#neurodiversity
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legimate autistic trans person: this mogai shit, especially neurogenders and your “autigender”, harms us
some cis kid: lmao mean gatekeeper
Me, neurodivergent and nonbinary: neopronouns arent necessary and saying that people like me “need” them to “properly express” our gender makes us out to be dumb toddlers.
Some cisgender neurotypical: you’re ableist >:((((
it’s a common misconception that neurodivergent people don’t understand jokes. the reality is that neurotypical people are just not very funny.
#there’s also a social aspect to laughing at unfunny jokes#neurotypical kids will pick up that people like it if you laugh at their jokes#and they learn to detect a joking tone#then laugh at it even if they don’t understand or like the joke (via aphony-cree)
FlappyHappy is a small business that has been started. It is run by autistics. Our goal is to make stim toys affordable and accessible to those that need them. Many places that sell stim toys are focused on the needs and experiences of parents of young autistic children. Here at FlappyHappy, autistic needs and voices are centred over caregivers. Our stim toys are also great for people living with trauma, ADHD, chronic pain, anxiety, or other needs!
As a small business, we could use your help to get the word out and get started.
If you can’t afford to purchase from our shop, you can still help by tagging us in social media (the links to all of them will be at the bottom of this post). You can also help us by sharing our social media posts whether that be on our Tumblr platform or other ones like Twitter, Facebook and TikTok.
A lot of our success will depend on being able to get the word out.
We will be using the proceeds of sale to expand our product line to bring you a variety of quality, affordable stim toys.
Links here:
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This is the business my friend and I started. Please help spread the word if you can. Especially on other social media if possible.
I see a lot of people asking about alternatives since Stimtastic shut down. You can also really help us by recommending us!
Saying “that’s karma” about people having disabilities or getting diseases is very ableist.
TW + CW: ableism
I saw two reddit posts today
1. A six year old girl gets a agressive form of cancer and may die.
2. A 11 year old girl gets paralyzed in a tragic accident
So what were people’s reactions??
Saying that’s karma because the parents, kids or someone tbe kid knows did something “ bad ” so people claiming the kids “ deserved ” such things..
I see this a lot. People claiming disabilities and illnesses are “ deserved ” and “ karma” because the person or someone they know did something bad…
Like it’s so messed up to say that such things are deserved and karma.
But also it has some really f×cked up underlying implications that people truly believe those with disabilities or illnesses are bad people that deserved it or in somehow karma.
executive dysfunction often makes you feel totally disempowered and out of control in your own life. i promise, it’s okay. you don’t have to do everything today. you don’t have to write the whole essay, i know that’s overwhelming. just open up a new google docs. you don’t have to cook the whole meal right now, just slice the bread and set it aside. take it one step at a time. if you have the energy to write one more sentence, to prep one more ingredient, go ahead! even if not, you’ve set yourself up for better times, you’ve done something instead of nothing, and you’ve set yourself a goal that you accomplished. great job!
Invisible disabilities are just as real and valid as visible ones.
What’s happening to autistic people right now?
(Trigger warning for abuse, electroshock therapy, torture, and ableism.)
The US court has overturned the ban on shock devices being used against disabled students, predominantly autistic students in the US.
The shock device being legalized is called the graduated electronic decelerator (or GED). This is a torture device that is used to ‘correct’ autistic behaviors / symptoms. Autistic people are shocked for stimming, and for having meltdowns, ect. This device was made popular by a behavioral center (the Judge Rosenberg Center, specifically) that is infamous for its abuse and torture of autistic / disabled patients.
(Image ID: someone is holding their arm out and resting it on a table, with their sleeve rolled up. Attached to their arm are wires, which connect to a small cube device.)
This is what the device looks like. It sends electric shocks into the victim’s skin; the victim often being restrained and held against their will. This is torture. GEDs have been reported to cause intense psychological trauma, PTSD, and physical injuries.
In March of 2020, the FDA ruled for GEDs to be banned. (Although, of course, they were still illegally used at a number of places.) This ruling has recently been appealed, and today, the US court of appeals has re-regulated the law to stop the use of GED. Sounds great, right? It would be!
… If not for a huge loophole in the wording, which basically allows this torture to continue. This device is going to have continued use on autistic students in order to “correct their behavior.”
“So…. What can I do??”
Great question! You can:
- Listen to and boost autistic voices to spread awareness
- As-of now (August 7th), autistic activists are trying to get #StopTheShock trending on Twitter, so Tweet out the hashtag if you have Twitter
- If you’re in the US, email / call your legislators
- Signthis petition if you’re in the US
- Follow this case and look out for updates
- If Autism Speaks (known ableist hategroup) says anything about this, DO NOT BOOST IT
That’s all! Thank you. Reblogs are very appreciated!!
I’ve seen discussions sometimes about how fanfiction-based fandom culture is heavily influenced and dominated by people who are not cis men.
One thing I haven’t seen discussed as much though is how much of fandom in general is shaped by neurodivergent people.
I mean, you have autistic and ADHD people with special interests or hyperfixations collecting information and writing detailed meta, connecting very strongly with characters and fandoms. I would not be surprised if the percentage of autistics in fandom communities was significantly higher than in the general public.
And that’s not even getting into other types of neurodivergencies and how they influence fandom culture.
I sometimes see people try to divorce fandom culture from the idea of being a “geek”, and I understand that this is sometimes because of the association with the sexist geek stereotype, but I also know that there is a connection between the two concepts, and it’s probably us neurodivergent people.
I also think this is why at first I was like “my fandoms can’t be special interests, that’s just how fandom is”
Yeah, because a lot of people in fandom have special interests
I’ll go slightly further here, and say this (well. this plus ableism) is the root of a lot of current issues in fandom.
