LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
Fucking GLAAD: Hey can we be more discrete with our lan-
Exclus: OH SO YOU WANT ME TO STOP BEING GAY? DO YOU WANT ME TO BE ERASED? YOU WANT ACES TO TAKE OVER? I’LL HAVE YOU KNOW MY TWO GRANDFATHERS DIED AT STONEWALL FOR ME TO ALIENATE ASEXUALS AT ANY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY. GOOD DAY, SIR. I SAID GOOD DAY!
Just admit that you’re a homophobe.
If you don’t want LGBT people to have spaces where we can actually safely express our sexuality, but instead cater to people whose identity is based on a disconnect from the sexual experience, then you’re a homophobe, plain and simple.
You goobers literally NEVER make these demands of the average cis-het. No, you be these demands of LGBT people.
You are toxic. You are bullies. You are homophobes.
*raises hand* I would like if everyone could keep it in their pants unless they are in privacy or at a club… That’s just kind of how I feel as a modest human being who would like to walk down the street and see kind gestures of love rather than two people engaging in foreplay on the sidewalk. People of all sexualities should be able to show affection or sexuality, but at the right time please.
Where the fuck are you going where there’s “foreplay on the sidewalk”? That’s pure hyperbole and a total dodge.
Even the Leather floats at Pride parades are never any less scantily clad than billboards for stripper clubs on the freeway – but Poor Pweshuss Smol Ace Beans would rather bully LGBT orgs to “de-sexualise LGBTOMFGWTFBBQ spaces,” rather than cis-het society, which is homophobia, pure and simple.
If they actually cared about what they perceived as an overall oversaturation of sexuality in society, they’d join forces with feminist groups, but they don’t, cos they’re misogynistic, in addition to homophobic.
LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
Fucking GLAAD: Hey can we be more discrete with our lan-
Exclus: OH SO YOU WANT ME TO STOP BEING GAY? DO YOU WANT ME TO BE ERASED? YOU WANT ACES TO TAKE OVER? I’LL HAVE YOU KNOW MY TWO GRANDFATHERS DIED AT STONEWALL FOR ME TO ALIENATE ASEXUALS AT ANY GIVEN OPPORTUNITY. GOOD DAY, SIR. I SAID GOOD DAY!
Just admit that you’re a homophobe.
If you don’t want LGBT people to have spaces where we can actually safely express our sexuality, but instead cater to people whose identity is based on a disconnect from the sexual experience, then you’re a homophobe, plain and simple.
You goobers literally NEVER make these demands of the average cis-het. No, you be these demands of LGBT people.
You are toxic. You are bullies. You are homophobes.
LGBT people: share an experience that is based on persecution of our sexuality and gender expression, have formed spaces to openly express our sexuality and our relationship with gender as safely as possible (even though we still sometimes get killed for it when in those spaces)
Acey-beans: we should center LGBT spaces around REAL shared experiences outside of heteronormativity! Like cake! UwU
Also it seems that our colors are always associated with villains, why is that?
Because Lavender was initially a lesbian/gay identifying color and all of these villains are actually very clearly gay coded (except Frolo obvs)
I mean seriously. Ursala is LITERALLY based on a drag queen. Stop trying to claim ace oppression using gay characters
Even Frollo has a fair dose of gay coding, in spite of the sexual frustration regarding Esmerelda.
Effeminate mannerisms
Delicate features
Ostensibly celibate cos Church (granted, in the novel, he’s an Archdeacon, and it’s been an open secret for centuries that many LGBT people entered the Church to deny their nature and avoid persecution)
Contrasts with the Manly Man of Phoebus, and to a lesser extent, Quasimodo, the heroes
It’s subtle, especially compared to the rest of the above, and while he’s not listed on TV Tropes’ page for “The Sissy Villain”, he certainly fits MUCH of that description (they even note that this kind of character is actually usually portrayed as “sexually ambiguous,” but sometimes is even written as hetero).
Apparently “pee your pants” is a significant thing going around tumblr now, but because I follow a lot of ace discourse blogs (look, I know, I like to torture myself), I see it mostly used in the “exclusionist” community when they have no rebuttal for an argument.
Anyways, I just want to tell my story. When I was working at this Asian restaurant for a part time summer job last year, my co-worker bailed on me. I was the host that night, right? And an 8-top came in while I was on the phone. Right in front of me they just kept talking and talking while I put the person on the phone. You probably saw where this is going, but I literally did it. Right then and there I pissed my pants. You guys are probably laughing at it, but it was mortifying. I had to grab one of our menu boards and put it in front of my short shorts and walk quietly around. The entire situation was mortifying. I still have to live with that experience to this day. To people who say “pee your pants is tumblr’s new kill yourself”: no, you fucking morons. It’s worse.
