One thing you learn down the road, later on in life is that you never really stop loving that one person you truly loved. It sticks with you all your life. Follows you everywhere. Shapes you as a person. Moulds you into being more kind and caring. Changes how you perceive things. Stirs your soul forever, in an unimaginable magical way. You don’t disrespect what you had. You continue to love them from a distance and appreciate everything they did for you.
You wish them all the happiness anyone has ever made, pray that you get to see them reaching all their goals they once never stopped telling you about, hoping to see their face light up somewhere in Venice just through your phone, knowing that they finally made it. You come to peace with the fact that when it’s true, you can love them with the same madness even from a far..
Telling a guy to gain some weight, is same as telling a woman to lose some weight.
When you tell either of them to lose or gain some weight. You’re not just walking on fragile egg shells of their personality, but you break every ounce of confidence, all the progress they’ve made so far in trying to love their body.
No one is perfect. Stop telling everyone to get into perfect shape! Stop making people feel insecure about themselves. It mentally destroys them. Instead, try telling them they look nice. “That shirt looks so pretty on you!” It doesn’t cost anything to make anyone feel happy about themselves.
I still remember a compliment someone gave me in 5th grade of our eid festival, because now that i look back, i rarely got any; people are rarely nice to each other. People are so harsh on each other. That the love we crave so much, the healing we need, the kindness that can actually mend our soul, just gets lost in the way..
But i guess, i don’t want to be dangerously cold. you did what you did.. i want to be unbothered, accepting and mature. maybe not even cold, perhaps i just want to be cool with everything that happened, because moving on isn’t being bitter about someone you knew. maybe it’s just finally being able to breathe even when someone says their name out loud; finally being able to find solace in the fact that you are in a much better place..
I think, being an average and not so good looking person, you tend to be more sensitive about other people’s needs and feelings because you have been through people not being able to meet your needs all your life and you know how it feels to be left unwanted every single time you express your emotions.
Therefore you develop empathy and a sense of care towards anyone close to you. That, most self obsessed people don’t. You never leave them feeling unwanted for you have felt miserable because of that sole feeling all your life. You start putting their feelings, their needs ahead of yourself.
And i don’t know if it’s noble, or stupid. But it’s the way it is..
