#no means no
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Good Ways To Introduce The Concept of Consent to Kids
1. “Can I kiss/hug you?” and then respecting the child’s answer is an easy way to let them establish boundaries, understand they have a say in who has access to their body, and show them that you (an adult) respects their answer. You’re a role model, and if they see someone they respect seeking consent, they will learn to seek it themselves.
2. When the child is around pets, and one no longer wants to be held or pet, say something along the lines of “it looks like Fido doesn’t want patted anymore, so we need to stop.” Cats are, surprisingly, great examples of the concept of ongoing consent. If a cat bats at you, or the child, in the middle of being pet, don’t berate the cat or call it mean. Just say “Fluffy asked us to stop, and it’d be mean for us to continue”. Kids easily understand this idea when presented in this context.
3. Work the concept of consent into lessons on sharing. “You want to borrow Sally’s crayons? Let’s ask her permission.” and then to the other child “are you okay with Luke borrowing your crayons?” To establish the idea of communication over just assuming and taking.
4. Encourage the child to ask permission before giving affection; “let’s ask Billy if he wants a hug!”. Never force the child to receive affection; “you must let Auntie give you a kiss”.
5. Teach the child to recognize personal cues and body language by speaking it over with them out loud. If a shy playmate hides behind his mother’s leg, say “it looks like Johnny wants his personal space right now, we can see if he wants to play later”. If a playmate quietly shakes her head when asked to join a game, say “Suzie doesn’t want to play, and that’s okay, let’s ask someone else!”.
6. Teach the child to respect “no”. If the child is roughhousing with a friend or sibling and they say “stop!”, enforce that the child must do a hard stop. If you’re tickling the child and they say “stop!”, immediately stop.
7. Explain the concept of Good Touch vs. Bad Touch. Good Touches make us feel loved and cared for, like hugs or high fives or kisses or cuddling or ruffled hair. Bad Touches make us feel sad or hurt, like punches and hitting and biting or any other touch that makes us feel strange or gross or bad. Explain that we never want to give anyone Bad Touches, and we never have to receive Bad Touches.
8. Respect their personhood and decision making, where you can. Practice letting them make decisions regarding themself and their body. For example, “it’s bedtime, do you want the monkey pajamas or the zebra pajamas?” Or “Dinner time! Do you want the green beans or the broccoli for your vegetable?” By letting them think about what they want for their body, and then respecting that decision, you are teaching them the foundation of consent.
9. Do not use made up or silly names for the child’s genitalia. If a child asks about their genitalia, or expresses curiosity in how theirs works or why it’s different than someone of the opposite sex, this is a massive learning opportunity. Use an anatomy book, or other scientific source, and approach it as scientifically as possible. Explain that their brother or sister or friend’s privates aren’t for us to use for our own curiosity, but that wondering about genitals is okay and you’ll help them find their answers in a way that doesn’t require anyone’s body or privacy to be compromised.
10. Age up the discussion with the child. A teen or even pre-teen can be spoken to on an even deeper level. If a man in a movie keeps persistently kissing a woman even after she says no, ask the older child to identify what he’s doing wrong, and how they should handle a situation like that. If the older child is in high school, talk blatantly about sexual consent and what it looks like. They may blush, eye roll, say “I know this already”, but the more you normalize the discussion the more you make it comfortable for them to have that discussion with a partner when they really need to.
My mother was fantastic at #10. We’d be hanging out watching TV together, listening to music, whatever, and end up having deep discussions about some issue that’d been brought up. Like, she droped truth about how women should be treated every chance she got so my sister and I knew to accept no less.
1. ASK THE HANDLER
2. IF SAY NO THEN WALK AWAY
3. IF SAY YES LET DOG SNIFF
4. IF DOG SAY YES, PROCEED WITH PETTING
5. IF DOGGO HAS A VEST ON JUST DONT ASK
IMPORTANT
We do not consent to Kavanaugh.
If you spoke up, I see you and I thank you for coming forward.
If you waited years to report, your story is just as valid.
If you couldn’t report, I understand why.
I’m so sorry that this country doesn’t take your trauma seriously.
It’s okay to step away from the 24/7 news cycle.I will work for the rest of my life to make things better.
I love you.
URGENT: Call these senators to demand a NO vote on Kavanaugh!
We will rally, we will rise, and if we go down, we will go down fighting for our lives and dignity.
Susan Collins: 202-224-2523
Ben Sasse: 202-224-4224
Jeff Flake: 202-224-4521
Lisa Murkowski: 202-224-6665
Joe Manchin: 202-224-3954
Yesterday, a white woman — a woman with a PhD, a “credible” and “deferential” and “calm” and “articulate” woman testified about the sexual abuse she experienced at the hands of a monster named Brett Kavanaugh — and Kavanaugh will still be confirmed to the Supreme Court.
To the 53% of white women who voted for Donald Trump because they thought his administration would protect them:
You were wrong.
You will always be objects to be used and abused by the good old boys’ club.
This is the America that YOU voted for.
you can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no
Don’t teach your daughters how not to get raped. Teach your sons not to rape.
Warmth isn’t owed.
I am a third shift employee at a gas station, my employer often schedules me to work alone on shift for upwards of six hours in the middle of the night.
For the most part I don’t mind. And then……
(the following are actual things men have said to me at my job while I was on the clock and did nothing more suggestive than saying “have a good night” after I ring their purchases up.)
…And then I put lotion on my hands which happens to be scented, and a guy walks in and says “Ooh girl you smell nice”
Me: oh, thanks, it’s just lotion.
Him: “You smell SO good. You’re LUCKY you’re on the clock.”
…And then a customer comes in the door behind me and stands at the counter to my back. When I tell him the register is around the other side, and ask if I Can help him find anything, his response is “no, baby, I’m just enjoying the view” while staring at my ass.
….and then I ask a guy if there is anything else I can get for him along with his purchase and he responds “I’ll take YOU home with me.”
…and then a guy asks for my phone number.
Me: “Oh, sorry, no. I actually have a boyfriend.”
Him: “Oh really. What other excuses are you going to make up for me?”
Me: “It isn’t an excuse. I have a boyfriend. WE have been together for eight years.”
Him: “Uh-huh, so if I come in here and you don’t have a boyfriend tomorrow?”
Me: “I will have a boyfriend tomorrow.”
Him: *walks off muttering at me while his friend behind him starts in with comments about my looks*
….and then a guy comes in on a night when I am not alone and have a guy coworker with me.
And he proceeds to interrogate my coworker about me. And lewdly gesture to me and make allusiosn to whether he and I have sex in the store.
And when my coworker says no and tries to end the conversastion he continues with “come on, why not. I know you gotta set of keys to the store.”
These are just a few glaring examples of the way I am treated. Every night. In my work uniform while I am just trying to do my job and not get hit on by random ass guys who apparently don’t respect “no”. These are not compliments. Some of them are flat out threatening. None of them respect the fact that I have made it clear that I am not interested. This i why I need feminism.
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