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A wake up call God has a way of sending messages it’s no coincidence i promise it is TRUTH I literally logged into ig and saw these post simultaneously pop up I hear you God I cannot let satan and his demons keep corrupting and tormenting my mind and convert me back to the girl I was before I’m only human though I make mistakes and felt like I coulda lost my soul last night at the rate my mind was going it ain’t funny but still #itsgonnabeadailyfight
By Sasha Tozzi
How do you cheat life? You focus on what you don’t have, instead of what you can give.
We’re hard-wired, even before birth, to create something bigger than who we are.
We need to be part of something that gives us a sense of belonging or significance.
Anything that will convince us that our existence is not inconsequential inspires us to invest our time and energy in its pursuit.
Time and energy is simply life.
Both are limited in supply, but so abundant, that we take it for granted until it is taken away without notice, by which time it’s too late to appreciate it.
Living with conviction and loving with sincerity is only possible when we have gratitude for who we are and what we are capable of creating in the lives of those around us.
Sadly, too often we hide behind masks and facades to protect ourselves from being hurt. That’s how we create the self-fulfilling prophecies that hurt us the most.
When we interact with those close to us from behind our masks, we not only deny them the true beauty of who we are, we also deny ourselves the beauty of their responses to the side of us that they otherwise would not have experienced.
In the same way, we deny ourselves the side of them that we believe to be true, but that they don’t feel safe enough to reveal to us.
And all this life is wasted out of fear of being true to ourselves because we fear being rejected or ridiculed.
In other words, we have yet to accept ourselves, but we hold others accountable for accepting us first.
That’s how conviction is abandoned, and love is lost.
#authenticity #conviction #selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #ownyourshit #ownyourlife #theegosystem #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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If you find yourself among people who constantly demand that you give without receiving, or love without expressing affection in return, guard your soul.
As much as we wish to fill the cups of others with goodness in this world, we must not deplete our own in the process.
By indulging such selfishness from others, you enable and encourage them to continue denying themselves the same peace that is elusive to you.
When we focus on how the bad behaviour of others is harming themselves, rather than only focusing on how it harms us, we take a huge step closer to breaking the cycle of harm instead of just challenging the behaviour.
The same way in which we’d love for someone to correct us when we don’t realise that we’re wrong because we don’t want to deliberately harm others, we must consider that someone behaving badly may not realise the impact of their actions.
But, unless we’re connected with true gratitude about who we are, we’ll feel attacked long before we try to understand the struggle of others.
Focus on building yourself up, so that you may be able to build up those around you.
If everyone is going to wait for everyone else to make the first gesture, we’ll all sit back believing we’re victims of each other, while not realising that we’re victims of our own self-worth.
#selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #theegosystem #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #ownyourshit #ownyourlife #abusiverelationships #badmarriage #selfishlove #lifecoaching #zaidismail (at The Egosystem)
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What we believe is true about ourselves is what we are capable of offering to others.
Nothing more.
Nothing less.
You cannot give what you don’t have.
The day you realise this is the day you’ll see the fears and weaknesses that drives others to behave badly towards you.
It was never about you.
It’s always about reflecting who they are.
If you lack self respect, it will be difficult to respect others.
If you don’t appreciate what you have, you won’t express gratitude towards others.
If you are dishonest with yourself about who you truly are, you’ll struggle to trust the sincerity of others.
And so it continues.
The way we see ourselves is what informs our behaviour and interactions with the world.
The more threatened we feel, the more aggressive we will be.
The next time you see someone behaving badly, don’t judge them harshly, understand what they’re saying about how they value themselves, or how valued they feel by you.
Then, respond to their underlying vulnerability in a reassuring way, rather than always reacting to their bad behaviour.
Break the cycle.
#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #ownyourshit #ownyourlife #theegosystem #integrity #introspection #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery (at The Egosystem)
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Failure only threatens is if we feel defined by the outcome of our efforts in trying to achieve our goals.
Sometimes those goals are small things that influence the daily quality of our lives, and sometimes it’s big things that shape our future.
The source of fearing failure is in our need to be respected by those around us.
The only time we will be disrespected or diminished when we fail at something is when we surround ourselves with those who themselves are defined by how others see them.
In such environments, mediocrity and tradition will be sacred. Playing it safe will be considered responsible. And being risk averse will be considered maturity.
If the life that you seek is one without failure, without change, and without discovering who you truly are, then such environments are perfect for you.
But, as humans, we are restless in spirit, and adventurous in nature. We are driven by knowing that we left our mark and we improved the state of the world in the short time that we were here.
Mediocrity, conformance, and restraint therefore goes against our nature.
When we fight our nature from fear of exclusion or rejection, it’s only a matter of time before our health suffers, and our spirits will be dulled.
That’s how dreams are lost and hope is abandoned.
