after gaining a whopping 5 pounds (on my, then, 103 pound body) that I no longer “had the body of an oriental” and the whole reason he found me attractive to begin with was that I was “a white girl with the body of a pre-pubescent Jap girl.”
I once had a guy who I was sleeping with at the time tell me that I had a hot body apart from my self harm scars and that I should get tattoos over them so they wouldn’t make him uncomfortable.
Ok, so I spent this morning checking and blocking about 150 spambot blogs using all manner of names, reblogging my content to promote their ‘secrets to getting rip of belly fat for women over 50′.
If I’ve missed any, apologies. I do not want to be part of anything that uses body shaming, stealing content, and trickery to make money.
If you want to lose weight, then I wish you all the best, so long as it’s YOUR choice, for YOU, and not out of the shame that’s been heaped on you by a greedy world. If you don’t wanna lose weight, I wish you equally well. Your body is YOURS.
I share my recipes because I love to share food and I want a world where animals are free from human harm. Some recipes are lower fat than others, some are gluten free, some are full of veggies, some are full of sugar. None of them are about anything other than enjoying good food while being lazy and not hurting other beings. If my stuffed peppers suddenly start ‘ripping’ belly fat, please let me know and I’ll investigate, because that sounds dangerous.
Use these recipes at home, with friends and family, don’t use them, it’s your choice. But don’t let anyone use them to try and make you feel inadequate or ashamed. Your body is as unique as you are and it carries you through life, you deserve to love and nourish it.
“As the food shortage grew desperate, prosthetics became patriotic. Robotic limbs and synthetic organs ran on cheap, efficient electricity. We cloaked ourselves in personal holograms to maintain the illusion of the normal human form rather than learn to love our new wilder shapes.”
-QuietPineTrees
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Modern feminists have no problem complaining about how unfair the taxing of tampons and pads are… Where are they for the women in Middle-Eastern countries who are being raped, beaten, and killed? Or is that less of a priority? While you’re protesting the wage-gap, their lives are in danger. Is modern feminism really that selfish? Help them to be treated as humans before you worry about man-spreading.
i am so tired of ppl not watching the video and rbing with their ignorant opinions going on abt “dress for your body type” and shit like…. that’s not the point. the point is that almost everything deemed trendy and attractive is awarded these qualities BECAUSE they are worn by tall, skinny and usually white bodies.
if y’all had bothered to watch the video, you would’ve seen the comparison between gigi hadid wearing denim shorts and a regular ass shirt and a normal fat woman wearing the exact same fit, and how drastic the reception was for the latter. it’s the exact same outfit, nothing revolutionary or new, i can’t even call it fashion—denim shorts and a t-shirt. yet the fat woman was mocked relentlessly online and said she looked like a racist, while miss hadid was praised for being a trendsetter and a fashion icon.
and not for nothing but y’all have to shut the fuck up abt dressing for body types. it’s bullshit. women should be able to wear whatever the fuck we desire without needing others’ approval for whether or not our bodies are attractive enough for you to let us get out of the house or post pictures online. the most important thing is that YOU like what you’re wearing and YOU feel confident and comfortable in your outfits and your expression of yourself. wear a long skirt “even if” you’re short. wear 6 inch heels “even if” you’re 6 feet tall. wear crop tops and hot shorts and backless dresses “even if” you’re fat. cover up and take off whatever you want as long as you like what you’re wearing.
I am so tired of fashion rn, finally someone said it. These trends are for skinny women
If i may throw my 2 cents in. Im no expert but I am a nerd who likes fashion and likes to study it… To whatever that may mean.
So, the irony that the lovely lady who made the video got ripped apart is hilarious and id feel bad for the people who missed the point if i didnt also think they were stupid.
So fashion, in the more modern sense anyway, has kinda always been this horrible size obsessed nightmare. Before standardized sizing, you drafted the patterns yourself, and made your clothes/had them made to your exact measurements. When you go to fashion school, they teach you figure drawing and sewing. In both of these you are creating your garments for thin, tall mannequins and models. Dress forms in fashion school come in one size and one size only. Now this isnt actually the worst thing simply for the fact that its easier to judge and properly grade when you are working with the same thing (same figures and measurements), so i do get why fashion school does this. However, in my very limited understanding as i have never been to fashion school, there is no classes or any kind of education on how to dress or draw “real” (ie an average person) people or how to build garments that suit their body. I have even heard stories about students being told to stop drawing larger figures because thats not how things are done.
