The Ambitious Sugar Babe

So what happens when you’re getting a steady allowance and you want to take your sugar money to try and advance yourself in life? Society hates SWers and women who use their body, looks, personality to make money so be prepared for that. I’m in the process of trying to purchase property and have hit some roadblocks with my lender.

Finding out that my whore moneyisn’t good enough to get me approved for a mortgage Now I have to push back my timeline for buying a home while I “make legit money” is probably one of the most frustrating things to happen to me lately. I’m just fortunate enough to have parents that support me and will help legitimize my money. Do y’all want me to document this homebuying process? I feel like this may be a common problem SBs and other SWers may face when trying to get loans, mortgages, etc.

The allowance and/or camming money can be saved and used for down payments but you’ll still need a “legit” job with a steady paycheck coming in every month to get a bank approval. After talking with my lender, I learned that even having a steady income from camming isn’t good enough to get a mortgage approval unless you’ve been doing it for a year and even still it’s considered freelance money so lenders are less likely to feel comfortable approving you for a loan So my suggestion is have a “normal” job in addition to SW money always.

• If it’s hourly you’ll need to have the job for 1 year.
• If it’s salaried then at least 6 months.

I used to have a legit job with a boss I hated but when covid hit I took the opportunity to leave and channel my inner whore to make money at my leisure which was so great and easy for me to balance school with.

It’s so frustrating that in 2021 women can’t do what the fuck they want or have to explain why they’re doing what they want with their own life and body. The upside to all this is that I’ll have a lot more money saved for a bigger down payment and better mortgage loan rates when it comes time to fill the application. Trying to stay the course and keep positive while the Universe works her magick in my life.

Heaux power always ✨

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I’m honestly out here living my best life and taking niggas for everything they have…❗️

' if I gave af about a nigga that ain’t givingmefundsandbonds… I wanna Amex not a headache.

A narcissistic abuse tip that helped me in life and in sugaring

If you’ve ever been in a narcissistic relationship it is one of the most emotionally distressing relationships you will ever be in. Trauma eliciting.

One of the main things narcissists will do is try to find out early what you like and dislike. This is how they get you. They alter themselves to be your perfect match then rip you apart later on.

So if any guy asks you what you like or dislike, what your perfect match is DO NOT TELL HIM. Give a vague answer.

“Depends on the person, what I like in one may not be what I like in an other”

“Why don’t you be yourself and I’ll tell you if I like you”

Let them weed themselves out. Works every time

Get their number

I recently saw a post about someone asking if Snapchat was a reliable source of communication. To those who are married, I get it. But how the HELL can you verify a Snapchat account? What if this SD is a rapist or a time waster?!

The amount of times a real number has SAVED me from meeting up with potential guys who are scammers, time wasters and abusers…. Geez. If they made an app similar to the one I use but also was able to look up screen names for Snapchat, I’d be all for it.

Young SD?

I’m not going to hold my breath but I found a younger SD who ACTUALLY believes in allowances.

Recently I’ve decided to give the young guys a chance. My mistake. I always hear the same exact bullshit.

“I don’t need to be on here…. I’m an attractive guy… I don’t need to pay for sex” cry me a river then and go on Hinge.

Don’t sign up for an SD site and not expect to pay for it. Lol JUST SAYING.

Makes a decent living but we’ll see what his expectations are

P.s. Anyone in their 20, 30 and early 40s is what I consider young

What a clusterfuck of dates

The WORST part of being an SB for a living is finding someone new. The countless amount of dates you go on. Most of them can’t afford you, so you went to dinner to get fed and get through a date.

Spring training is very active where I am and yes, I could make a shitload of money off these guys wanting short term arrangements. But it’s a short term arrangement that got me raped so….. I’m scarred. Not to mention, I’m an STD freak. One night is not worth a week or two of antibiotics and a fishy pussy. Yes, condoms are a thing but I’ve been burned in the past and I wore protection.

Either way, I look for long term. I have had THE WORST luck lately. Cannot find what I’m looking for. Even if the allowance is right, the man was not.

I haven’t written so many reports on the screening app we use in a long time. Damn.

You do eventually get sick and tired of this lifestyle

There are many highs… but there are many lows.

Today is one of my lows. Where I want to cry. Where I’m sick of relying on someone else to keep my head above water or waiting for a man to buy me something expensive.

Once you get into this lifestyle, it’s SO HARD to get out. It’s like a drug. Seriously.

I was out with some girls where being an SB came up. I will forever tell anyone who asks or inquires about being an SB to NEVER DO IT.

I do wish I never got into this lifestyle. No one told me the long term damage this lifestyle has on you. I don’t think anyone knew in the time of Tumblr OG lol.

Every time I want to get out, use the money to invest in other things, my SD falls through lol it’s so annoying.

