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THE FORMULA: Activate numerous brain regions (energy/frequency being emitted) + form more neural connections (new reality forming) + rewire previous neural connections (old reality) = MANIFEST! ✨
I’m so happy that many of you are interested in how to use Neuroscience to manifest! I am eager to share with you how to take your manifestations to the next level Few people know this information, which is a huge problem because as an individual, you possess so much power and no one knows how to effectively use it.
I have written this step by step guide to manifesting a life of luxury. If you are doubtful, I encourage you all to try this for 30 days, and see the difference in your life. I am 100% confident this will work for you.
Give it a try. After all,what do you have to lose?
The first thing I want to ensure you all understand is that depending on what you are manifesting, the approach will be different. The nervous system is extremely complex. With that being said, I made this guide to focus more on living a luxurious life because manifesting luxury is one of the easiest things to manifest. So is money, but that’s a topic for another day.
1. Define Luxury. [motor neurons, dorsal parietal cortex, frontal + temporal lobe, feedback loop]
Begin by writing out what luxury means to you! Is it lots of wealth? Shopping trips each weekend? Being spoiled? Self care? Lots of fun and new adventures? Write. It. Out. Be sure to write this in present tense. Example: “I love my luxurious life! I shop every single weekend, and eat at the most exquisite restaurants everyday!”.
Script EVERY single day during these 30 days. Do not skip! Your mind has thousands of thoughts a day, some that still contain limiting beliefs (that you may not be aware of!). If you are not actively rewiring your brain each day for luxury, you are putting yourself at a disadvantage. If you do this now, in the future, your brain will automatically project luxury because it has been wired to.
Neuroscience behind it: Scripting is more effective than just speaking affirmations because you are not only writing them, you are simultaneously reading.
Writing = giving. Reading = receiving. By scripting you have unknowingly created a neural feedback loop! This is the beginning of the formation of your new reality.
Avoid writing the same phrases every single day, otherwise habituation may occur (very common with verbal affirmations). Habituation will lead to less neural firing. This is why reciting the same 10 affirmations each day, everyday eventually stops working. Switch it up!
2. Emotional Visualization. [visual association cortex/VAC, limbic system, hippocampus]
Now, associate emotions with luxury. What emotions do you feel when you thinkof luxury? What emotions do you feel when you experienceluxury?Comfort? Bliss? Relaxation? Security? Pride? Choose at least 3 emotions if possible.
Next, visualize a scene with these emotions. This scene should be short, less than 10 seconds. It can be something as simple as you purchasing a designer bag! Just be sure to be feelingthe emotions fully. There is no point in absentmindedly visualizing with no emotion. The goal is to trick your brain into believe it is really occurring.
Neuroscience behind it: If you manage to evoke a strong enough emotion, it has the potential to become a memory in the hippocampus. Create a memory of luxury in your brain, so it can be retrieved and projected by your subconscious at any time.
Visualize every night as you are falling asleep. This is the best time to visualize! Most coaches will tell you to enter Theta state to manifest– which is true. However, I want you to aim to enter DELTA. This will take some practice, but will really help your manifestations.
If you struggle with experiencing emotions while visualizing, a trick I like to do is think of something that makes me happy, then when I feel that happiness, I switch to the scene I am visualizing and carry the emotion over
3. Self Care [afferent neurons, limbic system, frontal lobe]
Aim to always live in a wish fulfilled state. The easiest way to do this when manifesting luxury is devoting yourself to self care. Some examples include:
- Waking up 15 minutes early to meditate/do yoga in the morning
- Enjoying hot tea and journaling
- Getting a facial
- Taking a bubble bath
- Getting a massage
- Protecting your energy/setting up boundaries (less negative interactions = more positive emotions)
Neuroscience behind it: By activating your afferent neurons (“sensory” neurons), the signal will automatically travel throughout your nervous system, and activate the limbic system (emotional network). The positive sensations you are experiencing will lead to positive emotions in the limbic system. This system is also related to the manifestation of behavior. This is why when those are experiencing altered realities (through use of psychedelic drugs, schizophrenia) the limbic system is heavily involved. Therefore, if you give yourself these luxurious experiences, your brain will have no choice but to spit out luxurious EMOTIONS, luxurious BEHAVIOR, luxurious REALITIES. Is it all starting to come together now?
