#postivity
the aro & ace space network!
a network for people under the ace and/or aro spectrum to talk and get to know other people like us, to share a safe space, and to defy the discourse so commonly pinned against us in the general community!how to join:
- be anywhere on the aro spectrum, ace spectrum, or both.
- reblog this post - it would help us to boost and gain more wonderful members - or simply like or just leave it if you are in the closet.
- and fill in this simple typeformjust to give us a better idea of who you are, and for organisation purposes.
- there is no limit or close date for becoming a member of this network.
- if you have any questions, shoot me an ask or message on @shima-wishesor@marichengs!
what comes next?
- once you’re accepted into the net you can join our discord chat, which i will send a link to via messenger!
- you can also have a spot on our members pageunless you have stated otherwise.
- most importantly, you’ll gain a whole bunch of wonderful new friends to talk to and have support from!
even if you aren’t applying, please consider reblogging this post to boost to other people who may be interested. thank you so much!
Looking for some Ace-Aro positivity? Want someone to talk to about the Ace Aro Spectrum? Consider this network!
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Tw // anorexia (pro recovery)
i know you’re lonely. i know it feels comforting to slip into the same old familiar loneliness. the same religiously good hurt of refusing yourself the things you need and the space to heal. i know it feels beautiful to have something to worship. i know in this cold, confusing world, having goodness be safely defined as thinness within a community with whom you can push for that ideal feels like a comfort. i know it feels safe and familiar. but if you think that this is something that you can compartmentalize and keep safe tucked in a corner of your life, you can’t; and if you think it ever ends, or that your ideal is something you will ever reach, you’re wrong. this disorder is a parasite, and it will take over every corner of your life and every minute of your time and in the end, you will not be rewarded for it. no one will like you any better, least of all yourself; no one will thank you for hurting yourself like this; the world will not turn rose-coloured, your head will not clear and your perfect life will not materialize. you will come out of the end of the tunnel and you will have lost years of your life that you can never get back, and you will realize you were worshipping a false god the whole time. you will realize you never needed to change to wake up with a smile on your lips and birds singing in the window, you never needed to change to dance in the kitchen with your significant other or feel the warmth of another’s presence and laughter. if this made you doubt yourself at all, come and take my hand. i know the grave is comfortable, but don’t let yourself sleep yet.
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Tips for exam season
- bring a water bottle in a exam hall. It has been siecenifcally shown that this dose help. Remeber to drink around 250ml (half a small water bottle) every 15 minuets so you don’t need to pee all the time (your body absorbs around 1 litere an hour).
- Reward yourselves with tasty treats when you revise
- make sure you eat breakfast. So great and tasty ideas are eggs and toast and and fruit cereal. They are slow release food so you will have engery all day
-pack a tasty lunch to look forward too after your exams.
-Take brakes and dont revise past a certain time at night (say ten o'clock)
- motivate yourself by planning something fun to do over summer. (If you are broke like me consider signing up for NCS)
- sleep more than eight hours. Your body will be tried after all those exams. Make sure you get lots of sleep and go to sleep and wake up about the same time everyday.
- Hang out with friends and family. Dont shut yourself off from everyone.
-remeber you can always resit nearly every subject and things always have a.way of working out eventually.
- keep on top of personal hygiene. Take a hot bath at least once a week to distress.
-ask for help when you need it. Dont let yourself let it all build up inside then explode.
compliment recklessly! say the nice things that come to your head! we’ve got better things to do than resisting the instinct to be kind!
A reminder that during these uncertain times in the world that you are allowed to make mistakes, take time for yourself, and take your emotions as they come and let yourself feel them!
Our bodies were created with ripples, textures, smooth and rough, scarred and untouched. Our bodies are home, our bodies are our own. No one can take that away from us.
Walk slowly, take deep breaths, and enjoy life. It doesn’t always have to go by so quickly.
Be happy for people. Especially the ones you love. No one is taking what is yours, whatever they have is theirs. The things that are meant for you, find you. Work to find them by all means. But jealousy will never bring you something that isn’t meant for you, nothing will x
things that made me stop wanting to die that require no effort whatsoever
- change the color used to highlight text on your laptop
- move the pictures on your wall
- stack whatever clutter is in your room into piles even if you don’t have time to clean it all
- slightly vary your commute, even just by one street
- change where you sit and scroll aimlessly on your phone even if it’s only to the chair in your room instead of your bed
- drink water or juice out of a wine glass in the morning because nothing is real
- shower with the lights off, without music
- buy $3 flowers at trader joe’s—they look bad next to the more expensive ones but they look so good in your room
- start typing things you don’t post into your notes. your thoughts can be worth documenting even if you don’t deem them worth sharing
- wake up super early just once. you don’t have to make it a habit it’s just extra satisfying to go to bed that night
- listen to the entirety of your favorite album from 2015
Almost all of these are about variety. Humans need stimulation! We need enrichment! We literally cannot do the same thing every day!
The other day I was feeling miserable, so I hopped on a bus and rode it all the way back to where I’d started, and my brain, which had finally had some proper stimulation via new environments, was suddenly ready to go again!
This is why taking walks/drives and trying new hobbies are good for you! Don’t turn yourself into a sad zoo animal! You need some pumpkins to roll around in your enclosure!
back to school reminders:
- your grades don’t define you
- mental health is a priority
- not doing some homework assignments isn’t the end of the world
- turn things in on time even if they aren’t completely done
- you don’t need a perfect GPA to go to college
- apply for scholarships
- drama is exhausting; try to avoid it
- ask for help when you need it
- you aren’t stupid for not knowing everything
- not every friend is a real one
- teachers aren’t always right
- everyone makes mistakes
- you can do it
do not put up with passive agression. the people in your life should respect you enough to be straight forward with you. If someone does not come to you directly with an issue, it is not yours too fix. you can’t spend all your time picking apart your relationship with someone, searching for what you did, and blaming yourself when you don’t even know what for. it’s not fair for people to put you through that.
The best thing I ever did was stop trying to water myself down to make myself softer or less aggressive. I naturally have a strong presence & I own the space I take up in this world even if some people think I’m too much.
Fuck anyone who tries to make you feel ashamed of who you are. They don’t know jack shit about what you’ve survived, and you don’t owe them any explanation or apology. If you aren’t hurting anyone, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Be proud. You deserve it.
you were meant to see this post. this post showed up on your screen for a reason. you are loved. whatever issue you may be going through right now, whether it be school or family or love, it will pass. it will pass, and you will be okay in the end. you will survive this.
your body is a temple. and it is yours to decorate.
you are not a bad person for saying no. you are not obligated to help someone at the expense of your own happiness.
- for crying
- for feeling sad
- for expressing your emotions
- for being different
- for doing the things that make you happy
- for making yourself a priority
- for being you
