#ted talk
How do you talk about love?
Writer Mandy Len Catron thinks our current metaphors are too violent and passive. Instead, she suggests we view love as a collaborative work of art. Collaboration requires effort, compromise, patience and a shared goal. Ups and downs are, of course, inevitable, but this metaphor allows us to focus on what we have to offer instead of what we have to lose.
“The beautiful thing about the collaborative work of art is that it will not paint or draw or sculpt itself,” says Mandy. “This version of love allows us to decide what it looks like.”
Watch her beautiful TED Talk about our metaphors for love here.
Ted Talk: Pit Bulls
Some of you may have forgotten who I am since it’s been forever. But before I go on (and on) with this topic, I figured I’d remind you that I work with dogs everyday. It’s my profession and passion.
There has been too much misinformation being spread around the internet, the public, the media about Pit Bulls and I’m (and a lot of other animal professionals) fucking sick of it.
I guess to start this off, I’m going to post an example of this terrible misrepresentation of the breed (yes, it is infact a breed!).
I honestly don’t even know where to begin. First of all, the dog in the video probably isn’t even a Pit Bull, but a Pit Bull mix. There’s no way to really know unless a DNA test is done and we see the pedigree. But it looks to me like a mix. Second of all, the two examples she gave of other “Pit Bulls” was a fucking Bull Terrier (which is most definitely not a fucking Pit Bull) and an American Bulldog (also most definitely not a fucking Pit Bull). Third of all, in order to be a Pit Bull all you have to obtain is a block head, muscular build, and stocky body? Noted. So I guess the actual recognized and registered breed American Pit Bull Terriers is just a big oopsie booboo on almost all ethical kennel clubs around the world. Fourth of all, “Pit Bulls are killed in shelters daily simply because they’re pits. People don’t trust them around children. Dogs are a product of their environment. They are the way they are because owners decide to abuse them, neglect them, abandon them…” I’m not even going to write my response to that in this paragraph because it would be too fucking much. So I’ll see you in the next one.
Girl, the environment isn’t the only factor in what makes up a dogs temperament, personality, and behavior. Genetics play a big role in this. Genetic aggression is a thing, always has been and always will be. Genetics are why a border collie herds, a pointer points, a Belgian Malinios bites, a bloodhound tracks, an LSD guards, and why a Pit Bull kills dogs. You think every owner trains them to do that? No. That’s why they’re the go-to when it comes to dog fighting. They have a high game drive, prey drive and strong tenacity. They were bred for a purpose and it sure as hell wasnt to be a nanny dog. I’m not sure who came up with that one, but I have to say that it’s gold.
Anyways, I’m going to expand on this soon.
I will be having talks like this more often on my new blog @thedogsnobs if you wanna follow. I would love to have more Ted Talks with you guys. I feel like education is key. Maybe I’ll post some training videos for everyone in the near future.
IT’S OFFICIAL, I’M A TEDX SPEAKER!
I’m incredibly grateful for the opportunity to discuss asexual representation in the media on such an esteemed platform. Thank you to everyone, particularly Adam Key, who made this possible in a national lockdown. I hope you like it. I’ve been waiting a while to say this… Thank you for listening to my TED Talk!
Transcript of “What is déjà vu? What is déjà vu?”
Since Emile Boirac introduced déjà vu as a French term meaning “already seen," more than 40 theories attempt to explain this phenomenon. Still, recent advancements in neuroimaging and cognitive psychology narrow down the field of prospects. Let’s walk through three of today’s more prevalent theories…
1. First up is dual processing… this theory asserts that déjà vu occurs when there’s a slight delay in information from one of these pathways. The difference in arrival times causes the brain to interpret the late information as a separate event. When it plays over the already-recorded moment, it feels as if it’s happened before because, in a sense, it has.
2. Our next theory deals with a confusion of the past rather than a mistake in the present. This is the hologram theory… According to the theory, … memories are stored in the form of holograms, and in holograms, you only need one fragment to see the whole picture… However, … your brain has summoned up [an] old memory without identifying it. This leaves you stuck with familiarity, but no recollection…
3. Our last theory is divided attention, and it states that déjà vu occurs when our brain subliminally takes in an environment while we’re distracted by one particular object. When our attention returns, we feel as if we’ve been here before… because you have, you just weren’t paying attention.