You owe it to yourself, and the next generation, to be true to the value that you are capable of creating in this world beyond just maintaining the status quo.
Live inspired.
#hope #expectation #sincerity #selfworth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #motivation #optimism #ownyourshit #ownyourlife #theegosystem #lifecoaching #zaidismail #lifegoals (at The Egosystem)
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The next time you find yourself having a disagreement with someone, consider if the way in which you conduct yourself is to demand that they show you due respect or consideration, or are you trying to establish understanding.
When we feel taken for granted or invisible in something that is important to us, we’re more likely to become defensive, aggressive, or passive aggressive in our efforts to get our point across.
If we’re not aware of our need for significance, we will go in search of significance in almost every setting.
This is how we end up yelling at cashiers, losing ourselves to road rage, and being argumentative with co-workers, as just a few examples.
Understanding why we feel insignificant is the first step towards breaking that cycle.
Understanding why those who are significant to us are not treating us with the significance that we need is the second step.
And the third step towards breaking this cycle of rage or bitterness at the world is to understand why we need such validation to feel significant before treating others in a way that is true to who we are, rather than being driven by the anger or disappointment that we feel.
Emotional mindfulness is core to the above, and having a healthy self-worth is what makes it possible to pace ourselves in our efforts towards creating the understanding and establishing the bonds that we believe will improve the quality of our relationships.
It always starts with you.
If you need help to understand what drives you to be less than who you want to be, reach out via my website at zaidismail.com or on WhatsApp at +27836599183, and let’s get the conversation started.
#selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #theegosystem #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #ownyourshit #ownyourlife #compassion #sincerity #authenticity #lifecoaching #zaidismail (at The Egosystem)
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I’ve often advised someone about something that I truly believed them to be capable of achieving, and the response I received was, “Not everyone is like you!”
Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”
Sadly, too many think that they can’t, and then blame the world for the state in which they find themselves.
But why would someone willingly put themselves down, or sell themselves short?
Did I hear you say fear of failure? No. That’s what we see, and often what they feel on the surface.
Dig a little deeper and you’ll realise that failure is such a threat because it threatens to reduce our significance among those who are important to us.
It’s the threat of insignificance through being incompetent or unsuccessful that fills us with the fear of failure.
But, we must always remember that fear is only the response to what we’re assuming is the probable outcome of our efforts.
In other words, when we’re convinced that we won’t be able to accomplish something, or we have doubts about achieving it, the assumptions that we’ve made is what we’re focused on. Hence the feeling of dread or fear when we contemplate the future outcome.
Hence the fear of failure.
The important question to consider is therefore not if we’re capable of achieving that goal, but rather why is our feeling of significance as a person defined by our level of success?
And before you say it’s because people judge you as a failure if you don’t accomplish things the way you’re expected to, the next question you should be asking is why does the judgement of others define your self-worth more than your opinion of yourself?
People’s opinions will only weigh you down if you give them permission to do so.
Talking about permission, when was the last time you gave yourself permission to learn from your failures instead of judging yourself for failing?
#optimisticquotes #mentalhealth #selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #ownyourlife #theegosystem #embracingME #lifecoaching #zaidismail #loveyourself #lifegoals #motivation #optimism (at The Egosystem)
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Godliness, like humility, is lost the moment we lay claim to it.
It is something that we may exhibit in our conduct or demeanour, but not something that we can directly claim.
It is our ability to manifest the attributes of the divine in our character and in our treatment of others without wanting to appear pious or godly in our approach.
The need to claim such attributes of godliness reflects the insecurity that we feel about our standing among those around us.
The moment we’re focused on how we appear to others, we begin to lose ourselves to their validation.
Similarly, the moment we claim godliness, we lose ourselves to arrogance.
And arrogance is only required to compensate for our insecurities. It is a mask to hide our shame, or to claim our needs because we believe that we’re not significant enough for others to want to care about what we need from them.
That’s why we take, instead of waiting to be offered. Or why we insult or demean rather than advising sincerely.
It’s all a means towards demanding that our virtues be acknowledged because we feel unappreciated by those we care about the most.
If you don’t appreciate who you are, in the absence of validation from others, how can you expect others to appreciate you?
Gratitude begets sincerity, and sincerity fosters brotherhood. Or sisterhood. And claiming divinity or godliness has no place at all.
