#yes means yes

feminist-space:

Just because the body responds automatically does not mean the impulse was ever wanted, invited, or condoned.

This is also often used as an argument to dismiss male survivors’ claims, that they responded physically therefore they consented. This is absolute bullshit.

Remember. Arousal does not mean consent.

skytheservicedog:

servicek9s:

1. ASK THE HANDLER

2. IF SAY NO THEN WALK AWAY 

3. IF SAY YES LET DOG SNIFF

4. IF DOG SAY YES, PROCEED WITH PETTING

5. IF DOGGO HAS A VEST ON JUST DONT ASK

IMPORTANT

feministism:

tattooedsocialist:

If you spoke up, I see you and I thank you for coming forward. 
If you waited years to report, your story is just as valid.
If you couldn’t report, I understand why.

I’m so sorry that this country doesn’t take your trauma seriously. 
It’s okay to step away from the 24/7 news cycle.

I will work for the rest of my life to make things better. 

I love you. 

URGENT: Call these senators to demand a NO vote on Kavanaugh!

We will rally, we will rise, and if we go down, we will go down fighting for our lives and dignity.

Susan Collins: 202-224-2523
Ben Sasse: 202-224-4224
Jeff Flake: 202-224-4521
Lisa Murkowski: 202-224-6665
Joe Manchin: 202-224-3954

tattooedsocialist:

Yesterday, a white woman — a woman with a PhD, a “credible” and “deferential” and “calm” and “articulate” woman testified about the sexual abuse she experienced at the hands of a monster named Brett Kavanaugh — and Kavanaugh will still be confirmed to the Supreme Court.

To the 53% of white women who voted for Donald Trump because they thought his administration would protect them:

You were wrong. 

You will always be objects to be used and abused by the good old boys’ club. 

This is the America that YOU voted for. 

Hey okc people,

Refusal conversions may be a thing in survey methodology (where it’s still kinda squicky), but it’s not cool on a dating site. At. All.  Your attempt to turn my “not interested” and “no” into a “yes,” just makes me so much more uninterested in you. Especially when we literally just had a conversation about no meaning no.

xoxo

“I am surprised by how much sex I have had in my life that I didn’t want to have. Not exactly what’s considered “real” rape, or “date” rape, although it is a kind of rape of the spirit - a dishonest portrayal or distortion of my own desire in order to appease another person.
I said yes because I felt it was too much trouble to say no. I said yes because I didn’t want to have to defend my “no,” qualify it, justify it - deserve it. I said yes because I thought I was so ugly and fat that I should just take sex every time it was offered, because who knew when it would be offered again. I said yes to partners I never wanted in the first place, because to say no at any point after saying yes for so long would make our entire relationship a lie, so I had to keep saying yes in order to keep the “no” I felt a secret. That is such a messed-up way to live, such an awful way to love.

So these days, I say yes only when I mean yes. It does require some vigilance on my part to make sure I don’t just go on sexual automatic pilot and let people do whatever. It forces me to be really honest with myself and others. It makes me remember that loving myself is also about protecting myself and defending my own borders. I say yes to me.”

— Margaret Cho, “Yes Means Yes”



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