Which essentially leads to the point of the video - fashion is made for the tall, thin, super rich and is not made for the average person. The only times you really see people who arent that 1 body shape/type, is when they are put into the box of plus sized and dress in the way that these oppressive jerks expect them to dress (loose, flowy, boxy garments that hide everything because god forbid you have even a little back fat roll peeking out from under your top).
Im not plus sized (maybe in sewing patterns but those are way more fucked then standard sizing), but i am curvy with a smaller chest and wider hips, the pear shape if you will. Im also short. I have some rolls, stretch marks, and scars all over from like living. My body, because genes, has a decently even weight distribution (meaning and extra fat is distributed all over rather then just in the stomach or legs or whatever). My waist is only 30 inches, im not that big, and i could not wear and look “good” in the outfits shown in the thumbnail.
Now i use and think the whole body shapes/types and dressing for your body is a good guideline. But thats just it, they are guidelines. Guidelines that are sold to us as absolutes because fashion is made for the tall and thin. The sucky thing there is anyone who isnt that feels shamed, and anyone who IS that is shamed. The fashion industry is a producer of shame in all sense. Trends exist to keep the cycle going so that no one feels quite ok when shopping, so that the shame can continue and the industry can continue to make money off you. Because trends will always exclude one or more groups of people, who will be shamed for being off trend and thus will try to be trendy, only to be shamed for not looking right.
Fashion brands and retailers profit from our shame and purposefully teaches its professionals and students to not be inclusive. Plus sized people need their clothes built differently, i need my clothes built differently, but they dont know how. Because to make clothes that actually fit people and fit them properly, would stop the shame and stop their cash flow.
Wear whatever you want. Learn to sew so that you can alter your garments to fit YOU and make YOU happy. You are more then deserving of feeling good about yourself and what you wear, do not let this bs industry hurt you.
I’m getting slightly off topic, but during my costuming program, I was one of the few people who didn’t do a fashion design undergrad. The difference in skill level was very telling.
I was behind the curve when it came to actually constructing garments. The other students had three continuous years of sewing under their belts, and I could barely keep up.
But pattern drafting/fitting? I was not only on-par with them, in some ways I was even ahead. Because the costuming world makes clothing for individuals, not set sizes. You need to be able to work with many different body types. The fashion students were basically re-learning everything from scratch. The process is THAT different.
Prior to mass production, clothes were made to fit our body. Nowadays we’re expected to make our bodies fit the clothes.
I take no credit for the image, it’s not mine, but I totally agree with the sentiment
Ew.
Sentiments like this are rooted in misogyny, classism, and a deep misunderstanding of diet culture that borders on orthorexia.
Let’s call out the obvious slut shaming first: What is so bad about people being “fast”? We know that you’re not actually referring to a person’s diet here - No one ever said “That girl is so fast” while referring to her penchant for chicken nuggets. This phrasing is misogyny with a wink at the end, so that it can be passed off as health advice. You’re condemning people for having sex and then are claiming that it taints them forever afterward. This isn’t acceptable. It’s gross and wholly unnecessary.
And calling someone “greasy” and “fake”? Aside from being cruel and gratuitous judgements about another person’s body, they are implications that strangers are required to follow your own personal standards of appearance and appearance. Are folks really going to condemn “greasy” while glass skin and dewy makeup looks are still dominating the cosmetic world? Or is this only bad and “fake” when an Instagram filter isn’t involved? Either way, shame on you for mocking another person’s body.
“But this isn’t actually about people!” the claim often goes, “It’s about unhealthy food!” So…what’s wrong with eating a meal that was prepared quickly? Or one that is indulgent? Or one made with added nutritional content? Fortified cereal is both fast and fake, but is a great part of a balanced diet, while the occasional side of greased up bacon can be fantastic for both the body and soul. These are not foods or descriptors that are inherently bad for you.
By using these highly charged negative terms to describe food, you are contributing to a culture where people feel guilty for eating. Food is not instrinsically unhealthy, nor should it be avoided in all circumstances. And above all else, food is not an indicator of your moral value. Let’s not fall into that pattern of thinking, because it only leads to an unhealthy relationship with dietary restriction.
