#struggles
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I’ve been looking through some blogs today and I’ve found some people who I feel like just need someone to talk to or someone to listen to them. I may be wrong in my assumptions, and I know that some people would rather be left alone or think that it’s none of my business, but…
If you wonderful people, my followers, have any questions, complaints, achievement that may be regarding your day, how things have been recently, or just want to have a conversation with me, feel free to message me in my ask box!
If it makes you feel more secure about telling a complete stranger about your struggles and achievements, just know that I’ve given advice many times to not only my friends (who are my age, 16-17), but I’ve also been able to help out those younger and older than me. I belong to a youth group outside of school where I’ve been able to do this a lot, and when I graduate, I do also plan on studying psychology. I am truly interested in understanding others and giving aid to them. I WILL try my best to help you out! I really want to have the opportunity make anyone’s day better, if I just could.
Boyfriends, relationships, break-ups, friendships, family, achievements, personal struggles, OR WHATEVER IT MAY BE that you’re concerned about, please don’t be afraid to voice out what you think. Blow off some steam by talking to a friend or anyone who will listen to you. It’s good for you.
So what are you waiting for? I WILL be wearing my heart out on my sleeve for you. I WILL listen to you. I promise. (:<3
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I literally cannot believe that so many people go through heartbreak it is such an awful feeling ???? Like i can’t stop feeling empty and crying and feeling like someone is stabbing me in the chest over and over again and i look around and think about how many other people went through this and I’m like damn , that’s so much to go through, especially if you’ve been through it multiple times. Basically i hope it hurts less and we figure things out even if it seems like the end of the world ( it feels like that for me right now ) but I’d like to think I’ll be okay and even happy again sometime . I’m so proud of everyone slowly slowly making it day by day.
I’ve never been in a relationship. I never rlly feel the need or want of one.
Sometimes, more often than I like to admit, it brings me insecurity and uncertainty. Like I’m missing a part of life that everyone is supposed to experience. I feel inadequate.
I know that’s not true. No one is “less than” for not having an S/O.
Still, these insecurities crop up from time to time. But then, I see people talk about their S/O’s and it makes me feel trapped. The entire “they’re my whole world, we’re attached at the hip, they’re my everything” just doesn’t make me feel in awe or romantic like it does for others. It makes me grimace, and imagine the bleak existence, the caged trap, it would be to live like that.
It makes me feel like I’m suffucating.
I’ve had crushes, though they don’t last for very long at all. I’ve wanted a relationship before (that was a strange part of my life), although every aspect of being in a relationship I hate.
Maybe I just haven’t met the right person. Maybe I’m pushing myself towards one way or the other. Maybe I just need to accept my lack of wanting. I’m not sure.
I dunno if it’s just me, but there’s times where somebody talks to me and they just pour me about their ocs. That’s great! But you also gotta respect my ocs and show you’re interested.
There’s also times where somebody’s interests is not what I’m up to. I love space, sci fi, giant growth (I mean come on), and obv Henry. It makes the interacting boring and a bit frustrating. If you’re uninterested in my ocs, that’s okay! Just don’t be a jerk about it ^^ I love honesty when you’re nice about it.
I tried to be nice but sometimes I had to honest. I want to be able to interact with people who have similar interests as me. It makes the interaction so much more fun and the bond grows! (No pun intended)
Do y’all struggle with this as well?
Ok Google why do I always fall for the wrong person
I found out today that some people here try and use a stick to unclog a toilet…. And no it doesn’t work, so no need to try it at home.
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If you’re looking for a sign to stay alive, this is it.
TW body image
Everyone has struggles. Some are tangible, some aren’t. Neither is any less real or valid than the other.
I’ve held on to this image for a while now because I’ve been afraid of talking about it, afraid of what people would think or say. But if someone finds this image as helpful as I have then it’s worth it.
There have been times where I’ve gone days without eating a proper meal or at all, simply because I would get anxiety about having to convince myself that I deserved it. I’m not talking about the guilt we sometimes get when we have an extra piece of cake. This is the guilt born from you convincing yourself that you do not deserve to eat at all. It may sound silly to some, but for others it’s a daily reality, and it’s crushing them.
I’m better but I’m still learning. I still struggle but I’m no longer strangled by it. Sometimes I slip up. It’s ok to slip up as long as you recognize it and try hard to be nicer and better to yourself. You can’t withhold fuel from a car and expect it to preform better, so we shouldn’t expect that from ourselves either.
So if you take anything away from my rambling, I hope it’s this:
You are important. Your feelings are valid. You are more than good enough. You are cared about. Stop dwelling, just breathe.
#healthy #fit #fitness #struggles #bodyimage #youareimportant #youarevalid #stopdwelling #breathe #pleaseloveyourself #learn #grow (at Austin, Texas)
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Well, looks like this scheduling is going to be harder than I thought. I thought I have a pretty open schedule, even with work, and since he and I sleep together/nurse nearly every night, it should be no problem.
