#self care
1. Get a full night’s sleep.
2. Go for a walk every day.
3. Schedule those appointments you’ve been meaning to get to.
4. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
5. Read a book.
6. Install a website blocker for distracting sites.
7. Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you.
8. Make a budget.
9. Schedule breaks from your screens.
10. Start journaling.
11. Make a list of the things you are grateful for.
12. Drink more water.
13. Meditate.
14. Stretch.
15. Limit your TV time.
16. Take a class.
17. Wear sunscreen.
18. Eat more vegetables.
19. Eat less fast food.
20. Quit smoking and vaping.
21. Do some push ups before your daily walk.
22. Get a library card.
23. Smile more.
24. Stop drinking soda.
25. Delete your Facebook account.
26. Get a password manager.
27. Don’t partake in gossip.
28. Work on your posture.
29. Do something nice for someone.
30. Pick up after yourself.
31. Avoid sugar.
32. Stop complaining so much.
33. Brush your teeth regularly.
34. Make better eye contact.
35. Use all of your vacation days.
36. Stop holding grudges.
37. Stop interrupting people.
38. Do something creative every day.
39. Eat breakfast.
40. Make a to-do list.
41. Get the small stuff out of the way.
42. Ask for a raise.
43. Arrive early for your appointments.
44. Take mental health days.
45. Stop comparing your life to others.
46. Make time for your hobbies.
47. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
48. Ask someone about their day.
49. Take naps.
50. Take a first aid course.
Find me on TikTok… entertaining myself
Gentle reminder to all my fellow spoonies today: if you need to eat different food than everyone else due to food allergies, sensory sensitivities, or any other reasons, do it. If you need to eat at a different time than everyone else to take medicine, prevent yourself from getting low blood sugar, or any other reason, do it. If you need to take a break or leave, do it. Remember to take care of yourself y'all.
[Tweet by Fran, @galacticidiots, saying, ‘Who needs therapy when AO3 is full of those 10-20K one shots where nothing happens except huge feelings and deep conversations that somehow make you feel the entire spectrum of human emotion.
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I prefer both, of course. But there are many things that I’d never even considered COULD be related before reading about them on AO3, never mind connecting them to my own experiences.
I still go read hurt/comfort to figure out which trauma I’m currently ready to process. I read about stupid Batkids getting lost in their own undercover identities while trying to figure myself out. I read about abuse while trying to parse my self-hatred. I read about good parents and siblings while isolating myself. I read about trauma recovery … while I continue to recover from trauma.
This spread is for those moments when you feel lousy, but can’t figure out why or what to do.
My Problem - The reason you’re feeling this way.
What to do now - Things you should consider doing while you feel bad.
What to do later - Steps you can take to prevent feeling this way in the future.
What I need to hear - The insight you need to get through this.
What I should avoid - Pretty much what it says on the tin.
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1.9.22.SUN
This will be a bit personal, but towards the end of last semester I struggled with some depression that began to make it feel really hard to complete basic tasks like showering and getting dressed.
I would just go to class and study, then go to bed often earlier than 7 pm.
I’ve started journaling and working with a therapist, but I also decided a habit tracker might help me stay accountable for my basic upkeep when I’m struggling.
So here it is, I know it’s a bit silly but it’s 2022 and this year I’m promising to take care of myself better ❤️
has everyone seen the blog lowspoonsfood?
the blog is food that can be made without too much effort, with a ranking system by how much effort it takes to make it
they also have category options for gluten free, vegetarian/vegan, lactose free, etc.
if you’re disabled and have trouble cooking, this may be worth it to check out. if you’re not disabled or you don’t have trouble cooking, it’d be cool to signal boost it for those who do need it. for people with very few go to meals, food can be boring and repetitive, so this is pretty cool :*
Cool for mentally ill ppl too!
Yay!
Please apread this around, dear followers. As a disabled veteran with both physical disabilities and mental illness, especially when I was single, I would often go a day or more at a time without eating (or eating only food I could simply unwrap and eat or throw in the nuke for two minutes), not because I didn’t have any food, but because food preparation seemed like an overwhelming task. (Or because I forgot.) And my health suffered for it. This blog may not save a life, but it can significantly increase the quality.
1. Don’t overload your first semester. Starting college is a huge transition and you will likely be more tired than you would be otherwise because you are trying to adjust. Also, college classes go at a different pace than high school, so while taking 4 classes may not sound like much, it has the potential to kill you if you’re not careful
2. Don’t worry if you feel overwhelmed and lonely. First semester sucks for pretty much everyone. It takes a while to find the type of people you can connect with.
3. Start or join a small group. I’m speaking from my experience as a Christian, but this applies to other religions/groups as well. Second semester I started a Bible study for girls with an acquaintance, not only did it provide a weekly spiritual re-centering, the intimate atmosphere of praying, talking and studying the Bible together led to some of the closest friendship I had.