“We live in a culture where being fat is seen as being a bad person.”
Quote from Kelli Jean Drinkwater in her TED Talk “Enough with the fear of fat”.
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“ The fear of fat is keeping so many of us waiting to be the after-photo before we truly start to live our lives.”
Quote inspired from Kelli Jean Drinkwater in her TED Talk “Enough with the fear of fat” .
Unkown
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“It’s not good that women are focusing on their partner’s pleasure, not their own.”
Quote from Sue Jaye Johnson in her TED Talk “What we don’t teach kids about sex”.
Yael Malka
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“My own suffering began to feel like it had revealed to me the suffering of others”.
Quote from Kate Bowler in her TED Talk “Everything happens for a reason”.
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“Life is so beautiful, and life is so hard.”
Quote from Kate Bowler in her TED Talk “Can we choose to fall out of love?”.
Maud Chalard
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“We tell girls that they are too sensitive and tell boys to man up”.
Quote inspired from Sue Jaye Johnson in her TED Talk “What we don’t teach kids about sex”.
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“We need to start judging people by what they do, not what they look like”.
Quote from Meaghan Ramsey in her TED Talk “Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you”.
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“Sacrifice should be thought of as a fair exchange”.
Quote from Jeannie Suk Gersen in her TED Talk “How understanding divorce can help your marriage”.
Yael Malka
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“Even though I knew it wasn’t doing either of us any good, I just couldn’t figure out how to put the love down”.
Quote from Dessa in her TED Talk “Can we choose to fall out of love?”.
Yael Malka
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“Radical body politics is the antidote to our body-shaming culture”.
Quote from Kelli Jean Drinkwater in her TED Talk “Enough with the fear of fat”.
Prue Stent and Honey Long
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“There’s simply no privacy nowadays. And the social pressures that go along with that are relentless.”
Quote inspired from Meaghan Ramsey in her TED Talk “ Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you”.
Maud Chalard
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“Always being connected is training us to value ourselves based on the number of likes we get and the types of comments that we receive”.
Quote inspired from Meaghan Ramsey in her TED Talk “Why thinking you’re ugly is bad for you”.
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“You have to listen to one another.Stephen Covey said it very beautifully.He said, “Most of us don’t listen with the intent to understand.We listen with the intent to reply.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“Go with the flow. That means thoughts will come into your mind and you need to let them go out of your mind. We’ve heard interviews often in which a guest is talking for several minutes and then the host comes back in and asks a question which seems like it comes out of nowhere, or it’s already been answered. That means the host probably stopped listening two minutes ago because he thought of this really clever question, and he was just bound and determined to say that. And we do the exact same thing. We’re sitting there having a conversation with someone, and then we remember that time that we met Hugh Jackman in a coffee shop. And we stop listening. Stories and ideas are going to come to you. You need to let them come and let them go.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“I kind of grew up assuming everyone has some hidden, amazing thing about them. And honestly, I think it’s what makes me a better host. I keep my mouth shut as often as I possibly can, I keep my mind open, and I’m always prepared to be amazed, and I’m never disappointed.
You do the same thing. Go out, talk to people, listen to people, and, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“Don’t pontificate.If you want to state your opinionwithout any opportunity for response or argument or pushback or growth,write a blog.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“You need to enter every conversation assuming that you have something to learn. The famed therapist M. Scott Peck said that true listening requires a setting aside of oneself. And sometimes that means setting aside your personal opinion. He said that sensing this acceptance, the speaker will become less and less vulnerable and more and more likely to open up the inner recesses of his or her mind to the listener. Again, assume that you have something to learn.
Bill Nye: “Everyone you will ever meet knows something that you don’t.” I put it this way: Everybody is an expert in something.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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“If you don’t know, say that you don’t know. Now, people on the radio, especially on NPR, are much more aware that they’re going on the record, and so they’re more careful about what they claim to be an expert in and what they claim to know for sure. Do that. Err on the side of caution. Talk should not be cheap.”
Quote from Celeste Headlee in her TED Talk “10 ways to have a better conversation”.
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