#conversation
Carl Pruscha
Kathmandu Valley
Conversation with Carl Pruscha in the second edition of Revue DAS
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Holding hands?!
Was having a normal conversation with a neighbour of mine. When the lgbt subject came.
I’m asexual but, because it’s a term that nobody knows and that isn’t recognised, I never say I am.
So, we’re talking about another person that had came out as gay and saying that nowadays there are a lot of people coming out. When all of a sudden she affirmed that lgbt is a trend now…
I didn’t know what to say.
She continued. “I have nothing against them but, walking around making noise about it… just doesn’t make sense!”
At this point I thought “We’ll, she might be talking about the parades” and for someone of her age… ok I get. But then…
“Kissing in public and holding hands…? They shouldn’t do it. I mean (excusing herself) our society isn’t that acceptable yet. But I’m not against it, they can do wathever they want”
I was so confused. I didn’t know what to say.
Like, miss, if you think that a gay couple shouldn’t even hold hands in public then, not only that isn’t “not being against” it, as, in that logic, heterosexual couples shouldn’t also hold hands, that isn’t accept by the lgbt community.
I just nodded my head and ended the conversation.
“Don’t say ‘maybe’ if you want to say 'no’.”
Lunas-worlds-blog
(1)
INFP: *some stupid meme or joke*
ISTJ: Why…(2)
ISTJ: *some stupid meme or joke*
INFP: Why…(3)
INFP: *some stupid meme or joke*
ISTJ: *some stupid meme or joke*
INFP: *some stupid meme or joke*
ISTJ: *some stupid meme or joke*
Danny:I have only been in a relationship with Steven for 3 weeks now but if anyone hurts him, other than me, I will kill everyone in this room and then myself.
Aaris:
Danny:
Aheia:
Toy Tala:
Old Tala:
Aaris: B..But you physically ca-
Danny:Hush.
Aaris: But youre a–
Danny:HUSH.
Aaris: But Im a—
Danny:HUSH YOU DONT KNOW WHAT IM CAPABLE OF!
Listen with passion
So often do we talk about speaking with passion, much rarer do we think about listening with passion.
Conversations are two-sided, they only work if one person is listening while the other is talking. Unfortunately, we tend to have a greater innate interest in making sure others know the smart, interesting and important things that we think than truly absorbing what someone else has to say. So I love this quote from Harriet Lerner:
Listen with the same passion with which we want to be heard.
If we all could do this routinely with our colleagues, friends, family, children, and partners I’d guess it’d make quite a difference.
I learned about it from Brené Brown’s Dare to Lead.
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Here are some dialogue prompts that all end with the word “but.” Feel free to use any of them and finish the sentences! You can get creative with the context!
- “I’m sorry, but…”
- “That’s great, but…”
- “I know that, but…”
- “Excuse me, but…”
- “I’ll do it, but…”
- “I understand, but…”
- “Thank you, but…”
- “I’ll be there, but…”
- “I promise, but…”
- “You’re right, but…”
- “I appreciate that, but…”
- “I tried to, but…”
- “That makes sense, but…”
- “I forgive you, but…”
- “I’m flattered, but…”
- “That’s a good idea, but…”
- “You can have it, but…”
- “I can’t remember, but…”
- “It’s fine, but…”
- “I love you, but…”
People making small talk, 1842. Source: The Miriam and Ira D. Wallach Division of Art, Prints and Photographs: Picture Collection, The New York Public Library
In 1818, future first lady Louisa Adams wrote to her father-in-law, John Adams: “How much practice…is required to receive company well, and how much the greatest talents are obscured by that want of ease and small talk which, though in itself trifling, always produces the happy effect of socializing a company and by insensible degrees warming it into brilliancy and solidity. This is one of those arts that everybody feels, but few understand, and is altogether inexplicable.”
Louisa believed the ability to make small talk was so important that, four years later, in a letter to her husband, John Quincy Adams, she listed it as the first ingredient in her recipe for a successful presidential candidate.
Take a good deal of small talk; a very little light literature; just sufficient attention to dress to avoid the appellation of a dandy: a considerable affectation of social affability; with as much suavity as will induce the fawners who surround him to fancy they rule him; a fine house, a showy carriage, and a tavern kind of keeping establishment; and you have the man whose popularity will carry everything before him.
As Louisa knew, small talk does not always come naturally. For a guide to how it used to be done, see “How to Make Small Talk in the 19th Century.”
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I get a few messages from people wanting someone to talk to about everything that has come to light regarding YouTubers they used to watch.
I however don’t always have time to reply to all these messages. Instead I suggest that people like this post if they think it’s okay for others to message them to talk. (And if you no longer want to talk to people about this you simply unlike the post).
Meaning that, if you want someone to talk to, look through the notes of this post - it’s okay to send a message to the users who have likedthis!
Note that if someone rebloggs this (which, please do!) that doesn’t say anything about weather the person wants to receive messages or not.
Not sure if this will work or not, but I’m giving it a go!
Messaging
I don’t mind it if people message me, just don’t start with something like ‘hi’ and then continue to message with bad grammar. It would also be nice if you try to hold the conversation too