Being an SB has given me such a good lifestyle and memories but it’s tiring… I want to date whoever, pay for my own shit without worry.

Sorry for the rant… Tumblr has always been my SB diary… the good and the bad.

I really want a podcast talking about all this shit… OMG

Never be desperate to sugar

I have one of three (now two SDs) because tonight one of them just hasn’t been definitive lately. I asked when I was going to see him and it was never a straight answer.

Tonight he asked me what I’m up to. I say nothing much. He asked when I’m going to see him.

I was kind of annoyed by this question because I had told him before to let me know when his schedule was free. Then he goes, “you sound salty”

*narrows eyes*

It’s 830 at night and he has the audacity to go, “I’m free if you want to see me”

I debate because the ppm is 800 which isn’t bad but something in my guy just doesn’t feel right about this.

So I tell him that basically and block him.

Meanwhile my 8k whale always asks at the end of the date when he’s going to see me.

Looking into equipment

I have so much to say I think a podcast would be great! Hopefully soon, stay tuned

There are men who have everything and won’t give you shit

Learn to recognize these men and RUN.

I’ve encountered these men a few times throughout my years of sugaring. It sucks.

One has kind of come back (or is trying) to come back. We met on SA but I soon came to find out, he just wanted a companion to wipe his tears to get over his last gf.

He got me into a really cool sport, but I had to keep telling him that I can’t spend these weekends with him if he doesn’t help me. I stayed way longer than I should.

We talked about the past and I brought this up to him. To which he replied, “I would have gotten you anything you sent me a link to…. I did get you things” (yeah some yoga pants and some boots… big whoop)

I asked if he wanted to hang out again to which he said yes since things have changed, the ex is gone etc.

SO I’m going to test the waters.

I sent him a link to a Dyson Airwrap. I sent that link 3 hours ago. Hasn’t replied. Thus, once again, he’s just full of shit.

Sometimes I can’t stop

I can be a horrible glutton for punishment sometimes. Sometimes what I have is never enough, especially when it comes to rich men.

I have my 8k allowance guy, and two other ones which equates to another 5k.

Well, an old relationship came back… who I met on the site but he never gave me anything but he did get me into an awesome sport. Well, I found out that he’s secretly a bitcoin billionaire and makes a TON of residuals from his software.

ON TOP OF THAT, I managed to flirt with Showoff SD… because I saw the private jet on his way to Mexico.. and caught his attention again…. <- I’m regretting that decision. But I just like knowing I can snag him over all his Barbie blonde girls lol it’s a conquest.

Honestly I think the inflation, war and everything becoming so expensive is freaking me out and I’m looking for any kind of financial security if shit hits the fan.

“I’m too sober for this”

Although I don’t recommend drinking while you’re with your SD, sometimes it helps when you need it most. I really enjoy my new whale, I love to talk to him and joke.

Intimacy? Eh. He looks great for his later 50s but his arms have that thin, crapy old man skin…. which kind of grosses me out. He doesn’t drink at all but doesn’t mind if I do. However, my best friend is sober and has been for 15+ years. Thus, I don’t tend to drink a lot around him. Unfortunately that same mindset kind of hit while I was with my new SD.

As we were getting hot and heavy, I realized, “Shit, I should have drank more.”

It’s even worse because this was our first time together as well and first time sex is never that good. You get to see what weird movements and quirks your SD has that probably made him a single man in the first place.

Ever had a guy move his hips in circles while he was inside you? Where in the Sam hell did you learn such a tactic? What are you trying to do? Butter up my sweet walls with that knife? Sheesh.

So either way, doesn’t last long (thank the heavens) but then mr. genius goes, “You know how we were talking about fantasies?”

…………

…..Yeah. Thinking, okay hopefully it’s like a costume play.

“I have this rape fantasy…” and then he goes on to tell me about one of his favorite porns that he thinks he funny where it’s rape of course and threatens this girl out naked of the house…..

Geeze….. out of ALL the fantasies a guy can have….. it had to be this one.

Doing some research, these fantasies are actually REALLY common amongst individuals.

In personal experience, the more wealthy…the weirder.

Snagged my Whale

He adores me. Hoping to invest this money HARD CORE into my life so I can finally exit. I’m ready to be a multimillionaire who travels the world at my free will. No men, just me.

Update on the Showoff Whale

I couldn’t snag him. I wish.

He’s addicted to drama and super Barbie blondes. Well, that’s just the opposite of me. I’m also sweet, kind and I communicate very effectively. Maybe I texted too much. ‍♀️

We had a fun few weeks, he invited me to Cabo with his two girls who just adored me. I honestly thought I had him. I satisfied all his needs, physically everything was great. I even made him nervous and self conscious. Lol

So, him spending a weekend with his ex doesn’t surprise me. He’s used to her, maybe isn’t intimidating for him, who knows.

