#dysthymia
There is a house built out of stone
Wooden floors, walls and window sills
Tables and chairs worn by all of the dust
This is a place where I don’t feel alone
This is a place where I feel at home.
And I built a home
for you
for me
Until it disappeared
from me
from you
And now, it’s time to leave and turn to dust
Out in the garden where we planted the seeds
There is a tree as old as me
Branches were sewn by the color of green
Ground had arose and passed its knees
By the cracks of the skin I climbed to the top
I climbed the tree to see the world
When the gusts came around to blow me down
Held on as tightly as you held on me
Held on as tightly as you held on me
And I built a home
for you
for me
Until it disappeared
from me
from you
And now, it’s time to leave and turn to dust
Let the silence ease the wildness
Your embrace clears the storm in my head
Why do I love you more when I’m wasted?
I only welcome care when I’m wounded
You are a promise of brightness
The triumph of life over self-hate
But I take all you gave for granted
What really matters I keep breaking
I’m turning horizons into battlegrounds
I cannot walk ahead without your guidance
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
Can reliance ease the madness
When every voice says I’m worthless?
I thought I would find the force from fighting
But if I win alone, I’m losing
I’m turning horizons into battlegrounds
I cannot walk ahead without your guidance
I’m turning horizons into battlegrounds
And every step I take without a sound
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
Can I hold on? Can I hold onto you?
You don’t have to see your life’s purpose
now and all the time if you can’t find it anywhere
Just stay a little longer
Nobody understands and there is no point
to try and make amends
Just stay a little longer
You say you want to end it.
You can’t stand it, the pain
Just stay a while longer
What does a minute of your time on earth do
Nothing, you say, nothing, really.
Just stay a little longer
Maybe in a minute you’ll see
Maybe tomorrow you’ll feel
Maybe on friday you’ll know
Maybe next year you’ll be glad
that you stayed a little while longer
to see what else can break
to see what else can ache
to make another mistake
It would be a terrible shame
if something happened just now
And you wouldn’t be there
to see it all go down
What if something happened
right when you choose to fly away
I see you made up your mind
but I hear your plane is delayed
Maybe in a minute you’ll see
Maybe tomorrow you’ll feel
Maybe on friday you’ll know
Maybe next year you’ll be glad
that you stayed a little while longer
to see what else can break
to see what else can ache
to make another mistake
You’re the colour
You’re the movement and the spin
Never
Could it stay with me the whole day long
Fail with consequence
Lose with eloquence and smile
I’m not in this movie
I’m not in this song
Never
Leave me paralyzed, love
Leave me hypnotized, love
This is a song about somebody else
So don’t worry yourself, worry yourself
The devil’s right there, right there in the details
And you don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
By looking too closely
By looking too closely
No, no, no, no
Put your arms around somebody else
And don’t punish yourself, punish yourself
The truth is like blood underneath your fingernails
And you don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
By looking too closely
By looking too closely
No, no, no, no
No, no, no, no
You don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
You don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
No, no, no, no
And I could be wrong about anybody else
So don’t kid yourself, kid yourself
It’s you right there, right there in the mirror
And you don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
By looking too closely
By looking too closely
Yeah
Looking too closely
You don’t wanna hurt yourself
You don’t wanna hurt yourself, hurt yourself
By looking too closely
talk is gold
hard gold plated
silver bullet
coral cheeks
fall into your trap
allay all your fears
i put a bug in your ear
i could use a little help
around here
Remember me when you’re the one who’s silver screened
Remember me when you’re the one you always dreamed
Remember me whenever noses start to bleed
Remember me
Special needs
Just nineteen, a sucker’s dream
I guess I thought you had the flavour
Just nineteen, a dream obscene
With six months off for bad behaviour
Remember me when you clinch your movie deal
And think of me stuck in my chair that has four wheels
Remember me through flash photography and screams
Remember me
Special dreams
Just nineteen, a sucker’s dream
I guess I thought you had the flavour
Just nineteen, a dream obscene
With six months off for bad behaviour
Just nineteen, a sucker’s dream
I guess I thought you had the flavour
Just nineteen a dream obscene
With six months off for bad behaviour
Remember me
Remember me
Just nineteen, a sucker’s dream
I guess I thought you had the flavour
Just nineteen, a dream obscene
With six months off for bad behaviour
Just nineteen, a sucker’s dream
I guess I thought you had the flavour
Just nineteen, a dream obscene
With six months off for bad behaviour
Remember me
Remember me
We talking away
I don’t know what
I’m to say
I’ll say it anyway
Today is another day to find you
Shying away
I’ll be coming for your love, okay
Take on me
Take me on
I’ll be gone
In a day or two
So needless to say
I’m odds and ends
But that’s me
I’m stumble in away
Slowly learning that life is okay
Say after me
It’s no better to be
safe and sorry and
Take on me
Take me on
I’ll be gone
In a day or two
All the things that you say
is it a life or
Just to play
My worries away
You’re all the things I’ve got to remember, shying away
I’ll be coming for you anyway and
Take on me
Take me on
I’ll be gone
In a day or two
I’ll be gone
In a day or two
In a day or two
Can you walk on the water if I, you and I?
