#autism diagnosis
Some people just don’t understand how validating a diagnosis can be. Like with my parents, they worried that getting a diagnosis would be “letting it define me,” and that “there’s no point in confirming what we already know.” But having a professional sit down and tell you you’re not faking or overreacting is so relieving. Of course, there are downsides and not everybody feels the need for one, but if someone wants a diagnosis, listen to them.
The trauma of growing up autistic is incredibly isolating and lonely
Y socialskills r bad wnough i dont even know when im fucking up
Everyone assumes i have enough social skills since inpasss enough and just pass as a quirky little girl who acts two young for her age
But im not that
i dont even know im doing anything wrong and these ppl r making assumptions ob me and wont even tell me im doing it wrong
so i can never fucking improve as a person because i dont even lnknow im in the wrong
Im just cursed to be considered an eternal fuck up hy sociatal expectations while feeling like something is always offf and never knowing its me
@pcwiz84 reacted to your post:
To be fair, everyone is entitled to their opinion. The person messaging you has their own opinion, but they shouldn’t impose their opinion on you. If they feel strongly about not coming out, they don’t have to. It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t because they tell you to. As long as everyone respects each others opinion and stays in their own lane, the world should be a better place.
I wouldn’t have been so upset if they had anything else to say about my story, whether they feel it’s good representation or not, if there’s something they appreciated or something they disliked… But no. They just came here to tell me that I shouldn’t mention my diagnosis, because we don’t “come out on everything we post”.
As if they only clicked briefly on it, because they noticed my “Written by an autistic author” in the summary and they couldn’t accept it. I’m not even sure they read my story, because they posted that on the second installment of my series (the most popular of them all), and they didn’t comment at all on the first.
I don’t “come out on everything I post”. I only did so for this story, because I’m writing about an autistic character using my experience as an autistic person. I’m genuinely upset that this person took the time to police me on my own story about the way I handle my diagnosis, but didn’t have anything else to say about my story. I’m absolutely sure as of now that they didn’t read it at all.
Someone really had the guts to tell me that I shouldn’t come out as autistic on my fanfiction about autism. Like, really.
They come here, they don’t mention anything about my story, they’re just dumping this thing in my inbox, for me to discover when I’m already at a low point:
“You want the reader to focus on the story, not your autism. We don’t come out autistic on everything we post.“
First of all, I don’t necessarily come out as autistic on every single one of my stories. I heavily talk about my autism in my author’s notes and mention it in the summary of this story becauseit’s a story featuring an autistic character and a lot of my own experience as an autistic person.
Second, it’s my choice to talk about my diagnosis or not. People have been taken that choice away from me so many times, as if I didn’t have any agency, and I refuse to let anyone decide that for me any longer. Yes, I’m autistic, unashamedly autistic, bite me if it’s bothering you!
For the people that read my blog and/or my fanfics: it’s not your place to tell me how to talk about my autism, even if you’re an autistic person yourself. That’s my choice, my personal choice. If you’re autistic and don’t like to talk about your autism in your stories, then that’s alright, I don’t have the right to tell you anything about that.
But it’s MY story, MY experiences, MY diagnosis, and anyone who want me to keep that to myself, you can go f*ck yourself. Thank you.
Does this resonate with you?
I find it pretty accurate.
Big thanks to myautisticsoul for making this.