If this is a confusing concept, let me share a real-life, medical example with you all: I encountered a patient last month who had Pica due to anemia. She was craving soil/clay and had started eating it. So what happened here?
Her body was anemic —> her brain picked up the imbalance/signals of the anemia —> her brain created the desire (emotions) for her to consume dirt —> the behavior manifested into reality because her brain kept getting the signals that she was anemic. The constant thoughts/desire REWIRED her brain until it manifested into her reality.
4. Relax. Don’t. React. Don’t. Doubt. [All reactions = firing of neurons. Neurons that FIRE together, WIRE together!]
The biggest mistake people make while manifesting is when they have a less preferable emotion or thought, they REACT. You might quickly rush to change the thought to a positive one, thinking if you quickly change the thought, the “universe” won’t hear the doubt you experienced.
This is amusing to me, because all you are doing is making your neurons react more. Because that second of panic you felt as you quickly tried to change the thought was millions of neurons firing to correct that one moment of doubt. You created a cascade over one little thing.
Relax If you ever doubt yourself, or think something that does not match the frequency of what you are manifesting, simply observe the thought. Allow those neurons involved with the thought to finishtheir cascade.
Your neurons are like children: they repeat whatever they hear. And if they’ve been hearing one thought for so long (a less preferable one), they will naturally fire that thought even if you haven’t been thinking about it for a while. Why? Because that was what they were wiredto do.
Silly neurons.
Whenever you have a less preferable thought or doubt creeps your mind: allow it. Welcome it. Do not scramble to change the thought. Scrambling will only cause chaos and resistance.
Instead, mentally tell yourself, “Thank you for showing me what I have ascended from.” And begin experiencing one of your short visualizations regarding luxury. Be gentle with your brain. You are one. You are the operant power.
5. Essential Catalysts [rewiring neurons, neuroplasticity, synaptic pruning apoptosis]
The easiest way to make your manifestations occur faster is to introduce essential catalysts to disrupt your old frequencies and neural circuitry. If you have been stuck in a certain mindset for a long time (depression, poverty, low self esteem) you cannot expect these neural connections to just “disappear” because you avoid thinking about them. You must do one of two things:
- Rewire the neurons (because your brain is “plastic” and can change always!)
or
- Synaptic pruning (elimination of synapses/connections that we no longer use).
Eventually neurons will naturally die (apoptosis). Avoid doing anything that will cause cell death prematurely because you probably will end harming neurons you needin the process.
At least 3 times during the week, do something you would not normally do. Although this can be anything, I recommend the following:
- Eat at a restaurant you have never tried before
- Make a new friend each week
- Sign up for a class (such as dance, painting, or yoga)
- Explore the upscale areas near where you live
- Take a bubble bath
I wish you all luck on your journey to luxury. Please update me on how your progress is going. I hope I explained it thoroughly and simplistically. If there are any further questions, you are all welcomed to submit them Lots of love.
~ holy hedonist // 1.9.21
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Black Femininity | Increasing Your Feminine Energy
Many young black girls unfortunately were raised by masculine-leading women. So, feminine energy may not come naturally to some.…
The Art of Having Elegant Manners✨
“I would like to be as good as her”
“Where does that come from ?”
“What did she have that I don’t ?”
“Why am I not like this ?”
“Is it about privilege?”
Choosing the right colours for your skin tone
Did you know that there are different clothing colours for your skin tone? Just like choosing jewelry, you can complement your complexion with the colours you wear! This process involves looking at your undertone, hair colour, and eye colour.
Typically, most people are placed into four different seasons or colour palettes. Check out this picture below to find colour palettes that can accentuate your skin tone.
Cool Hues
Summer Wardrobe Colors
If you got summer as your season, chances are you have blue veins or light-coloured eyes. It can be a bit confusing because we relate tanned skin to summertime. However, when it comes to wearing a summer colour palette, clothing looks best on those that contain cool undertones! You probably burn easily when out in the sun. Summer wardrobe colour palette that will feel the most vibrant will be muted colours with a cool hue. You will look great in Rosey-pink lipstick and may often wear sky blue.