Be'Cause your blood’s running cold outside the familiar true to life
Can you walk on the water if I, you and I?
Or keep your eyes on the road and live in the familiar without you and I
It glows with gates of gold to true life
For our love is a ghost that the others can’t see
It’s a danger
Every shade of us you fade down to keep
them in the dark on who we are
(Oh what you do to me)
This love is gonna be the death of me
It’s a danger
‘Cause our love is a ghost that the others can’t see
We took a walk to the summit at night, you and I
To burn a hole in the old grip of the familiar true to life
And the dark was opening wide, do or die
Under a mask of vermillion ruling eyes
And our love is a ghost that the others can’t see
It’s a danger
Every shade of us you fade down to keep
them in the dark on who we are
(Oh what you do to me)
Gonna be the death of me
It’s a danger
'Cause our love is a ghost that the others can’t see
I’m coming out of my cage
And I’ve been doing just fine
Gotta gotta be down
Because I want it all
It started out with a kiss
How did it end up like this?
It was only a kiss, it was only a kiss
Now I’m falling asleep
And she’s calling a cab
While he’s having a smoke
And she’s taking a drag
Now they’re going to bed
And my stomach is sick
And it’s all in my head
But she’s touching his chest
Now, he takes off her dress
Now, let me go
And I just can’t look - it’s killing me
And taking control
Jealousy, turning saints into the sea
Turning through sick lullabies
Choking on your alibis
But it’s just the price I pay
Destiny is calling me
Open up my eager eyes
‘Cause I’m Mr Brightside
I’m coming out of my cage
And I’ve been doing just fine
Gotta gotta be down
Because I want it all
It started out with a kiss
How did it end up like this?
It was only a kiss, it was only a kiss
Now I’m falling asleep
And she’s calling a cab
While he’s having a smoke
And she’s taking a drag
Now they’re going to bed
And my stomach is sick
And it’s all in my head
But she’s touching his chest
Now, he takes off her dress
Now, let me go
‘Cause I just can’t look - it’s killing me
And taking control
Jealousy, turning saints into the sea
Turning through sick lullabies
Choking on your alibis
But it’s just the price I pay
Destiny is calling me
Open up my eager eyes
‘Cause I’m Mr Brightside
I can’t deny what I’ve become
I’m just emotionally undone
I can’t deny, I can’t be someone else
When I have tried to find the words
To describe this sense absurd
Try to resist my thoughts but I can’t lie
I’m losing myself
My desire I can’t hide
No reason am I for
I can’t divide or hide from me
I don’t know who I’m meant to be
I guess it’s just the person that I am
Often I’ve dreamt that I don’t wade
Enjoy the gift of my mistake
But yet again I’m wrong, and I confess
I’m losing myself
My desire I can’t hide
No reason am I for
I’m losing myself
My desire I can’t hide
No reason am I for
Holding me down
I can’t believe I am drowning somehow
Fall to my knees I need peace from the sounds
Sounds are deceiving my love of your pain
Look to the crowd
Searching for something to turn us around
Love never hides when it wants to be found
All we can know is this has to be now
Say you’ve never seen
Something so beautiful I am your dream
Tell me I’m everything you’ll ever need
I’m for you
Time is the key
Give me your heart and you’ll see what I see
Turning in circles to find what you seek
This is the feeling I want to release
Take all my pain
I’m just a soul to be lost in your haze
Take me wherever your spirit will fade
I’ll be with you till the end of our days
Holding me down
I can’t believe I am drowning somehow
Fall to my knees I need peace from the sounds
Sounds are deceiving my love of your pain
Look to the crowd
Searching for something to turn us around
Love never hides when it wants to be found
All we can know is this has to be now
This is the time to be taking a vow
This is the line I will cross it somehow
I’m taking the feeling I caught from your pain
And turning it all into something to gain
Hurt doesn’t show when it’s trying to reign
Feelings are all that we have to be sane
Running, I’m running the fight to get free
Taking the only thing that’s left of me
Confusion
Delusion
Seclusion
Inclusion
Numbing
Loving
Finding you in me
How I adore, the chaos of you
Cry out
Take out
Heartless
Fearless
Compassionately
Feeling you in me
How I love
The chaos of you
Psycho
Halo
Cruel and tormenting
Compassionately
Seeing us in them
How I adore
The chaos in them
In them
In them
Of you
Of you
Today you were far away
and I didn’t ask you why
What could I say
I was far away
You just walked away
and I just watched you
What could I say
How close am I to losing you
Tonight you just close your eyes
and I just watch you
slip away
How close am I to losing you
Hey, are you awake
Yeah I’m right here
Well can I ask you about today
How close am I to losing you
How close am I to losing
This is just a short directory to explain, in one sentence or two, what these concepts mean, and what the use of each skill is by defining it. Come to this page if you can’t remember what IMPROVE or DEAR MAN stands for, but don’t want to have to read the long post that introduced those skills on SBD.