But, after leaving my pump at his apartment for two days, and craziness of getting ready for the holidays, I’m already behind. Ugh.
Plus, as open as the boyfriend and I are- I’m having trouble communicating to him that if we both want this as much as we do- we have to nurse often, not only before/after sex. But I don’t want it to become an obligation- its supposed to be something that is bringing us both closer and bringing pleasure.
I’m thinking more and more that Motillum might be the way to go.
Open to suggestions from anyone!
EDIT: Aside from all this grumbling and complaining, we’ve never felt closer, my nipples are crazy sensitive, and it always feels incredible. Just hoping for milk soon :)
Note: Best applied if you have a room to yourself, or if you’re living alone
- Putting a podcast about your favourite subject on, letting the voice from the radio fill the silence as you start making dinner, or do the chores
- Starting a quarantine journal with daily entries, like a diary - but decorated with stickers or knick-knacks you discover while cleaning your room one day (I did this back in March if anyone’s interested!)
- Re-watching Studio Ghibli films on Netflix or from the internet - the aesthecism somehow makes the world calmer, and it feels like a better place for just one second.
- Re-arranging your book collection from scratch. Pulling all the books from your shelves and brushing the dust off their covers, looking fondly back at childhood memories. A playlist in the background is recommended.
- Put your kettle on, and dive into your cupboard for that forgotten ginger and honey teabag from three months ago. Brew a mug of tea, or hot chocolate, and just sit there, wrapping your hands around the warm mug. If your thoughts get too loud, pluck a book off your bookshelf, or put a show on your laptop. (Note: Make sure the teabag still works and it’s not tasteless)
- Record your days, so as to make them less repetitive, less dull, less stagnant. Anything works. Your playlist of the day. Your meals. The shows you watched, the course you discovered online. Anything. (This is similar to the quarantine journal)
- Discover new things online. Read that book you’ve been putting aside for months. Watch online concerts, online ballets, online operas. Or try the online archives of museums. The Internet is an infinite treasury of knowledge; you can find virtually anything you want.
- Make lists. I’ve found making lists ground yourself to reality and stop oneself from spiraling into panic. To-do lists. Lists of movies/books/tv shows you want to watch, want to read. New research ideas. Cross them off when you’ve completed something, Before long, you’ll have lists of things you want to do, or can do.
- Put on music. Any type of music you want, and just dance. Or even just move around to. You won’t have to worry about people’s eyes on you. Put on Shostakovich’s Second Waltz, and pretend you’re at a ball, twirling on the dance floor with a hand on your partner’s shoulder, another clasped in their hand.
- Above all, remember; you’re not alone if you can’t get your spirits up during quarantine. Some people can write plays in quarantine, but most people don’t have that motivation. So just try to make your days a little better, a little less repetitive, a little less stagnant day by day. It doesn’t have to be anything significant in world terms. As long as it’s significant in your terms, and make you smile a little, or lift your spirits a little, that’s enough. And yes, that includes mundane things like taking a shower, or doing your dishes/laundry. Every step counts.
My dad: *lectures me about keeping my glasses safe and scratch-free*
Also my dad: *puts his glasses face down on sandpaper*
There is nothing in this world that is more frustrating than writing a book without any type of extra help. No editors, no publishers, no managers, just me, myself and I. But I am going to kick some ass with this book and I’m gonna push through this epic writer’s slump! But if there is anyone who is interested in being a beta reader (out of charity and because books are awesome) please message me I really value your insight. Besides, who doesn’t want to read about hockey hotties?!
Feeling a little under the weather. A lot of work still needs to be done.. I don’t know if I should take a break and doodle for myself or power though until morning. Bleh.
Sometimes in my life struggles, I forget that I am never alone. As long as my head is held high, my family next to me, and my faith strong, I can conquer whatever is in my path. #faith #hope #family #godisgood #god #strong #neveralone #life #struggles #conquer @Regrann from @bayyyv - Faith #Regrann
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Do you ever vaguely remember something you wrote a while ago, can’t remember much about it though, and then can’t find it?
I remember writing a story last year about a high class murder but it was on paper and now I can’t find it. The only thing I can remember is getting criticised because I said the bedroom had marble floors.
I feel like I’m back on the path to self-destruction again. Please keep me in your prayers. I hope I find the meaning I so desperately need in life soon.
The Lord greatly helps me in times where I am heavily tempted to be unchaste (ie, when I get out of relationships). When invariably I do get rather silly and think I can find what I had in a relationship by going out and getting into a random hookup, 90% of the time the guy flakes out on me. I’m gonna chalk that up to grace and God saying “nuh-uh”.
