sapphos-witch-gf:

Lemme kick the fucking bear again.

“Ace people can want and have sex!” directly throws people who actually don’t want sex under the bus.

And when I talk about asexuals feeling like they have to sleep with someone, or feeling like they should have sex they aren’t interested in, I don’t even fuckin believe in asexuality. So I’m not talking about your twitter mutual who is “asexual” but fucks like a rabbit. I’m talking about people who have a low, almost nonexistent, libido for whatever reason who are having sex for others rather than themselves. And I fuckin specified that.

Those people are out there, and all the people who wanna be fuckin special are actively harming them by pushing the idea that it’s totally okay to sleep with people you aren’t attracted to.

There are people out there who need to be told it’s okay to not have sex. Need to be told it’s okay to be celibate. Need to be told it’s okay to seek out a romantic relationship with someone who is gonna be okay or even happy with never having sex again.

“You can have sex” is not fucking revolutionary. It’s not helping anyone. Especially a group that is mostly female; it’s not helpful to tell them they can have sex out of obligation to their partner (typically a boyfriend).

Why is it always the people who may actually face hardship who get tossed tf out by these oh so woke queers?

Know your worth and never settle for less than you deserve. Ever.

-RB

Couldn’t put it any better. Some have all the power to destroy everything you’ve built yourself up for.

-RB

Amen!

-RB

The worst feeling in the world is being so far from where you want to be.

-RB

Sometimes you need that reminder. Here’s to all that need this reminder as do I.

-RB

All the time.

-RB

Choose your battles. If its not worth the fight, let it go.

-RB

Music is the best therapy. It speaks words you didn’t even know existed in your mind yet.

-RB

You can’t count on others. Some are lucky to have that person to weather the storm. But at the end of the day, its you. Your all you have. You will care about your feelings. You will fix the broken pieces. You, are your strongest supporter.

-RB

She’s tired of feeling. Tired of hurting. She numbs herself to the pain. She doesn’t want to feel anymore.

-RB

I’m beyond imperfect. I’m covered in flaws. I use periods at the end of a sentence when I’m upset. I push away without realizing. When I’m attacked, I push away further. When I feel your close to leaving, I build the walls back up. I know you can shatter me in pieces. A couple pieces already broke.

-RB

Sometimes, it does. Silence can gave you a peace of mind, and clear your head.

-RB

No matter what. There’s no avoiding the feeling of love. No matter how hard you try to fight it or suppress it.

-RB

Those with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and past abuse, all have their own triggers. Take your time to understand the person. Be patient. Don’t always feel like its you doing something wrong. Each person has their own story.

-RB

Music can reach the soul. It can fill in the words that have yet to be said.

-RB

Sometimes the most unexpected things happen, in the most unexpected places, and in the most unexpected ways. Becoming your reason to look forward to another day.

-RB

Pay Attention

If she’s not giving you a smile,

Ask her what’s wrong.

If she seems withdrawn,

Ask if she’s okay.

If she gets up in the night, and you notice her pillow is wet,

Make sure she’s okay.

If she starts to sniffle,

Don’t just ask if she has a stuffy nose.

Ask her to look at you.

If she’s laying there, and you can hear her sobs,

Go to her.

Cuddle her, ask if she’s okay, or just simply hold her.

Don’t let her sit and think you don’t care,

With signs all over, telling you she isn’t okay.

Pay Attention to her actions, words, and body language.

Just be there for her.

-RB

Hard truths moon signs

( mostly applied to undeveloped signs, if you find yourself triggered than maybe there is something that you need to work on ) check your moon sign placement too:

Aries: You cannot be annoyed by everything. Learn to be patient and control your emotions.

Taurus: Things change and it’s okay. You can’t continue to use your same old tactics in new environments. Instead try to find comfort in yourself because at the end of the day you are your own home.

Gemini: Stop overthinking and trying to analyze others’ behavior because you feel confused, instead try to examine every emotion that you feel because in those rely the real answers. Gemini moons can be very chaotic in their emotions so understanding them is important also Try to acknowledge if your constant need for new information is actually an avoidance mechanism.

Cancer: You seem to always find yourself in a battle to who gives/receives more, have you ever thought that this inner struggle comes from your fear of being hurt? You can’t protect your feelings because you know that even if you try to not give or receive love you’re still going to feel what you feel at the end of the day because of how sensitive you are. The key here is to honor your feelings not by protecting them but by allowing them to flow and if you find yourself giving don’t expect the other to give it right back to you the love you gave. Go find that balance.

Leo: Your constant need for validation/compliments won’t give you the healthy self-esteem that you aspire to have. Find that self validation without creating a superiority complex.

Virgo: You give so much but you seem to have difficulty in receiving. Allow yourself to receive too, realize that as much as you feel the need to give, the others feel it too. Create a balance and stop criticizing yourself and the others for everything no one is perfect and it’s okay.

Libra: Yes to diplomacy but no to non confrontational behaviors as a result of codependency issues. Learn to be the person that you like not the one that the others like. If you find that love for yourself you are going to notice that you can achieve so many things just by being authentic and independent. You don’t need others’ approval to shine.

