treat us is in fact justice, when the truth is that it is returning their bitterness with our bitterness towards them.

That’s how we give up the good of who we are.

The greatest tragedy in all of this is that when we lose ourselves, we also lose sight of the struggles, or the low self-esteem that they’re experiencing which causes them to treat us badly.

Instead of breaking that cycle, we feed it, and in the process, harm ourselves as much as we believed they were harming us.

When respect becomes optional based on how we’re treated by others, we give them the power to define how we feel about ourselves.

To whom are you giving your power today?

#selfworth #selfawareness #ownyourlife #selfmastery #mindfulness #personalpower #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #theegosystem #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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I’ve often advised someone about something that I truly believed them to be capable of achieving, and the response I received was, “Not everyone is like you!”

Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”

Sadly, too many think that they can’t, and then blame the world for the state in which they find themselves.

But why would someone willingly put themselves down, or sell themselves short?

Did I hear you say fear of failure? No. That’s what we see, and often what they feel on the surface.

Dig a little deeper and you’ll realise that failure is such a threat because it threatens to reduce our significance among those who are important to us.

It’s the threat of insignificance through being incompetent or unsuccessful that fills us with the fear of failure.

But, we must always remember that fear is only the response to what we’re assuming is the probable outcome of our efforts.

In other words, when we’re convinced that we won’t be able to accomplish something, or we have doubts about achieving it, the assumptions that we’ve made is what we’re focused on. Hence the feeling of dread or fear when we contemplate the future outcome.

Hence the fear of failure.

The important question to consider is therefore not if we’re capable of achieving that goal, but rather why is our feeling of significance as a person defined by our level of success?

And before you say it’s because people judge you as a failure if you don’t accomplish things the way you’re expected to, the next question you should be asking is why does the judgement of others define your self-worth more than your opinion of yourself?

People’s opinions will only weigh you down if you give them permission to do so.

Talking about permission, when was the last time you gave yourself permission to learn from your failures instead of judging yourself for failing?

#optimisticquotes #mentalhealth #selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #ownyourlife #theegosystem #embracingME #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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The logic of this is quite obvious, yet we do it, don’t we?

Sometimes we find it difficult to apologise because we’re afraid that others will think less of us. It feels like a weakness. So we protect ourselves from appearing weak.

At other times, we find it difficult to apologise because we feel unappreciated. So our offensive behaviour was our way of getting justice for having been treated badly or taken for granted.

The same reasons that would drive our resistance to admitting fault is what drives others to avoid doing right by us.

Problems arise when we lose sight of why we expect that much more from them, or worse, why we may be holding them to a standard that is unfair to who they are.

Sometimes we grow tired of being taken for granted at home, so we lash out at hints of being taken for granted at work. And vice versa.

Similarly, when our parents may have treated us as insignificant, we end up lashing out at our partners because we fear growing insignificant with them as well.

That’s how we do the right thing for the wrong reasons. Or why we find it difficult to do the right thing when we know better.

We complicate life when we lose sight of what we’re dealing with in the moment because we don’t realise that we’re waiting for justice about something that is long gone and forgotten, or unrelated to who we’re with now. .

Invest in your past, or invest in your present. The choice you make is what determines what you’re investing in your future.

Emotional mindfulness is key to creating a fulfilled life.

#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #theegosystem #ownyourlife #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism #purpose (at The Egosystem)
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The irony of helping others out of the dark spaces in their lives is that when they emerge, they’re often inclined to avoid you because you remind them of a time when they were weak.

When we believe that such weakness is deplorable, we remain weak.

When we view ourselves through the lens of weak versus strong, good versus bad, and so on, we are judging ourselves and others, rather than trying to understand what got us into such states.

There is a time and a place for judgement. But that time and place is only when we need to stop an oppression from taking place.

Beyond that moment, we must focus on understanding the human struggle behind that behaviour, or else we diminish the struggle of the one who behaved badly, giving them ever more reason to continue behaving badly. Or worse.

Gratitude for our moments of weakness is not possible if we still carry a sense of shame about our weakened state.

It’s one thing to regret what we did and to put in the effort to make up for it. But it’s not the same as carrying shame within us that we need to hide from the world.

That need to hide our shame from the world is how we judge ourselves harshly and then look for evidence of others judging us.

That’s often the reason for our defensiveness or aggression in response to any mention of what we once did wrong.

When you find yourself judging yourself or others harshly, it means that you have yet to appreciate the reasons for your weakness or have yet to connect with your humanness.

You’ll only allow others to be human when you believe that you’re allowed to be human.

Right there is the path to peace in your life.

#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #theegosystem #ownyourlife #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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״If you try to jump high,
don’t tie your leg to a peg”
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״המנסה גבוה לקפוץ
לא יקשור רגלו ליתד״
.
#Arielism
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#motivation #mesada #אלףמולאלף #מתדה #מוטיבציה #משפטימוטיבציה #thedeadsea

(at פסגת מצדה)
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What a difference a year makes! Fantastic inspirational fitness transformation page: @the.healthy.diary ✨ #fitnesschick #fitnessaddict #fitnessfreaks #fitnessgoal #fitnesslover #fitnessworld #fitspo #transformsation #dedication #motivation #motivate #influencer #fitnessinfluencer #influencers #australia #aus #oz #model #mom #nurse #fitspiration (at Hyde Park, Queensland, Australia)

Big shout going out to one of our favourite #fitness influencers this morning @charlayne_intl getting ready to compete in London this weekend #fitness #fit #fitspo #fitspiration #fitsporation #fitpro #bikiniathlete #bikinimodel #motivation #influencer #influencers (at ExCeL London)

Might as well do the shit you already know you need to do.