Winter Wardrobe Colors
On the other hand, if you are a winter, you will have dark hair, dark eyes, and a cool undertone. This undertone must not be mistaken for being fair-skinned, but rather, your skin and hair often contrast harmoniously. Winters look best in sharp, contrasting colours. They will feel the most vibrant when wearing bright colours with a cool hue. You will look good in firecracker red lipstick. Wearing a navy blue will also look great on a winter-toned person.
Warm Hues
Spring Wardrobe Colors
In contrast to the seasons above, if you are a spring, you will have a warm skin undertone and will see your veins as green. Similar to Summer, you will have light hair and light eyes (this does not refer to the colour, but rather the brightness and dimension of your hair and eyes). Spring’s tend to tan easily and have a ‘yellow hue’ or golden look’ to them. True Springs look the most vibrant in bright colours with a warm hue. You will look good in orangey-red lipstick and may often wear aqua blue.
Autumn Wardrobe Colors
Autumns will also have warm skin undertones. Unlike springs, Autumns tend to have darker hair and eyes. Theywill also tan easily. True Autumns look the most vibrant in muted colours with a warm hue. You will look good in cranberry red lipstick and often wear teal blue. After taking the quiz I found out I’m a mix of autumn and spring Colours!
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Losing friends on your level-up journey
If you began to notice that you’re keeping regular contact with fewer people than you did prior to your level up, there’s nothing to worry about. Losing friends while growing older is probably a good thing.
Here are some things you might experience as you get older and begin your level-up journey..
Ways to Overcome Low self esteem Part 2
Hey loves! You are viewing part 2 of my “How to fix low self-esteem series” CLICK HERE to view part 1!
What is low self Esteem..?
Low self-esteem is caused by feelings of unworthiness or the feeling that we are far behind where we are supposed to be in life. How did we come to decide that we are not good enough? How did we come up with the “ideal self” that we do not seem to attain?
4.Practice Gratitude
Be grateful for what you already have, be it your health, your family and friends, your home, the food you eat every day. Don’t take these things for granted.
5.Make time for yourself
Time is the most valuable thing we have because it is the only thing that no money on earth could buy. Do not spend with the wrong people! Time is better spent alone than with people who don’t appreciate and value your company.
6.Do not tolerate mediocrity from anyone!
The main reasons people tolerate mediocrity & bad behaviour. Is either because they view themselves as inferior based on superficialities or because they need validation from that person. People will only treat you the way you allow them to, so the way people treat you is your responsibility.
Boundaries We Must Set In Relationships…
“Boundaries are such an important topic because they are one of the important pillars of self-love.”
Homemaker or a Career Woman? Pros and Cons
This post was based on a question I received on my thoughts on stay-at-home moms & wives.Click here to read.
Ladies, it is essentialto know the lifestyle you want to live. If your main priority is to take care of your kids and enjoy leisure time. Then, you may prefer to be a stay-at-parent. If being a boss babe and having independence is important to you, you may prefer being an entrepreneur or having a career.
Perks of being a Career Woman
Financial Independence:
- When you make your own money, YOUcall the shots! If financial independence is important to you and gives you peace of mind a career might be for you.
- You may like the status and recognition that comes with earning your own money.
Larger social pool:
- Most stay-at-home moms hang out with their families and other stay-at-home moms. If you enjoy socializing in corporate functions a career is a better option.
- When you have a career that takes you places and into settings with a variety of people, it can be more rewarding for your career or business.
Purpose beyond family life:
- Although being a mother and wife is rewarding, some may want a life surpassing home.
- If you feel your calling is beyond being a mother and wife a career you are passionate about you fulfill that need.
- You don’t want to look back and wish you did more. Find a life that is worth living, and that includes working.. so be it.
Perks of being a Homemaker
You never miss a moment:
- When you stay at home you can be there for every moment of your kid’s childhood.
- From ballet practice to graduations to prom. You won’t miss a beat! (My mom was a stay-at-home mom for 15 years. she was there for my sibling through everything.)
Rest in your femininity:
- Feminine energy is receptive and less active than masculine energy. When you stay home and are able to live more leisurely you can rest in your femininity.
- Allows your partner to work hard for you and your family while you focus on making the house a home.