Back when I started being in fandom, a couple decades ago, I’d argue that damn near every single person in fandom was autistic or ADHD. You’d only join fandom if you were obsessive and were chill with doing things that weren’t socially acceptable. (Because being a fan absolutely was not socially acceptable at the time! We went to ridiculous amounts of effort to hide that we were fans!)
And fandom culture was absolutely shaped by this. The standard behaviors in fandom were those of happy autistics. That’s how you were expected to act. You remember “squeeing”? The visual image of it is generally someone so happy and excited they can’t physically contain it so they make a high-pitched noise and flap their hands and - a squee is literally just a happy stim. And so many fans at the time did happy stims that we gave it a special fandom name! So even if a neurotypical person happened to stumble in, they’d learn that the “social norm” in a fandom space is basically just “act autistic/ADHD” and assimilate.
But then… fandom got mainstreamed. It became socially acceptable. And then the neurotypicals started showing up in large numbers. And instead of assimilating like they did before, when they were the minority, now that there were a lot of them they started going “what the heck is this! why are people here acting so weird! this is embarrassing!”
…and then we got cringe culture within fandom.
No one says “squee” anymore not because fans don’t squee anymore - happy stims don’t just go away - but because the neurotypicals showed up and told us “squee” is a cringy word and concept. Which they had ALWAYS told us out in public, but we used to have fandom as an insular autistic/ADHD-dominated space where we were safe and free to be ourselves.
You know how everybody talks about how cringy and embarrassing 2012 tumblr was? Dude. We were literally just acting like happy autistics, because that’s what we were. It’s just that - like you always have - you think autistic/ADHD behavior is cringy and embarrassing.
This isn’t new. “Cringe culture” isn’t new. It’s just a new euphemism for the exact same ableism that’s always existed, with the only difference that now it’s coming from insidefandom.
All those posts saying “if these people were bullied more they wouldn’t act like this”? They’re not just bizarrely tasteless jokes. They’re because the people making those posts werebullies. Are bullies. Fandom used to be where the sort of people who were victims of peer abuse went - where we went to be safe from bullies and be openly ourselves - but now the bullies are in here with us.
On the happier side, while mainstreaming has resulted in a lot of neurotypicals showing up, autistic/ADHD people are absolutely still the backbone of fandom. We’re the ones collecting tiny bits of info and connecting the dots to write galaxy brain meta. We’re the ones churning out new content every single day, rain or shine. We’re the hyper-verbal ones writing 250k fics and the ones who hyper-relate with the characters and make incorrect quote posts so spot-on they sound canon. They may think we’re embarrassing - but they still need us.
SO MUCH THIS!!!
Fandom would be nothingwithout neurodivergent people. Because there’s nothing on this earth that can rival the white-hot intensity of an Autistic or ADHD person in full-blown hyperfocus or special interest mode.
I could have written all of this. Thanks, shared brains!
okay legit though, I never understood why hand flapping was considered an autistic thing because, like, I did it and everyone I knew on the internet did it so it had to be normal, right? and honestly it’s only just now reading this that I’m like “oh shit that explains so much”
Hi everyone, I hope all my fellow neurodivergent people are doing okay in this crazy world!
I got to take part in an interview for an app being developed that’s aiming to provide individualized tools for improving well-being and cognitive skills for neurodivergent children and young people. (And they used identity first language in the interview I participated in, woo!)
It’s called MindOpp and the pilot for the final stage of development will be starting soon, so if you’re interested in getting involved too, feel free to sign up here!
(I always love to see something for autistic people that actually asks autistic people what’s good for them! I hope that this can become something really helpful. :))
Participants Needed: Autistic People’s Experiences During The Pandemic and Returning to Face-To-Face Teaching.
Inclusion Psychologists Ltd are currently working on a project exploring how UK university students are coping with Covid-19.
This is part of a wider project exploring how Autistic people are experiencing the pandemic at university and returning to face-to-face teaching.
To participate, you must be a current UK university student, either undergraduate or postgraduate.
Participation should take approximately 15-20 minutes and can be completed on any device.
If you have any questions, please feel free to email [email protected]or[email protected].
You can access the study by clicking the link below - https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScC08tdJW3y1K-odCEgZVCBbZ1rsBRcx_4SAhPplgLOWPCIZA/viewform
A very interesting looking study for my fellow autistic uni students to take part in if anybody is interested! :)
i think it’s funny when neurotypical ppl are on their “do something every day that scares you :)” thing bc everything in the world scares me every day including things i already know i like doing
Direct byproduct of being neurodivergent and growing up isolated from your peergroup is having no idea when it’s appropriate to define someone as your friend
Is this person I met yesterday my friend? What about this person I’ve been talking to every day for three months? What about this person I’ve known since middle school? Is friend a title I have to earn? What are the limits of friendship? Is it a static state, make-or-break, or is it some endless dance-dance-revolution style cavalcade of prompts and challenges and social cues I have to hit perfectly to keep it up? Does it bend? Does it break? I don’t fucking know man I just work here.
i still remember when the dude doing my autism assessment asked me how many friends I had, and I was like “okay but how are we defining friendship?” and he just like, stared at me for a second and then wrote down some notes
just neurodivergent things: not being able to process anything going on in your life and when you try, your brain stalls out.
just neurodivergent things: feeling both pleased and betrayed when your (admittedly also neurodivergent) friends call you “the stable one.” on the one hand, thank gods, the facade is working; on the other, (it feels like) if they cared, they could see through it to how bad you’re really doing.