4. Even if you feel insecure, reach out to people. Likely, they’re wishing someone would reach out to them as much as you. Most of the time, people will not find you annoying for initiating conversations or suggesting hang outs. Get to know people in your classes. Even if it’s just the person sitting next to you. Even if they don’t end up being a close friend, it’s really nice to have at least one familiar person with you.Go to events. It will be scary. You will not know people. You may be miserable. You may come away having met or made friends with no one. But eventually, you will start to recognize people. And even that is valuable when you don’t know anyone. It helps you feel a lot less lost.
5. Stay out of relationships until you have a solid girlfriend base. Let’s be real, relationships don’t always succeed, and not having a good support group can make a break up a hundred times worth.Don’t be afraid to drift from your high school friends, but also don’t cut them off. It’s good to explore new friendships, but high school friends can be dependable, long term friends that can be there for you in the absence of new friendships.
6. Confidence and kindness go a long way in making friends. If you are confident and kind, it is safe to assume assume that people like you.
7. Don’t neglect your spiritual life. It’s so easy to do when you’re so busy, but finding a church community can be a great source of community. Connecting with God can help a lot with loneliness and fear.
8. Don’t stay up too late even tho you have the freedom to do so. IT’S NOT WORTH IT! Getting enough sleep will help with avoiding the freshman 15, help you do better in classes and overall make you feel better.
9. If you hate your major, give it at least a semester, but after that don’t be afraid to change it. Everyone has moments of doubt about their major, but make sure you aren’t confusing overwhelmed-ness for dislike of your major. Also, first semester you’re often taking pre-reqs so five yourself time to actually see what real classes in the major are like
1. Learn to let go of what happened in the past. You deserve a new start and a fresh beginning. We’ve all messed up and experienced bad things. So don’t allow these memories to rob you of your future. You’re not just a product and a victim of your past. Acknowledge and work through any negative emotions – then put them behind you and start to live again.
2. Work on forgiving yourself. Don’t punish yourself for your past failings or regrets. Instead, see them as a lesson, and a chance to learn and grow. Don’t ridicule, demean or devalue yourself. That was then – this is now … You are different - so move on.
3. Keep a journal where you write down all your thoughts and feelings. When you’re feeling positive, try to savour those emotions and a build a memory trace of all that’s good and positive. When you’re feeling negative try to show some self-compassion, and seek to be gentle and kind to yourself. You need to work on validating and affirming yourself – not being your own enemy and tearing yourself down.
4. Be persistent as you work on accepting yourself. A key part of love is unconditional acceptance. So work on loving who you are right now. Only then will you be able to change some parts of yourself – because you’re able to accept who you are at the core.
5. Trust yourself. You don’t have to please others, or to follow their dictates. Learn to trust your intuition and your own personal judgments.
6. Practice saying “no”. It’s okay to say “no” without feeling guilty. You have the right to decide what you’ll do with your life.
7. Practice receiving and accepting love from others. Know you’re worthy of love – and other people really mean it when they say that you matter, and they love and care for you.
as the sky and earth open up again for spring, take a moment to open your windows and shake out your rugs. change out your sheets and curtains and pick up a packet of seeds from the local grocery store. you don’t have to grow them if that feels overwhelming or impossible, but leave them in the kitchen where you’ll see them when you go to make your morning coffee. we’re getting back to growing.
Tw // anorexia (pro recovery)
i know you’re lonely. i know it feels comforting to slip into the same old familiar loneliness. the same religiously good hurt of refusing yourself the things you need and the space to heal. i know it feels beautiful to have something to worship. i know in this cold, confusing world, having goodness be safely defined as thinness within a community with whom you can push for that ideal feels like a comfort. i know it feels safe and familiar. but if you think that this is something that you can compartmentalize and keep safe tucked in a corner of your life, you can’t; and if you think it ever ends, or that your ideal is something you will ever reach, you’re wrong. this disorder is a parasite, and it will take over every corner of your life and every minute of your time and in the end, you will not be rewarded for it. no one will like you any better, least of all yourself; no one will thank you for hurting yourself like this; the world will not turn rose-coloured, your head will not clear and your perfect life will not materialize. you will come out of the end of the tunnel and you will have lost years of your life that you can never get back, and you will realize you were worshipping a false god the whole time. you will realize you never needed to change to wake up with a smile on your lips and birds singing in the window, you never needed to change to dance in the kitchen with your significant other or feel the warmth of another’s presence and laughter. if this made you doubt yourself at all, come and take my hand. i know the grave is comfortable, but don’t let yourself sleep yet.
Hey you listen to the doctor
Today I’ve realized that I have to choose between to be stuck forever or being in pain for a while and finally heal.
hey. guess what?
you’re so close to surviving 2020
keep going
i’m so proud of you
Some important reminders ✨
The kind of potion we all need right now
I promise you do
I miss this blog so much. It’s been so hard for me to post with everything going on and I’ve been struggling quite a lot but I really miss posting and interacting with you guys. How have you been? How is everyone doing? How have you guys been coping with everything?