You people realize the body positivity movement is literally a political movement right. Like it’s a movement that was started to improve the rights of fat people and stop discrimination against fat people. You realize that. It’s not a tea party where everyone just compliments everyone else on their looks.
One time I was teaching undergrads and we were talking about how you can even define what is “fair” in employment. And I was explaining how there have been court cases about employers forcing their employees to wear makeup or do their hair/nails, etc, so of course we end up talking about flight attendants. And my students, predictably, are like, “Well ok but in the case of flight attendants, being good looking is literally just part of the job description.” So I point out how applying this principle universally would basically make it so that any employer could refuse to hire someone who was fat or ugly. And That One Kid was like, “Well if it affects the business’s ability to make money, I mean, that’s just smart.” And so I say, “Yes, that is certainly what a capitalist would say. But don’t you think that allowing that capitalist interest to take precedence would lead to a world in which it’s legally permissible to refuse to hire someone just because they’re fat or ugly? Basically legalizing discrimination and blocking access to work and livelihood?” And this motherfucker is like, “Well, yeah. ”
When I tell you I almost had to leave…I was full-body shaking and afterward, my queer students came up and were like, “omg are you okay?”
So yeah, it’s fucking political. What you think is about personal aesthetic preference is actually oppressing huge groups of people, so.
This is a fascinating example because I actually am a flight attendant, and no the fuck it isn’t a part of my job description to “be good looking.” It hasn’t been since the 60s. We’re literally first responders. Should your ER nurse have to wear makeup in order to save your life?
I am not Buddhist but have been reading this book about a women who became a Tibetan nun in the 1960′s. This was a passage that I wanted to share. I applaud her for everything she accomplished.
Of all the discrimination that Tenzin Palmo suffered, the hardest to bear was being refused the esoteric teachings and the sacred rituals - the very essence of Tibetan Buddhism, containing the methods that lead directly to Enlightenment. It was what she had become a nun to find. The path to perfection had come within her grasp and then been denied her. The reason, yet again, was solely because of her gender. Women, they said, had never been given access to these sacred truths. And so as the ceremonies and the ritual dances went on inside the temple, she sat literally outside looking in. And when she asked to be taught the secret texts she was refused. Instead she was delegated to Choegyal Rinpoche, one of her guru’s closest disciples, who proceeded to tell her nie, simple Buddhist stories. It was the way they thought a woman, a Western woman, should begin.
Her frustration was enormous. ‘It was like being at this huge banquet and being given a few little crumbs here and there. It drove me nuts. I could get absolutely nothing in depth.’, she said. ‘If I had been a man it would all have been so different. I could have joined in everything. Really, it was such a male dominated situation. It was as though I had entered a big male club. The monks were very kind to me, but on a deeper level there was resentment. They regarded having a woman on their turf as a challenge!’
Tenzin Palmo had hit the spiritual glass ceiling - the one which all Buddhist nuns with spiritual aspirations crashed into. Over the centuries they had had a raw deal. While their male counterparts sported in the monastic universities, engrossed in profound scholarship and brilliant dialectical debate, the Tibetan nuns were relegated to small nunneries where, unable to read or write, they were reduced to doing simple rituals, saying prayers for the local community or, worse still, working in monastery kitchens serving the monks. This was why there were no female Dalai Lamas, no female lineage masters. Shut out from the Establishment, denied learning and status, they were not even starters in the spiritual selection stakes.
Their sisters in the southern schools of Buddhism had it worse. In Thailand the nuns had to shuffle backwards on their knees away from any monk and never allow any part of their body to touch his meditation mat. Those with big breasts were ordered to bind them up so as not to appear overtly female!
The root of the problem had gone back to the time of the Buddha (and even before that), when women were regarded as cattle with no rights of their own. In such a climate the Buddha is reputed to have refused women into his newly formed order. Probably, it is argued, because he felt the mendicant life would be too difficult and too dangerous for the ‘weaker’ sex. There were more insidious objections too. Women, it was held, were lesser beings who were simply not capable of attaining enlightenment. There bodies forbade it. They were defiled. Shariputra, one of the Buddha’s main disciples, summed up the feelings of his day when he, on hearing of an eight-year-old girl who had reached Awakening, had exclaimed: ‘This thing is hard to believe. Wherefore, because the body of a woman is filthy and not a vessel of the Law.’