Freedom (more or less):
- You can spend the day as you wish with no other obligation than taking care of the kids, possibly making meals and maintaining the home.
- Attending meetups with other stay-at-home moms.
- picking up a profitable hobby like blogging or painting.
Disclaimer: You can be a successful ambitious woman and a stay-at-home mom, but remember: it can be very difficult to do it all at once! This can eventually lead to burnout.
My top 5 favourite Level Up Affirmations
Affirmation #1: I am uniquely created with a purpose.
You being here was not an accident. You living the life you live and coming into contact with the people you’ve met has not been an accident. Don’t go wasting it all and aimlessly moving about life. Every step you take has a purpose. You have a purpose. So live on purpose!
Affirmation #2: It is okay to say no.
It is okay to say no so that you can say yes to yourself.Yes to protect your mental space. Protect your energy. Say yes to more rest. Say yes to doing more of what you love. Spend 2022 saying yes to you more.
Affirmation #3: I am capable & I am competent.
I am challenging myself to focus less on the information or skills I may not have yet and put my energy into what I do have and can provide. Most importantly, I remember that I am capable of digesting information and developing the needed skills along the way.
How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.
How selfish is it to think that the gifts and talents you have are for you? What good is having gifts if you don’t use them and share them from time to time? You like writing and you have a story to tell but do you think you’ll just keep it all to yourself? Someone out there needs to see or hear what you have to share.
You never know how sharing your light can significantly impact another life. God gave you these gifts and you’re going to keep them to yourself? Don’t be stingy with what the Universe/God gave you.
Affirmation #5: It may be scary, but anything is achievable.
If you are thinking about taking a leap of faith and betting on yourself, whether it’s going for that job promotion or starting that business, or moving out on your own, then go for it.
Don’t let the fear of the unknown scare you and stop you in your tracks. We spend a lot of time focusing on the fear of the “what-ifs” when we are thinking about making a change and that only leads to anxiety, procrastination, and lost time. You can never truly know what will happen until you have begun to move.
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5 Ways to Express Your Emotions in a Healthy Feminine Manner Pt 2
If you haven’t seen part 1 yet, CLICK HERE!
Here’s are 5 more ways to express your emotions in a healthy feminine manner.
Pamper yourself
Wash your hair, go shopping, treat yourself to a spa day. Whatever it is that helps you unwind and feel pampered do it! This isn’t a long-term solution to unresolved feelings it might be a quick fix to turn your day and mood around.
Invest in therapy
I highly encourage all women on their journey to better themselves to go to therapy.We are all the products of our childhood, and many of us have experienced trauma as children. It is your job to explore those feelings and get to the root of your issues. A therapist who has experience can help you with this!
Process your emotions
Rest and recovery should be a part of all processes. Take time to reflect on what triggered your emotional state. Dealing with your emotions is the key to healing.
Exercise
Regulating our emotions can be made easier through exercise. When we exercise, our body releases dopamine and endorphins that give us all types of good feelings of reward & pleasure. In addition to it being good for our long term health.
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I got dressed up with the intention of taking some awesome hospital glam photos in my GP’s office today, but… Sometimes, it’s just not going to happen.
I had to try on about 10+ different pieces of clothing before I could find an outfit that wasn’t just falling off me thanks to the 25lbs I’ve lost in the past 6 months. Getting dressed and undressed over and over with joints that don’t stay in their sockets, and low blood pressure…
You maybe can’t imagine how that leaves me feeling, but let’s just say it’s not glam. And that’s completely okay. A big lesson that has featured in my life these past few years is learning how to have flexible expectations of myself. How to let go of an idea that may not be possible given my physical limitations in that moment.
I’m still learning. It’s all about experience points and leveling up. There is no level cap in these lessons, just like anyone’s life, sick, disabled, or not.
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what are you manifesting for the New Year?
✨Speak it into existence✨
- deeply rooted shadow work ✨
- meditating religiously ♀️
- growing spiritually
- financle security
- new house
- balancing and aligning all my chakras
- abundance on all levels ♂️
- growing as a witch
- becoming the best mom/person I can be ❤️
- gaining patience and self awareness
these were my goals from last year, imagine what they’ll be like this year. I’m so excited! and ya know, I’ve accomplished just about all of these in ways I didn’t expect.. except the meditation thing, my kids make that impossible lmao
Are You Mad That Shuri Is The New Black Panther Because You’re Worried About Legacy, Or Is It Misogynoir?
