#first generation
My project has come to an end…
I started to train my line after going for years without drawing.
I am happy and sad.
Happy that I can finally see this full picture.
Sad because it’s over…
But who knows, johto isn’t coming around?
Thanks to everyone who followed my project! I was super happy!
Living with Strict, Narcissistic Asian Parents | Breaking Out of the Comfort Zone
After I graduated from high school, I went to a college that was 400 miles away from my parents. The next 4 years were full of challenges and growth. And quite frankly, this was the time where my relationship with my mom was at its best. Let me say that more clearly: Distance is the best thing you can have if you have strict, narcissistic asian parents.
Why? They can’t control you. In my case, all my parents could really do was text or call me. Once the homesickness faded, we all got used to living without each other. My parents would check in with me occasionally but otherwise, let me live my life. We all knew we were just a phone call or text away. (Note: My parents didn’t mind me going to this far away college, because it was UC Berkeley and as we all know, Asian parents love to brag and take pride in rankings.)
Fast forward to today: After college graduation, I moved back home because I got a salaried position near my hometown. I worked there for 2.5 years, then was set to attend graduate school and was excited with the idea of moving away again. Unfortunately, COVID-19 happened and the entire academic year was online. Fortunately, the next academic year is planned to be in-person so I still get to move out!
Now that I’m at this point, I look back and wonder: “Do I regret living at home for the past 3 years?” And honestly, I have to reluctantly say “no.” As much as I did have extreme tension (!!!) with my parents, I have to admit I think the end result turned out ok. I did often feel socially “stunted” and that my privacy wasn’t always respected, however. But through these 3 years, I must’ve easily saved about $50,000 from not having to pay market rent, expenses, food, etc. With me in a master’s program, having this extra $50,000 is extremely helpful so that I don’t have to go into debt for education.
So I’m rambling here. What’s my takeaway?
- If you can, go to a college far away from home. At least far enough where you can dorm. Undergraduate years are a great time to find yourself.
- After graduation, consider your future plans. Are you considering graduate school? Are you still unsure about your career path? If yes, consider moving back home to help save while you think about how to proceed. If no, consider staying away from your parents! Or close enough to visit occasionally but far enough where they can’t control you. I know everyone says to live apart, but it’s 2021 and the reality is living expenses are CRAZY HIGH. Living with your parents is not nearly as stigmatized as it used to be.
- If you do find yourself living back at home (for whatever reason), make the most of it. Your parents will likely make you pay reduced market-price rent or if you’re lucky, no rent at all. SAVE, SAVE, SAVE. If you have a transactional relationship with your Asian parents, just think of your stay as a temporary one. And one that ultimately helps your end goal.
- It’s also easy to stay stuck in this “comfort zone” of just living at home with minimal expenses forever. This isn’t great obviously, and is something I even succumbed to. You gotta grow! Live at home for a few years after graduation, but ALWAYS keep in the back of your mind your exit strategy. Are you staying at home until you get into grad school? Until you get your ideal job? Until you have saved enough for a car?
Of course everyone’s personal situation is unique so this post isn’t a cookie-cutter fit for all.
#Shimeji desktop mascot #Bulbasaur #Kanto #Pokemon #Bulbasaur_shimeji Descarga en Drive: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1oXQ0f-mYObJrjzoj13VTVjYYzP1D9oWf/view?usp=sharing
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Squirtle was punished, Wartortle gave him the idea to
escape, things did not go as Squirtle thought
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The second of a project that I prepare about the 150 Pokémon xD Pokemon’s Guilty or Pokémon guilty.
In the sign: Whenever I get excited I use Sleep Powder
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Pokemon: Winged Mirages (Legendary Birds) - Qlax Draws
Glad to be back! Have some Birb Pokemon :3
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Marlene McKinnon
“I’ve lived a good life. Yes, I’ve made mistakes. Some people may call me a rebel, but life doesn’t come with instructions. And if it did, I wouldn’t follow them anyway.” —Marlene McKinnon
I finally got my degree after these long 6 years. People judge me for staying at school for six years but no one knew the amount of things that I had to face throughout those six years. I thought I was never even going to see the age of 24 when I was 16, let alone graduate from the university of my dreams but I did just that. From battling my mental health to having setbacks like almost losing my life September 22, 2017 set me back for about two semesters and some change. Transferring from Broward College to my dream university, fighting to have credits updated then switching majors again. Losing people over the years, faced traumatic moments, and of course financial ruts. God has really been showing out since then for me. The timing is always right and it is for a good reason. Today I am now an Alumna of Florida Agricultural and Mechanical University First generation and FIRST grad in my family
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How First-Generation College Students Do Thanksgiving Break byLeonardo Santamaria
An illustration for The New York Times Sunday Review about a Cuban American woman’s experience as a first generation college student feeling isolated on campus over the Thanksgiving break.
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