#reidentification
its important to me as a detrans woman to be vocal about it. its important to me as a detrans woman who initially only had radfems to talk to about detransition, because i couldnt find a single trans inclusive detrans person for over a year, to make sure other people know they have options.
radfems arent your aly if you’re questioning your gender. they dont have your best interest at heart. they dont care about helping you explore who you are, theyre only interested in sucking you in to be another transmisogynistic pawn for their violent ideology.
if you’re trans/nonbinary now, but are wondering if it isnt right for you, know that you have options. you can talk to me. there are people who have not done a 180 into bigotry who are here to support you.
please reblog, do not just like, this post.
i dont have a large platform. i want this to get spread. i want to remove terfs from the forefront of detrans/reidentification awareness & support. they cannot continue to be the first contact for questioning people.
i am begging you, yes you personally, to please reblog this, and comment or reply in the tags if you’re a safe, trans-inclusive detransitioned or reidentified person to approach.
Just want to let you all know that it is possible to detransition without being transphobic.
People that call themselves radical feminists telling dysphoric teenagers that they’re ‘mutilating themselves’ and being ‘homophobic’, while trans rights activists tell dysphoric teenagers that their feelings are not uncommon or ‘wrong’ and that there are solutions and that they’ll be supported. No wonder many dysphoric teenagers will start identifying as ‘trans’ and socially and physically transitioning, with an unclear amount of them regretting this later on.
Some of these radical feminists might mean well, but they fail to realize that their tactics only encourage(!) teenagers to transition. And I know this is a thing, because this actually happened to me personally. The condescending choice of words and lack of empathy make that you won’t even consider listening to any of their points.
Don’t pretend you’re ‘fighting against misogyny’, while calling trans men and detransitioned women ‘mutilated’. You are reducing us to our bodies, in an outspokenly degrading way. That’s quite misogynist.
Dysphoric teenagers should know that there’s a lot of people that experience gender dysphoria, and that people deal with this in different ways. Transitioning isn’t always the best solution, even though for some it might be. A lot of different factors contribute to or can even cause dysphoria, such as misogyny, sexism and homophobia. It is possible to internalize these things. As someone who is detransitioning after having used HRT for years and having had surgery, I would recommend trying to work on these views of society you might’ve internalized, before physically transitioning. Make your own, well informed choice. It’s your body.
There’s literally no point in telling teenagers online that gender ‘does not exist’ and therefore their gender is also ‘fake’ and that they /are/ their biological sex.
I was there. I was a dysphoric teenager. I did not see how I could possibly not be an FtM; everything fit. Random people online sending me messages about how I was actually ‘just’ a lesbian did not make me change my mind or reconsider things. In fact, it just made me more convinced that I’d have to show everyone what a good guy I could make. And that’s what I did. It worked for quite some years.
Now I’m in my late twenties and I identify as a lesbian; not as an FtM anymore. It hurts to see people approaching those with gender dysphoria the way I was approached, as it doesn’t make anything better. It only made me bitter.
What does help, is to see diversity. Different stories. Know that there are many options. Feeling understood; that you’re not alone.
It all boils down to the fact that I’d prefer everyone to see me as a woman again, except for straight cis men that I’m not befriended with.
its important to me as a detrans woman to be vocal about it. its important to me as a detrans woman who initially only had radfems to talk to about detransition, because i couldnt find a single trans inclusive detrans person for over a year, to make sure other people know they have options.
radfems arent your aly if you’re questioning your gender. they dont have your best interest at heart. they dont care about helping you explore who you are, theyre only interested in sucking you in to be another transmisogynistic pawn for their violent ideology.
if you’re trans/nonbinary now, but are wondering if it isnt right for you, know that you have options. you can talk to me. there are people who have not done a 180 into bigotry who are here to support you.
please reblog, do not just like, this post.
i dont have a large platform. i want this to get spread. i want to remove terfs from the forefront of detrans/reidentification awareness & support. they cannot continue to be the first contact for questioning people.
i am begging you, yes you personally, to please reblog this, and comment or reply in the tags if you’re a safe, trans-inclusive detransitioned or reidentified person to approach.