This set the tone for the prejudice and discrimination which followed. In Tibet, where the word for woman is ‘inferior born’, it was written that ‘on the basis of her body’ a woman was lesser than a man. Consequently at any religious ceremony the nuns had to sit behind the monks, and in the offering of the butter tea the most senior nun would be served after a monk of one day’s ordination. To compound it all, they were given a lesser ordination than the monks, thereby confirming them in the eyes of society as second-class spiritual citizens.
The effect of all this on the women, as Tenzin Palmo was now discovering for herself, was crushing. Their self-confidence in their ability to get anywhere on the spiritual path was reduced to virtually zero. ‘Among Tibetan women their main prayer is to be reborn in a male body. They are looked down upon from all sides. It is so unfair,’ Tenzin Palmo commented. ‘I once visited to a nunnery where the nuns had just come back from hearing a high lama teach. He had told them women were impure and had an inferior body. They were so depressed. Their self-image was so low. How can you build a genuine spiritual practice when you’re being told from all sides that you’re worthless?
At one point I asked a very high lama if he thought women could realize Buddhahood, and he replied that they could go all the way to the last second and then would have to change into a male body. And I said, “What is it about a penis that is so essential for becoming Enlightened?” ‘What is it about the male body that is so incredible?’ she asked, forthright as ever.
‘And then I asked if there was any advantage in having a female form. He said he would go away and think about it. The next day he came back and said ,”I have been thinking about it and the answer is ‘no’, there are no advantages whatsoever.” I thought, one advantage is that we don’t have the male ego.’
Urged on by her own unhappiness and the blatant unfairness of it all, Tenzin Palmo began to research the reasons for this loathing of the female body. Her findings were illuminating. ‘Th Buddha never denied that women could become Enlightened,’ she said. ‘In the early sutras the Buddha talked about thirty-two points of the body which were to be meditated on in depth. The meditator had to visualize peeling the skin off to examine what really was there - the guts, the blood, the pus, the waste matter. The Buddha’s purpose was twofold: to create detachment from our obsession with our own body and to lessen our attraction to other people’s bodies. The idea is that one is much less fascinated when one sees a skeleton stuffed with guts, blood, and feces! However, the writings later change. When you get to Nagajuna who wrote in the first century AD, and Shantideva, the object of contemplation has turned specifically to a woman’s body! The meditator now has to see the woman’s body as impure.
‘The Buddha was truly Enlightened and saw things as they really were. Others, however, used the Buddha’s insights to serve their own purposes. So, rather than looking at our identification and obsession with the physical, the Buddha’s teachings were used as a means of arousing disgust towards women. If you have a monastic set-up, it is useful to view women as “the enemy”,’ she added pointedly.
The idea that women were ‘dangerous’, wiling men away from sanctity and salvation by their seductiveness and rampant sexuality, was as old as the fable of Eve herself. Tenzin Palmo was having none of it: ‘Really! it’s the man’s mental defilements. If the man didn’t have desire and passion, nothing the woman could do would cause him any problem at all,’ she said. ‘Once a lama accused me of being seductive and causing him difficulty. I was aghast. “I’m not doing anything to you. It’s your own mind,” I protested. He laughed and admitted it was true.
‘It’s the man’s problem and he blames it all on her!’ she continued. ‘Women are supposed to be these lustful, seductive creatures but when you look at it, it’s absurd. Who has the harems? Do women have courts of men on hand to satisfy their sexual needs? Are men afraid to walk in the streets at night in case women will jump on them and rape them? Look at men in prison and the army, how they behave together! And how many male prostitutes are there? Even the male prostitutes that do exist are there to satisfy other men,’ she said, warming to her theme. ‘It’s all unbelievable projection. Men have this big problem and they put it all on to women because females happen to have a shape which is sexually arousing to them. Women don’t even have to wear seductive clothing for men to be turned on. When I was young and going through the phase of pulling my hair back and wearing big sweaters and no make-up, I had just as many boyfriends and admirers as when I dressed up.’
