#soul mate
Many of us believe a lot of things about relationships that just aren’t true and we do things that, despite being well intentioned, can end up undermining our own happiness. That’s why this episode of the Sex and Psychology Podcast is all about boosting your relationship IQ by revealing the secrets of relationship success.
I interviewed relationship expert Dr. Gary Lewandowski. He is a Professor at Monmouth University and author of the new book Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship…and How to See Past Them.
We talk all about his new book, and some of the key topics we get into include:
How believing in the idea of a “soul mate” holds us back from finding relationship happiness.
Why it’s OK—and healthy—to be a little bit selfish in your relationship.
How too much closeness in your relationship can push you and your partner apart.
Why you shouldn’t tell your partner, “if you love me, you’ll change.”
How going for a partner who is way more attractive than you can produce a less stable relationship.
Why it’s important to embrace disagreement and conflict in your relationship.
Why breakups usually aren’t as bad as we think they’re going to be—and how to move on after a relationship ends.
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Photo: Gary Lewandowski
I completely and utterly refuse to understand half-loves. How do you only half-way fall from a building? Drown in a river? You are either all in, or you are not at all. Because when my love is lit, it may begin slow but it will eventually end up catching like wildfire. I will wholly love every part of your soul until I have charted every secret world you have ever lived in and thought you have ever kept hidden in-between your ribs. I will memorize the indentions of your hips and the way your eyelashes twist and topple together. I could never half explore your depths, just as I could never half exist. When I love you, it is whole.
Dream Date #1:
On a rainy day we stay inside and gather comfy blankets, make some tea, and let swing music echo in our place as we cuddle to the small pats of rain drizzle on our home