Scorpio: Obsessions are a form of control issues that comes from your need to protect yourself. You feel so many emotions without expressing them or denying them so you find yourself being trapped by those emotions so you get obsessed. The key to let go and maybe to even forgive is by feeling those emotions fully and realize that what is meant to it will come to you.

Sagittarius: You have the potential to be the most wise and spiritual sign but that reckless behavior many times fucks you up. It’s important for you to ground yourself in order to be in contact with your emotions. Being optimistic is fine but it needs to be grounded in reality. Overly optimistic sometimes is not a good trait but an excuse to avoid your problems.

Capricorn: Repressing your feelings won’t bring you peace. You’re going to find yourself triggered every time because by letting your emotions flow is how you heal. Also understand that there is also a grey area besides the black and white vision in order to spare yourself from an identity crisis every time something isn’t going according to what you have been taught. Reparent yourself by forming your own rules.

Aquarius: Someone important from your family may have been cold towards you so as a result you don’t know how to give love because you didn’t receive it in the right way in the first place leaving you with abandonment issues. That’s why you find yourself escaping when a sort of intimacy is forming or you start to feel something.

Pisces: Choosing to daydream in order to escape from your reality isn’t going to help. Instead try to live the life that you dream in the 3d world. Another dimension won’t help you resolve your traumas or issues.

Hard truths for each sign love edition

( mostly applied to undeveloped signs, if you find yourself triggered then maybe there is something that you need to work on ) check your sun,moon,Venus /Mars or the dominant sign in your chart:

Aries: teasing as a way of expressing love is different from actually fighting or offending the other. learn the difference.

Taurus: your partner is not your possession.

Gemini: for a real deep connection it takes quality time and consistency. you cannot talk to so many people contemporarily and expect them to magically mold onto your perfect partner

Cancer: be careful of your tendencies to be with a partner just for the sake of nurturing them. Also accept that sometimes you get your feelings hurt because you are gifted with a higher sensitivity level than most and it’s not always because your partner is rude or insensitive. Don’t expect them to just guess your needs or what you are feeling at the moment if you don’t talk about it

Leo: know when your desire for attention is healthy because your partner is not just your fan.

Virgo: it’s okay to be a power couple where you try to improve one another but remember you’re in a romantic relationship not in a life-coach / student dynamic.

Libra: realize that your indecisiveness or lying tendencies are not your ways of protecting your partner from suffering but your way of avoiding dealing with hard truths or not wanting to see where your codependency issues lie.

Scorpio: even if you put your partner through 10000 tests you’re not going to know if this person is worth dating or not or magically predict and save yourself from a possible disappointment. Just try to live relationships step by step.

Sagittarius: make it known to your partner if the relationship is an open relationship or not also * responsabilities *

Capricorn: you actually have to find time for dating. Maybe if you consider it a job you’re going to give love a priority.

Aquarius: Are you detaching because the other person is too demanding or codependent towards you or is it just your fear of intimacy?

Pisces: get to actually know the partner rather then idealizing them ( a typical scenario is “understanding them intuitively because they don’t need to speak” that can bring misunderstandings and many idealizations if your intuition isn’t mastered) so you don’t get disappointed every time

Hard truths for each sign

( mostly applied to undeveloped signs, if you find yourself triggered then maybe there is something that you need to work on ) check your sun,moon, rising or the dominant sign in your chart:

Aries: remember no one makes you angry, you decided to use anger as a response. You are a natural leader but remember that a true leader has the ability to control their emotions and understand them.

Taurus: indulging in material things won’t solve your issues in the long term because you’re still going to face those issues over and over again. You need to look within.

Gemini: maybe this feeling of boredom comes from trying to not face your issues while looking for distractions rather than people being boring around you.

Cancer: giving is a beautiful gesture that comes from the heart so don’t use it as an excuse to manipulate others and make them feel guilty for receiving something that you gave them in the first place.

Leo: be aware of your superiority complex. It’s good to feel the best for your self-esteem but others can shine too without taking your light so don’t try to take theirs.

Virgo: besides perfectionistic tendencies…try to understand that in reality a positive self talk can improve your life for the better rather than self-criticism which actually brings insatisfaction. Once you learned that for yourself you’re going to notice that others will appreciate your gestures and advices more.

Libra: decide and try to be more authentic, you should try to please yourself in the first place and then others.

Scorpio: knowing everything about everyone won’t solve your trust issues. You have to understand that forming a healthy connection based on trust is about receiving but also GIVING. Opening up is your possibility to actually resolve your trust issues.

Sagittarius: you can’t break people’s heart just for fun learn to take responsibilities for your actions.

Capricorn: besides the workaholic tendencies…you have to understand that many of your problems come from your limitings beliefs just choose to open up to the possibility of simply being worthy and able to feel happiness without needing to work hard in order to prove you deserve it.

Aquarius: all your life you try to find the right people that truly understand you but if you don’t open up and explain your thoughts and actions how can they possibly understand you? How can you be understood if you don’t offer others the possibility to know the real you?

Pisces: being kind and gentle towards humanity doesn’t mean being naive.