#compassion #sincerity #authenticity #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthrecovery #selfworth #selflove #selfawareness #selfrespect #mindfulness #inspiration #ownyourlife #theegosystem #forgiveness #rewards #lifecoaching #zaidismail (at The Egosystem)
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Welcome to our new member ❤️ #Repost @bebelle.beyou ・・・
Water + Sun = My Happy! What makes you happy no matter what? #BeBelle #beyou #selflove #selfconfidence #selfrespect #women #girls #happiness #happygirls #enjoylife #smile
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I recently shut the door on my past. This meant saying goodbye to the majority of the relationships in my life that existed in the imbalanced pattern I had been taught to implement in my life as a kid: over-give and under-receive. Letting go of this gigantic burden has left me in between chapters of my life. One chapter has closed and the page is turning for the new chapter to begin. I’ve needed to give a lot of gentleness to myself as the external chaos of my life has forced me to take the steps toward creating inner peace. That way whatever is going on around me yields less power over my sense of security moving forward. I’m the one who lives inside of this body, mind and soul and that person deserves my love, focus and compassion the most. Lately I’ve been looking my reflection in the mirror and asking:
“how can I love you more today?”
“How do you feel?”
“It’s okay to few that way.”
“I’m here for you, Brittney.”
Along with implementing daily meditation back into my life I’m finding the answers to that which has been disrupting my peace. All by giving myself permission to finally solely focus on me. After spending 30 years of focusing on over-giving to relationships I felt responsibility for maintaining, the Universe has taken that responsibility from my shoulders and granted me this liberation and freedom. Now is time for me. ❤️
#bodylovebritt #travelstyleglitter #selflove #selfcare #selfempowerment #empowerment #selfconfidence #confidence #freedom #liberation #patience #love #uncondtionallove #selfrespect #god #ascension #spirituality #twinflames #soulmates #truth #honor #plussize #plussizefashion #plussizemodel #bodypositive #bodycare #bodylove #journey #tucson #arizona (at Arizona)
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The way I have envisioned self-love in the past has been very different than the reality I’ve been guided to open up to over the past year. I’m realizing that it’s not compassionate for me to push myself to try to create something with others when that effort is not reciprocal. I realized it is compassionate to allow love to be a separate category that is not synonymous with relationships that feel burdensome or obligatory. I’m learning that self-love means allowing myself to create a life with surroundings that supports who I am, what I believe, and what I desire. I’ve learned that self-love means closing the door firmly on the past and the energies that are too resistant to move forward. New doors will open in the future for those energies that are not ready or willing to go through transformation right now- should they decide to shift into a higher version of themselves later on that is aligned with my truths. Self-love also means releasing responsibility or control to try to figure out a way to carry energies with me that are not holding themselves up. I used to think shutting doors was cold. Now I see that it’s the only way to move forward from that which is holding me back. Because self-love means being very honest with myself about what it is that is holding me back- and being willing to release it with love.☀️✨#movingforward #movingon #gettingclosure #transformation #roadtrip #selflove #unconditionallove #peace #unity respect #selfrespect #divinetiming #divinity #femininity #divinefeminine #union #hearts #bemine #infinity #happiness #joy #sunshine #plussize #plussizemodel #plussizefashion #bodypositivity #bodypositive #travelstyleglitter #bodylovebritt #justice (at Tucson, Arizona)
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Today at Pride 2019 ️ I’m grateful to have the freedom to express myself in all of the colors that come forward. I am continuing to learn how to strive for the sun and leave behind the shadow. I’ll keep moving forward and I pray the same for you, too.
Thank you for the photo, @bello_dentro_e_fuori
Ps. I have a new style Sunday YouTube video out today, have you seen it? link in my bio! #bodylovebritt #lgbt #lgbtq #pride #bisexual #sexuality #sensuality #bodypositive #bodypositivity #plussizefashion #plussize #plussizestyle #plussizemodel #plussizeblogger #spirituality #unicorn #ravegirls #plur #plurlife #fashionblogger #travelblogger #happiness #joy #unconditionallove #trusttheprocess #bodyconfidence #bodylove #selflove #selfworth #selfrespect
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Always remember that if someone calls you ugly, stupid, annoying or any other condescending/negative words, it only reveals their ugly character and has nothing to do with you. I know words can cut deep and leave scars, but I hope it helps you heal when you think about that whatever has been said to you is not a reflection of you, but of the other person. You are truly beautiful, radiant and so, so needed on this world. Everything about you is perfect the way it is. *sending hugs*
You’re not lazy, you simply need to rest. You’re not stupid, you simply have gaps in your knowledge that can be filled. You’re not ugly, you simply have a wrong perception of your reflection. You’re not naive, you simply believe in the good in people and in the world. You’re not unlovable, you simply haven’t recognised your own worth yet. All of these negative thoughts you may have in fact disguise a positive truth - a truth that you have to learn to believe. You, my love, are simply wonderful the way you are.
Stepping into Cancer season with all the body positivity and giving no effs feels!
What’s one thing you are doing to let go of someone else having control over your body?
Love this message from @jk_artium
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“Step away from the mean girls and say bye-bye to feeling bad about your looks. Are you ready to stop colluding with a culture that makes so many of us feel physically inadequate? Say goodbye to your inner critic, and take this pledge to be kinder to yourself and others.“ — Oprah
Today is the last day of May, are you ready to welcome June full of body positivity?
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