In a recent statement, Marvel announced that they’ll begin shooting the second part of the MCU’s Black Panther next summer, and Shuri’s character (played by Letitia Wright) will be taking on a more significant role in the franchise, likely as the new Black Panther herself.
Black Panther, 2018
Yes, Black Panther may be a Black woman, and bros, hoteps, plus misogynoirist men alike are in their feelings about it.
I initially tried to be patient about any scrutiny toward the announcement considering why the change is being made. Many of us are still coping with Chadwick Boseman’s tragic and untimely passing, myself included.
Then I read the complaints and realized that a lot of the upset is around Letitia or Shuri taking on the role and Black Panther no longer being a man.
Countless men shared that they’d be O.K. with T'Challa’s son Azari stepping forward as his heir (Storm hasn’t even been introduced to the MCU, so the idea that T'Challa could’ve somehow met her and had a child who is now an adult between parts one and two is unrealistic.) or Erik Killmonger, the deceased character who nearly DESTROYED Wakanda, some even touted the idea that using a different man altogether, would be a better fit than the Princess of Wakanda and smartest character in the MCU.
Is it always anyone but Black women?
It’s evident that their issue isn’t with the role being filled by another character, but that it may go to a Black woman specifically.
Shuri #2, 2018
There’s been a lot of talk about “legacy” in the past year or so, usually framed within a patriarchal context, with a focus on a man’s acquisitions and his son’s inheritance, or the idea that as femmes, girls, and women, part of our life’s work is to protect and preserve the material “legacies” of men – even at our own expense.
Black women and femmes are often excluded from discussions about legacy, reinforcing behaviors that ask us to spend our lifetime contributing to the legacies of others and doing the labor of building and protecting communities without benefiting from that work. Our so-called inheritance is immaterial, such as expressions of praise from those who consume our labor, frequently manifesting as compliments about how hard we work or how strong we are. A reminder that for many of you, Black women and girls are only your “KWEENS” and “princesses©” in performance.
Black Panther, Shuri, 2018, Ken Lashley
Sometimes this looks like shaming us when we attempt to claim the fruits of our labor, asking for more, or being gifted an inheritance as beneficiaries of Black empowerment. I think that’s the case here; critics don’t want Shuri to be Black Panther because they don’t value or prioritize Black femme representation, and they don’t respect the contribution of Black women like Letitia Wright.
Furthermore, you weirdos never want Black women to have anything ever, especially if we haven’t slaved for it.
Shuri is the smartest character in the MCU. She innovates technology that protects her kingdom, is T'Chaka’s only daughter and rightful heir to the Wakandan throne. Shuri becoming the Black Panther is also canon in the comic book series. Why wouldn’t she be next in line as the Queen Of Wakanda?
Many of those who cheered in support of Chadwick Boseman giving part of his salary from the film 21 Bridges to Sienna Miller are outraged by the thought of Letitia Wright playing Black Panther. (Interrogate why you feel this way,) why the thought of Chadwick wanting to pass the role to Letitia, a Black woman, is somehow too difficult to comprehend, despite his work and character showing that he cared deeply for the Black women he knew and worked with and would likely be in support of this change.
Ask yourselves why you’re truly angry about a woman becoming the new Black Panther because Black femme empowerment isn’t what’s ruining Black image and legacy; your sexism and misogyny is.
EDIT: This was posted before Letitia made those Tweets. SMH, we were rooting for you.
“My energy is expensive. I reserve it for the people, spaces, content, and things that add value to my life and align with my values.”
Artwork: Don Dixon 1977, [Communities] In Space
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“As a Black femme who’s been blamed for the downfall of community and “democracy” for merely setting boundaries, having standards, and saying no. Seeing this much grace extended by the public to an abusive war criminal has made me MORE audacious about my preservation and autonomy.”
This racket seeks to run us dry. Erasure in exchange for slivers of conditional approval will never be worth our life’s autonomy. It’s time to stop chasing after the dignity that’s been afforded to our counterparts for free.
