#self understanding
The right way to be introspective (yes, there’s a wrong way)
“So when it comes to developing internal self-awareness, I like to use a simple tool that I call What Not Why. Why questions can draw us to our limitations; what questions help us see our potential. Why questions stir up negative emotions; what questions keep us curious. Why questions trap us in our past; what questions help us create a better future. In addition to helping us gain insight, asking what instead of why can be used to help us better understand and manage our emotions.”
The society’s idea of success and productivity is fundermentally fucked up. You are stuck at home for weeks, yet you are supposed to achieve something, create something, follow free courses and get certificates.
But not everyone can do it. Not everyone can stick to a strict schedule and achieve something all the while being stuck at home.
I binge ate, binge watched movies, binge read books, binge texted, flirted around.. did everything that is supposedly unproductive.
Do you know where this lead to?
I discovered more and more about myself. I realized, I do not like or enjoy watching movies and I only do it because everyone else do it. I realized I do not like texting much even though I text a lot. I understood that I value face to face conversations rather than behind the screen interactions.
I realized I like flirting a bit even though it is not socially accepted.
I discovered what I really need in a partner and what trait I find essential for attraction in a person.
I realized, I have more self confidence than I had an year ago.
I discovered how much I enjoy writing, not just anything but my experiences.
I discovered that I feel drained working according to a schedule and I figured out it is alright to work in random bouts of energy.
I realized it is alright not to work in a strict schedule as long as I get things done. After all not everyone is the same.
I discovered that I work more productively closeby to a deadline, and to induce my productivity I should assign me a deadline.
I also realized that I do not have to finish a book I don’t like.
I realized it is alright to do whatever the fuck I want to do.
Just do whatever you want to do. Don’t let the society’s idea of productivity and success fool you. All that matters is how much you learned about yourself when this ends.
“Don’t be afraid to make yourself a priority.”— (via motivated-mindset)