You guys will probably read this and reblog it with “pee your pants” because that’s how you guys are. But whatever. When has Tumblr ever listened to anyone else’s experiences? Goodnight.
hey this is op’s friend and… i don’t appreciate everyone making fun of him. this kind of stuff is really important and you need to listen to people who speak their mind like this?? if we can’t show one person respect when he needs it then how do you expect to live your life in the future.
THIS^^^ Tumblr faggots never stop do they lol.
Holy homophobia, batman!
You kids want to be part of the LGBT community, while continuing to prove how much you hate us.
if you like someone, and you like having sex with them, and you wanna have sex with them…. that’s what sexual attraction is. there’s not some other secret definition!! it’s not that deep!!
Do people honestly think it’s deeper than this? Iean yes you “have” people that need to be emotionally attached, but still that’s a whole seperate bag.
asexuals who say stuff like ‘I love my partner and I like having sex with them but I’m ace!!!!’
I never intrinsically want to have sex. I am never intrinsically motivated to have sex. I don’t find my partner or anyone sexually attractive; I have never looked at or thought about anybody and subsequently thought or felt “wow, I want to have sex with them.”
But I love my partner, and seeing him smile makes me smile; seeing him happy makes me happy. So when my partner wants to have sex, I generally “like” having sex with him because it’s something he really likes. I “like” it because it makes him happy and it’s one way for us to be physically close and affectionate. (For me, sex itself is at best kinda fun, but often just meh. Nice sometimes, decently tolerable mostly. But with my partner, it’s nice because he’s enjoying it, and I enjoy him enjoying it.)
And that is not the same as sexual attraction. He knows it. I know it.
I “like” sex, and can “enjoy” sex if I put my mind to it, but sexual attraction means that you like sex because you like it, intrinsically, yourself. I don’t, ever. But despite that, I still say I “like” sex in some cases (at least in some way) because the person I love likes it, and I like making them happy. And sometimes I still “want” sex because I’d like to be physically close with my partner, or I know he’s had a rough day, or it’s a special occasion, or I otherwise know he’ll really appreciate it.
Even if you don’t understand, I’m ace and I love my partner and I like having sex with them becauseofreasons besides sexual attraction.
This is literally how women have been socialised to relate to sex for CENTURIES.
It’s not unhealthy to have sex when you don’t want it to please someone else.
Are you being sarcastic?
That is literally rape culture.
If you don’t want sex, the only healthy option is to not consent to sex. “Consent” given just to make someone else happy is literally rape culture.
If you genuinely believe that it’s “healthy” to consent to doing things with your body that you don’t want to do, just to please someone else, maybe ask yourself why?
Next time someone says that ‘aphobia’ isn’t a thing, show them this.
This is why it’s so important to educate people about asexuality. Through my work, I’ve encountered many people who aren’t just ignorant when it came to asexuality, they’re aggressively against it. There are asexual people who don’t want to come out just so that they don’t have to experience remarks like the ones I’m reading out there.
uhh, hi! i made a discourse server! again! because i want to be active in this stuff without the toxicity of tumblr beyond me!
i’ll make an official post soon but it’s still in its baby stages so ;;;
everyone is welcome! we have multiple fun bots, discourse channels, channels to show your art or your pets or the like, etc. feel free to promo this to your friends! keep in mind that we do have measures in place to prevent raids.
I wanted to come out of the woodwork since I still look at the asexual tag sometimes. This ace discourse is shit because I and other asexuals were fucking medicalized by our trusted doctors and other medical professionals for being asexual but apparently that’s not bad enough for you.
All I can say is that I am happy that my real life support group understands this and supports me. I encourage everyone to try and find a real life support group wherever you can, even if it’s just a single person or someone over Skype. It’s better than this faceless text posts that can easily overlook whatever doesn’t suit their narrative.
In other news I should be making a post soon in my foster blog. Exciting.
I’ve never experienced oppression or discrimination by calling myself bisexual.
But I have been bullied, verbally abused, and called a freak because of my asexuality.
It’s incredibly rare that someone chooses to be in a relationship that doesn’t involve sex. We are rejected by our partners & love interests & even by the LGBT community, when all we asked from them was acceptance. Even if you’re LGBT, you’re expected to have sexual relationships with someone.
Regardless, we are deserving of romantic connection & love. It can be lonely, being excluded from relationships, the lgbt community. Being called “broken” and “medically abnormal”.
So don’t you dare tell me asexuals aren’t marginalised .
