#actuallygad
Being disabled is expensive and I don’t think abled people (unless they live with a disabled person) realise how expensive it is. Even the people who are fourtunate enough to get full benefits (and many people don’t even when they are entitled to it and need it) and state support are still struggling and can’t afford everything they need.
And yet, Disabled people still have to deal with people saying how lucky they are or how unfair it is that they get “all that extra money” when in reality they are struggling and can’t afford all the care or accessibility they actually need.
Recently, I didn’t reply to someone who had messaged me on Tumblr and this person reacted by blocking me, so that when I found time to answer the message, I had typed up my reply, and, obviously, couldn’t send it. I thought, well, that’s kind of a petty response to someone not answering right away (never mind that it would be sometimes days or weeks before I answer people’s messages on other forums, and they would be cool with it). I thought about this, and I thought about mentioning it, and the reason I’ve decided to talk about it is because it goes back to perceptions about interaction with others that we all need to be mindful of.
If someone sends me a message that I don’t answer right away or don’t answer at all it’s because:
- I’m busy - I have a life that’s not Tumblr and that takes precedence.
- I’m thinking of what to say - I sometimes need to do that. Thoughts aren’t always completely formed in my head, and I don’t write without thinking.
- I’m not emotionally capable of responding - I’m upset about the thing you’re asking me about or I’m processing, so I can’t talk right now.
- I don’t want to talk - everyone should be allowed to be silent if they feel like it.
- I don’t have any more to say - if all I’m going to do is repeat myself, or if the conversation has come to a natural end, then I’m not going to say any more.
- Tumblr got hungry and ate your message - which means I didn’t get it, which means I obviously couldn’t reply.
But, what all this really comes down to is this: no one is entitled to my attention. Message me by all means, but no one has an automatic right to my time or my emotional reassurance, even if I’ve provided it before. I’m a nice person: I like to talk to people and be reassuring and positive, but I am not a bottomless well of understanding and reassurance. I’m someone who needs time to process my own feelings and replenish my own stock of positivity, particularly when I’m upset about something. We are all entitled to make ourselves available to anyone or no one as we see fit.
So, anyone who feels like they’re entitled to my time or yours, and who gets petty or upset when they don’t get it, is not someone I or you need in our lives anyway. Respect yourself and your emotions and your time, and forget about anyone who can’t accept that.
if it makes you unable to get out of bed: you’re not faking it
if it makes you unable to think straight: you’re not faking it
if it makes you unable to brush your hair in the morning: you’re not faking it
even if you’re still able to work and smile during the day but unable to sleep or move later that day because of it: you’re not faking it
if it effects you in any way: you are not faking it
THIS IS REAL, don’t second guess yourself because others do
Reasons it’s okay for someone to abuse you:
- None. Literally none.
It doesn’t matter if you were in trouble, or they were having a bad day. It doesn’t matter if you’ve made mistakes in the past or feel you deserve it.
There is no justification for someone abusing you. You deserved better. And it was wrong.
Im bipolar is this normal?
So i have early onset bipolar (diagnosed in a sych ward not self dx lmfao im antiselfdx) And i need to know this but im 13 and i get easily jealous over everything and angery and idk just lose my shit so easily ex all someone in my life has to do is talk to one of there friends and ill immediatly assume they hate me so ill say awful things like “kys bitch” or “i hope you get cancer” “i hate you” “you hate me” “your ruining everything” “douchebag” “bitch” “whore” Only a couple times ive gotten pysical but ive shut someone out before and they no longer am friends but im worried that if i keep this up ill have no friends help??? And i want them its just idk im strange if i don’t get any affection i feel abandoned but if i do get affection and love i feel uncomfortable its confusing i feel like a piece of shit. and then i forgive them an hour or day later (depending) then do something else rude. i basically have no control.