Artwork:@zaigahar
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Some view the presence of confident, self-assured, brazenly unconventional women and femmes as a challenge, when they should find and view what they lack within themselves instead.
Artwork: Moebius
Captions: @futurefemmetext
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How to lvl up in life and politic; distance yourself from any and all entities invested in your depravation, failure, and destruction.
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I’m at a new stage in life where when it comes to dating I have no issues weeding out the boys who reveal themselves quickly to be misogynistic, narcissistic, etc.
I have gotten to know some great men as of lately and something I wasn’t prepared for was having to reject good men because our values or nonnegotiables do not align. I knew it was coming but nothing could’ve prepared me for it.
There is one in particular who is a total provider and protector and things were going great for a while. Everyone is charmed by him and he is gentle and sweet and is always catering to me in romantic ways. As I continued to peel the layers back of his personality I’ve come to realize that his original claims of wanting to be traditional are not true. He’s made side comments about children before marriage because some of his friends have done it so it’s “normalized” now. I simply can’t stand these views and do not want to be associated with his circle of friends even if they’re successful monetarily. In my eyes they are some sort of cancer spreading these modern ways that don’t benefit women. He’s done nothing wrong so having to break things off with him is going to be confusing for a lot of people. It’s not that I haven’t done it before, I was a little more invested with him than others and he was on the right track for a long time. I feel shitty ending things with someone so good to me and I have to remind myself that I deserve much more. I mostly hear about women ending things with men who have hurt them but in this case he hasn’t hurt me at all. I’ve just realized that there is no point in continuing to see him. On some level I feel that breaking things off with a good person is harder than someone who has done you wrong because at least then the reason is more motivating. I need to learn how to detach in a different way then I have before.
I’m debating wether to have social media again or not. I love the privacy I have had for the past two years but lately I have been reading about the importance of socialization and how it is important for health. I even keep seeing posts on Tumblr about it so it’s making me think that’s a sign I should not ignore. I do have a social life but it is mainly fitness related and a bit business related. I’m starting to realize that I may be limiting myself and that I can expand my network if I don’t keep to myself to an extreme like I usually do. Maybe there is a balance I can discover and still be happily private while participating in social media. I’m thinking a great example of this would be Lori Harvey and keep my mystery. Maybe deleting my social media and taking a break to reset and reassess my public appearance was meant to happen so that I could get to this point? I’ve learned to categorize people because of this and set clear (low)expectations for people and I have been much happier because of it.
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Black girls:
- Your features are not ugly
- Hype yourself up like no other
- Your feelings are completely valid
- Prioritize your mental health and sanity
- You are allowed to decline in or order to prioritize your mental health
- Allow yourself to be vulnerable. You are allowed to be vulnerable
- “Struggle love” is not normal and you don’t deserve it
- Write down your needs, talk yourselves through them, and get comfortable with stating them to others
You got this.✨✨✨
Get yourself friends that validate your traumatic experiences, thoughts, and feelings instead of questioning them.
Reminder: You deserve to feel mentally, physically, & emotionally safe. ✨✨✨
Reminder:
I am the prize✨
Friendly reminder:
Your happiness and mental health has to be a priority. If something isn’t aligning with that, speak up. If you’ve communicated this and nothing has changed, start preparing to walk away.
You do not have to live in misery in order to be a “stronger person”. Don’t let society make you think this. Our history is already built on trauma, you don’t need further trauma in your relationships, your profession, etc. You can be happy and you can be mentally safe without having to endure a ton of pain.
In order for you to be the best you can be, you have to be in an environment that will allow you to do this.
Happy Black History Month ❤️
Here’s to:
- working on your mental health
- developing your confidence
- drinking more water
- not allowing others to walk over you
- getting your fitness routine going
- incorporating healthier foods to your diet
- setting realistic goals and expectations for yourself
- working on being a better communicator
- believing in yourself
- being kind to yourself
- just taking care of you
You got this. ✨✨✨
✨Break generational curses & set yourself up for success professionally, financially, etc. ✨
As I reflect on the past 1-2 years, some of the things that I’ve committed to myself still stand true.
What are some things you’re committing to yourself in the New Year?