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if you dont want to or dont think you can lose weight just say that stop trying to justify being a lazy, childish, victim by saying you’re « healthy » you can justify it by just saying « this is how i want to be » and no one will care because when you say being a complacent, victimized, obese person with no drive is « healthy » you pollute the definition for people who want/need to know what health actually is say im fatphobic all you want… but like damn it’s not about you or your fat body it’s about the truth and making sure canon definitions and medical terms are separate from toxic label stigma and whiny baby sjw buzz words because for a lot of people who aren’t mainlining cognitive dissonance aka drooling at fat positive tik toks all day, watching tess holliday dance about and whine about being famous and shove food in her mouth, that distinction is important
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Dont worry guys! She’s just shaming people’s body AS A JOKE ♡ Its okay ♡
• Thanks for not texting back. • Thanks for body shaming me. • Thanks for telling me that I was ugly • Thanks for making me doubting of myself. • Thanks for making me think I wasn’t worth it. • Thanks for every single disgusting thing you said to my face or behind me. I believed you once. But I never will again. You made me hate myself, you made me crazy, you made me depressed, you made me wanted to kill myself.. But now I can say I’m fucking proud of who I am no matter how YOU see me. Thanks to all of that, I realised that the problem wasn’t me. The problem was and will always be you. The eyes of ignorance. Eyes that cannot see beauty, eyes that cannot perceive love. Sad are your lives when I live every single day like if it was my last. Empty are your heart when I have beautyfull, loving and caring people around me. What are you now? You! The one that told me I was ugly. NOTHING better than me and you never will. I’m who the fuck I decide I will be cuz I know I can. I am BEAUTYFULL cause I believe I am. Thanks @notenuflikes for making me look this cute on photos : meenlee Add ☝ ______________________________________
lol how you gonna ask a person to tag pictures of their own body with trigger warnings? do you not see how wrong that is? i’m not an invertbrate. i can’t do anything about having bones.
no offence but people need to, how do i say this delicately… shut the entire fuck up with the “adele looks stunning now, can’t believe how good she looks” bullshittery because yes, she does look stunning but Miss Adele Adkins
is
was
and always will be
fucking
stunning
you just hated fat people and seem to think “skinny” and “attractive” are synonymous
Adele is beautiful, was beautiful, has always been beautiful, and will remain beautiful, and you don’t deserve her
Posted over on my Facebooks but I think just as appropriate to share here:
The next person who posts a status update or shares a meme about body-shaming Harley Quinn cosplayers gets immediately de-friended. Because guess what? It’s not funny, it’s never been funny. Body shaming someone, anyone is a shitty thing to do. And you’re hardly a big shot by lording over someone that they shouldn’t be cosplaying or dressing up as a certain character ‘because you said so.’
How are you the one to decide what people should like and how they should express that enthusiasm for the thing they’re passionate about? Who made you the gate keeper of DC comics / movies and of costuming? The thing about these memes is that they don’t exist in a vacuum.
You may share one meme about 'girls who shouldn’t be dressing as Harley Quinn’ and defend because it was just for a joke, and you’re a nice person. But that now sits next to every comment anyone has ever had about their weight, or their looks, or how they’re not a 'real’ fan of something.You have just become part of the problem and joined the thousands of other voices the person has had to experience through-out their lifetime telling them that they’re not good enough, the way they dress is inappropriate, to 'lose weight’ or 'eat a hamburger’ or to stop costuming because they’re obviously 'not a real fan.
ppl act like fat positivity is gonna make people want to be fatter. like, no. fat positivity exists for people who are already fat and feel like shit because society says u don’t matter if you’re fat. we literally need positivity in order to feel like we are normal people.
entering your 20s is realizing that the voice in your head that’s yelling “you’re disgusting! you should be ashamed! you don’t deserve it!” is your mother’s voice. entering your 20s is realizing she doesn’t deserve to live in your mind. that she doesn’t deserve to live at all.
As you might imagine, I get stared at a lot. Usually I just ignore it, but this was way too over the top obvious and excessive lol they looked counter culture or whatever too ~ one had dreads and they all had tattoos. I was at a really wonderful local restaurant which is always pretty exclusively full of super open minded people. I never would have expected to have to deal with such rudeness there. People really blow my mind sometimes.
Quick reminder, especially with this tumblr purge, that Eros, otherwise known as Cupid, the god of sensual love and desire, has a belly and Aphrodite/Venus, his mother, the goddess of love, beauty and pleasure has one breast larger than the other.
