#questioning
If you worry you’re faking your gender, your sexuality, if you worry that you’re faking anything, you’re not.
If you were faking you would have consciously chosen to. The fact that you question if you’re faking shows you aren’t.
I’ve been questioning my gender a little bit lately
A small change in pronouns can mean a lot (especially with your best friend by your side :))
THIS
There’s literally no point in telling teenagers online that gender ‘does not exist’ and therefore their gender is also ‘fake’ and that they /are/ their biological sex.
I was there. I was a dysphoric teenager. I did not see how I could possibly not be an FtM; everything fit. Random people online sending me messages about how I was actually ‘just’ a lesbian did not make me change my mind or reconsider things. In fact, it just made me more convinced that I’d have to show everyone what a good guy I could make. And that’s what I did. It worked for quite some years.
Now I’m in my late twenties and I identify as a lesbian; not as an FtM anymore. It hurts to see people approaching those with gender dysphoria the way I was approached, as it doesn’t make anything better. It only made me bitter.
What does help, is to see diversity. Different stories. Know that there are many options. Feeling understood; that you’re not alone.