#a-spec
just neurodivergent things: not being able to tell if your feelings for people are platonic or romantic or if you’re just lonely.
hey guys, so there have been some versions of an aspec flag but none that are very widely used and as someone who wants to identify as just aspec and i’m sure there are many others of you who agree out there i wanted a flag that would fully represent the ace identity! black is lack of attraction, purple represents the asexual side, green represents the aromantic side, gray represents graysexuals and white represents acceptance of everyone in the ace community including those who experience some attraction but are on the aspec
A character on SNL S44 E08 discusses being asexual
Todd’s suggestion in Bojack for an asexual dating app has received a lot of positive attention from people asking for it to be real and I would like to point out Spades and Arrows already exists it’s an a-spec dating app for both aro spec and ace spec folks! And Ace App which is a social media/ dating app for aspecs
Discovering A-spec Identity Results
This was a wide a-spec community survey on discovering one’s a-spec identity. @aromagni and I ran it in 2019.
There were 1070 responses to the survey. 744 of these responses were complete - these participants completed the survey in its entirety. A large portion of respondents in this survey (42%) identified as aroace. Most were white Americans. As such, there is a demographic skew and these results are not representative of the whole a-spec community.
The vast majority of respondents indicated they are single. For those in partnerships, a large portion (over 60%) indicated they were dating. Many others indicated they were in unlabeled partnerships or QPRs, with other types of relationships less common.
Almost half of respondents did not identify as queer/LGBTQ+ before discovering their a-spec identities. Interestingly, although the word “aromantic” has not been as popular as “asexual” in many spaces, the earliest respondents identified as either of these was very close, in the early to mid ‘80s. For those who identify as broadly a-spec, the earliest year was 2008. The vast majority of respondents (82.37%) indicated they discovered asexuality before aromanticism. Only 1.79% of respondents indicated they discovered aromanticism first. The remaining 15% reported discovering aromanticism and asexuality around the same time. Similarly, the vast majority of respondents (i.e., 69.58%) indicated identifying as asexual before identifying as another a-spec identity.
Of the a-spec respondents that label different types of attraction, the most common labels relate to platonic and aesthetic experiences. Sexual attraction was the least commonly labeled type of attraction for this sample. Many respondents also indicated that labeling specifically is difficult.
In this survey, we grouped different respondents into a-spec categories, but this is not necessarily a useful or accurate thing to do. Nevertheless, we found some differences between different a-spec people in terms of their experiences of attraction, their relationship status, and whether they identified as queer before identifying as a-spec. The sample size here is small, so further research into these differences is highly recommended.
Hi! I’m working on a research essay for class and I would appreciate it if black ppl who identify as ace and/or aro took this survey!
Being Black in the Ace and/or Aro Community
[Reblogs would be greatly appreciated!]
Casual reminder that lack of sexual desire/lack of desire to have sex, is still considered a sign of mental illness by a lot of reputable medical organizations. Just in case you forgot aphobia is a thing.
Aphysical, aemotional, and atertiary recoins
(Original post is here)
Aphysical and aphys-spec
A term for someone who does not experience physical attraction. This person may also be asexual, nonaesthetic, and/or asensual, or they could experience those types of attraction without a physical component.
The aphysical spectrum (aphys-spec) is a broader label that also encompasses those who experience atypical (fluctuating, very little, fluid, demi-/auto-/fray-/etc) physical attraction.
Flag meanings are the same as the original aphysical flag. The aphys-flag meanings are pink-brown for atypical physical attraction, pink-orange for aphys-spec people who still have/want physical relationships, gray for aphysical identity, pink for ace/asen/etc-spec people, and purple for asexual/asensual/etc people.
Aemotional and aemo-spec
A term for someone who does not experience emotional attraction. This person may also be aromantic, nonalterous, and/or a(queer)platonic, or they could experience those types of attraction without an emotional component.
The aemotional spectrum (aemo-spec) is a broader label that also encompasses those who experience atypical (fluctuating, very little, fluid, demi-/auto-/fray-/aego-/lith-/cupio-/etc) emotional attraction.
If you don’t like vowels next to each other at the beginning of words you can call this ‘anemotional’ and ‘anem-spec’.
Also, someone (AndleRandle on Fandom) actually already made an aemo-spec flag but I wanted an official/matching one instead. So sorry Andle! Your flag is fine I just wanted to make my own.
Flag meanings are the same as the original aemotional flag. The aemo-flag meanings are dark pink for atypical emotional attraction, pink for aemo-spec people who still have/want emotional relationships, dark gray for aemotional identity, blue for aro/apl/etc-spec people, and dark blue for aromantic/aplatonic/etc people.
Atertiary and ate®-spec
A term for someone who does not experience tertiary attraction. This person would also be nonamical, asocial, amental, axenial, adomestic, and a[any other type of tertiary attraction].
The atertiary spectrum (ate[r]-spec) is a broader label that also encompasses those who experience atypical (fluctuating, very little, fluid, demi-/auto-/fray-/aego-/lith-/cupio-/etc) tertiary attraction. The ater-spec can also include people who experience some, but not all, types of tertiary attraction.
However some people don’t like the term tertiary attraction because it can imply that types of attraction other than physical/s3xual (3=e) and emotional/romantic are less important. The term eriattraction was created as an alternative and some Fandom users (idk who) suggested that atertiary could therefore also be called noneriattracted (and I suggest that ater-spec could be noneri-spec). Another suggestion to replace tertiary is non-rose. So atertiary could also be called anrose and anro-spec.
Flag meanings are the same as the original atertiary flag. The ater-flag meanings are purple for atypical tertiary attraction, blue for ater-spec people who still have/want tertiary relationships, light gray for atertiary identity, yellow for axen/asoc/etc-spec people, and orange-brown for axenial/asocial/etc people.
Notes:
-Someone who is completely aphysical, aemotional, and atertiary may be considered anattractional (not experiencing any form of attraction at all).
-What counts as physical vs emotional vs tertiary attraction is completely up to the individual! Attraction feels different to everyone and if someone wants to use one if these terms due to being on an a-spectrum that I didn’t explicitly list on the definition that’s fine. (Ex: an apresential person considering themself aphysical or aemotional instead of atertiary).
You’ve heard of everyone in Ninjago is trans, now get ready for
Everyone in monkie kid is a-spec