the other day, one of my newer friends told me that she knew she wanted to be friends with me when a group of us were talking in a big circle and i backed up a little bit so she could be apart of the circle instead of outside of it. i didn’t even remember doing that and it just goes to show that small gestures and acts of kindness go such a long way and can completely transform someone else’s life. the cherry on top is that these things tend to have a snowball effect, and it can transform your life in ways you could never imagine, so go make someone’s day
Just want you to know that you’re simply amazing in your own way. Not everyone can see it but for sure, someone appreciates you more than you’ve imagined.
Reminders for people who haven’t had relationships yet:
There’s no time limit for having your first relationship. Not having had one yet doesn’t mean you never will.
Try not to compare yourself to others. It’s not a race, and other people having had relationships before you doesn’t reflect upon you at all.
It doesn’t make you unlovable - it just means you haven’t had the luck that others your age have had to be fortunate enough to meet someone they click with.
Your value is not based upon your relationship status. You are whole and lovable and valuable regardless of whether you’ve been in a romantic relationship.
You are still young and you still have so much time to find someone. Even if you’re in your late teens/20s etc and feel that you’re much older than others who have already had relationships, don’t forget that in the grand scheme of things, you’ve barely begun and you have so much opportunity in the future to meet the right person/people.
Especially for LGBTQ+ people - it can be much harder to find relationships as a teenager than it is for cishet people because the dating pool is smaller and it can be harder to find tolerant/accepting environments. It doesn’t make you unlovable or mean you won’t find anyone, and your dating history or lack thereof doesn’t invalidate your sexuality.
Other forms of relationship are just as important, if not more so, than romantic relationships. Platonic love and affection are just as important and valuable, and you are not without love just because your love isn’t romantic.
You don’t have to rush into anything because you feel there’s a clock ticking down. There isn’t. There’s absolutely no shame and nothing lesser about you for not having dated anyone yet, and there’s no need to rush or force anything.
You are a lovable, valuable, deserving human being, and your relationship status does not impact that in the slightest.