If you give a guy everything he could ask for and he still leaves? Honey, it’s not you, I promise. Some guys just struggle internally. Sometimes your standards make them have to work to be a better man and they don’t want to abs it happens.

BUT one man’s she’s too good for me, isn’t another man’s “she’s everything I’m looking for”

Which totally happened later. Went on a date, we had an AMAZING time, he offered 8k a month. Uh, yes please. So… bye Mr. Showoff! Hello to my new whale and sponsor.

This DOSEN’T EXIST

Do you know how many of us, especially, especially men who are FED UP with these TikTok girls spewing this bullshit?

“I make 5-10k a month without sleeping with my sugar daddy…..:buy my course all I’ll show you how”

Oh. My. God.

Now in RARE instances have I actually seen this happen with someone I used to follow. She’s deactivated but still.

It doesn’t exist. I don’t know how much I have to preach this. They make money off your views and stupid courses that aren’t even real.

You might get short term, sure. But the long term, the real 5 figure monthly allowances COMES WITH SEX. Sorry dear.

I’m here, I promise

I miss tumblr days, unfortunately I scroll Reddit posts now. Some subreddits are good. Some are just horrid about SW and the bowl.

Life had been peachy. I’m about to get a WHALE of a daddy but he’s very public about his lifestyle and who he dates. Fine BUT the second I get posted, I know some fire is going to come about. With his exes… or mine.. I REALLY HOPE NOT.

I like the private guys. The secretly wealthy. Lol

However, the rewards are huge…. Worth the risk? Probably. I’ll let you guys know.

This is what happens when you stop paying when you go on a date

I saw this post on TikTok about a guy commented that a guy should always pay for the first date but a girl should expect to pay half…. And then I saw a comment “I’ll happily pay for the whole bill or half! It’s called respect”

I’m sorry, what? I felt so sorry for this girl because someone conditioned her that she, as a woman, should have to provide like a man should. HELL NO. It’s not called respect, it’s called a guy can play you because he doesn’t have to invest in you.

Honey, level up. I get spoiled by my new sponsor with a big allowance and gifts like this.

Girl… go to bed like the successful heaux that you are. That you don’t have a fuck boy, but a wealthy sponsor who deposits money in your account every week, buys you designer because he wants to, flys you first class, if he has work, he sends you out to do your favorite things then takes you out to exclusive dinners and constantly compliments everything everyone else over looked. You live peacefully, you have it made..

This is my life lately.

Do NOT work under your SD

On Reddit I saw many posts, including my own that asked if you could work under your SD.

Majority ruled a hard NO. Now I know why.

This SD has been my hardest because he is so different from me culturally. I love me some small Asian penis, however I realized I prefer a more Americanized one. He’s very authentic to his culture still. Totally okay I’m just not used to it.

He’s trying to put me in a position within his company that suits me both however, work me and personal me are two DIFFERENT people. Work me is overly gracious, kind, work for hours on end to get the job done etc. Personal me, is a sarcastic asshole with a bitchy attitude if you piss me off. Otherwise I’m still kind and funny.

My personality works differently though, I’m a chameleon. It changes with the environment and who I’m with. My SD is very stone walled, poker face, monotone… I’m surprised when I get a laugh. So naturally I’m more quiet and well, if he pisses me off, he gets the bitch… hangry. Lol

The point I’m trying to make here is that it’s hard to differentiate the working relationship and the personal relationship… even though I’ve had a conversation with him about it, he doesn’t understand…

Trying to dot my I’s and cross my T’s and keep my mouth shut…

The valet knows you’re a working girl

Last night I ended up going to a ritzy hotel in my area because a friend of mine was playing for a private party until 9. Desperate to socialize with him, I decided to go to the outside bar and wait. There’s a conference full of men also outside with another band.

I was a little reluctant because I’m the only 20 something , pretty girl, sitting alone at a bar. After about 20 minutes I could see this group of guys eyeing me. I knew they were making bets to try and talking to me. After another 20 minutes, liquid courage hits and one of them does.

The group of guys were from NY/Jersey celebrating the birthday of the guy who came up to me. Boy, we’re they in for it with me. Lol Little did they know I can speak their accent better than they can and give them shit like a man. They were all in their 40s and early 50s and all married…. Of course. Remember when I told you cheating was the norm here? If your man travels to my city… beware.

Regardless the drinks and conversation were flowing but one of them was convinced I was free-styling. I laughed because obviously he’s not completely wrong but denied all night because I was there truly for my friend, not them.

The night ends, my friend saves me and we get talking to the valet. I tip really well and tell him the laughs of the evening. This guy tells me stories of him knowing the working girls who frequent; they’ll go as far as parking your car up front so you can get away easily and how guys will call down after their watch is stolen

Moral of the story : Tip anyone well enough and you can get away with anything