See the DBT Skills Masterpost for posts that go into each of these skills or sets of skills in depth.
Mindfulness Skills:
- Wise Mind: The Wise Mind is the balance between Emotion Mind and Logic/Reasonable Mind
- Observe:Notice without getting caught in the experience. Experience without reacting to the experience.
- Describe:When a feeling or thought arises, or you act, acknowledge it with a description of the thought or action or sensation, etc. Describe to yourself what is happening and label your feelings.
- Participate: Enter into your experiences, act intuitively, be completely immersed in the experience, in the present.
- Non-Judgmental:See, but don’t evaluate. Focus on the “what” happened, not on what “should” or “should not” have happened.
- One-Mindful: Focus on the moment–do one thing at a time and completely focus on what you are doing or whom you are with. Let go of distractions.
- Effective: Do just what is necessary in a situation to achieve your goals. Focus on what works, and direct your efforts there. Act skillfully, because the more you practice acting skillfully, the more Effective you will become at attaining your goals.
Distress Tolerance Skills:
- STOP: Stop,Take a step back, Observe,Proceed Mindfully
- TIP:Temperature,Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing/Paired Muscle Relaxation/Progressive Muscle Relaxation (used to change your level of distress quickly)
- Distract using Wise Mind ACCEPTS: Distract yourself with Activities,Contributing,Comparisons,Emotions,Pushing away, Thoughts,Sensations
- Self-Soothe: Use the senses (vision, hearing, taste, smell, touch) to soothe your physical self in order to make your emotions less painful.
- IMPROVE the Moment: Improve the moment with Imagery,Meaning,Prayer,Relaxation,One thing in the moment, Vacations,Encouragement
- Pros and Cons: Examine the short term and long term pros and cons of acting and not acting on your urges/impulses using a chart.
- Radical Acceptance/Reality Acknowledgement: Acknowledge what is, let go of fighting or denying reality. Use TURNING THE MIND to commit to acknowledgement over and over again.
Interpersonal Effectiveness Skills:
- Clarified Priorities: What is most important to you in this interpersonal interaction 1) Obtaining your objective, 2) Maintaining the relationship, or 3) Maintaining your self-esteem/sense of self-worth
- DEAR MAN:Describe,Express,Assert,Reinforce, stay Mindful,Appear confident, Negotiate (used for saying “no” or asking for something; obtaining your objective)
- GIVE:BeGentle, act/be Interested,Validate, use an Easy manner (used for maintaining a relationship)
- FAST:BeFair, no Apologies,Stick to values, be Truthful (used to maintain your self-esteem/sense of self-worth)
Emotion Regulation Skills:
- PLEASE: For reducing vulnerability, treat PhysicaL illness, balance Eating, avoid mood-Alerting drugs (as in street drugs or non-prescription drugs), balance Sleep, get Exercise
- ABC: Accumulate Positive Emotions/Experiences: For reducing vulnerabilities in the Short Term: Do pleasant things that are possible now. For reducing vulnerabilities in the Long Term: Make changes in your life so that positive events will occur more often. This helps “build a life worth living for you.”
- ABC: Build Mastery: Engage in activities that make you feel competent and in control.
- ABC: Cope Ahead: Cope ahead of time with emotional situations. Rehearse a plan ahead of time so that you are prepared to cope skillfully with emotional situations.
- Opposite Action: Change emotions by acting opposite to current emotions/urges. Used for when emotions don’t fit the facts of a situation.
- Check the Facts: Check out whether your reactions (emotional or behavioural) fit the facts of the situation. Changing beliefs and assumptions to fit the facts can help you change your emotional reactions to situations.
- Problem Solve: When the facts themselves are the problem, solving emotional problems consistently and effectively will reduce the frequency of negative emotions and increase your sense of competency in regards to dealing with these emotions/urges.
-Pandora
Hey, DBT doesn’t work for everyone, but it’s one of the best treatments for mood and personality disorders out there. Also not to shabby when used in trauma therapy. Do your research, be good ❤️
^ Important to remember! I have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), and DBT is one of the most effective types of therapy for it (it was even created by someone with Borderline) ♥
I hope this information can help someone!!! ♥
I drew a rough version of this piece some time ago, and then a couple of months ago I inked this version. I had finally started to break out of the chronic depression that has dogged me for most of my adult life, and I was going to save this piece to share after I felt it had been long enough for me to feel possibly recovered, but then the world went to hell, so here it is now I guess.
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Hey! So I know my blog has been MIA for a longggg time but I thought id give you guys an update. You may or may not remember me posting a long while back inquiring about whether or not I had depression. And wondering if there were any ways to get therapy online.
Well here’s my update. I finally was able to get therapy! And with that an official diagnosis of dysthymia! So yeah! I’ve come pretty far. And it’s not been easy. But I’m trying my best.
