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Transfem and bi stimboard with phones, vintage technology, and steampunk for anonymous!❤️--❤️  -❤️- 

Transfem and bi stimboard with phones, vintage technology, and steampunk for anonymous!

❤️--❤️ -❤️- ❤️--❤️


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Heyyyy. Reminders:

• Transfems can be afab and transmascs can be amab ✨

• Afab people can experience transmisogyny (if they are perceived as transfem). Transmisogyny isn’t an amab-exclusive thing

• Amab people can experience transandrophobia (if they are perceived as transmasc). Transandrophobia isn’t an afab-excluive thing


You can be simultaneously transfem and transmasc •°’`

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houseofalexzander:

So glad to be back from my buissiniess trip in Orlando, Florida.
So much stuff I need to do to catch back up.

My partner George picked me up from the airport and then we went out to eat and he told me about this movie he had watched. Despite how tired I was I wanted to see it for myself.
It was absolutely amazing so I wanted to recomend it.

Its called Love Is Strange,
I definately recomend watching it.

Xoxo
-Elliott Alexzander


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Trans Storytelling: Bravery

Our first T-Talks video featuring Elliott Tobias is Live! Go to the YouTube channel and subscribe! I’ll post another from our inaugural event next Wednesday, and then the next, and the next… Share it!

If YOU are trans identified and wanna be a featured speaker, hit me up!

If you wanna participate, but are not in the Columbus area, or are not comfortable speaking in front of a crowd, you can create a 5 minute “vlog” on Bravery now through mid September. DM me for more info and guidelines! you could be featured on our channel!! ❤

As pride month 2019 gets a rolling, I felt the pull to share some thoughts…

So, if you’ve tuned in late, here’s what you missed: I officially came out as a transwoman in late 2014/early 2015. At that time and for quite some time before, I was pushing myself to be an all american, hyper masculine person. It was my attempt at meeting expectations; of fitting in and keeping a low profile. I had gotten to this place of self loathing do in large part (but not exclusively) to an early attempt at transition that went very, VERY bad.

I was in DEEP denial to be sure, but I was also so, so scared. Scared of losing the love of my life, my family and friends – terrified of the unknown… of becoming homeless (again) because I wasn’t sure it would be possible to keep/get a job. What would it do to my art career?? Would I be expected to leave my life behind and start over? From SCRATCH?? I came from such rough origins of discrimination, othering, abuse and bullying, that I didn’t know if I could handle yet ANOTHER set of obstacles. Especially, when I had worked so hard to have a good life that I could be proud of. I think this is a common concern among those of us who transition late in life.

I suppose, you could say that I had become comfortable in my little gender prison. It was the devil I knew, so to speak. We were very poor, growing up, and I was very frequently left unsupervised and this often put me in harms way for one reason or another. But thankfully, the boy was a survivor. He could take a beating and give one back. He was reactionary, tough, steely, and driven. Determined to live long enough for everything to finally make sense, so I could have a shot at peace.

A raw, angry nerve, if there ever was one.

But he was also kind, compassionate, and hell bound to be better than the sum of his parts. And if I’m really honest here, it wasn’t  always the worst thing; riding shotgun with him for as long as I did. There were a lot of crazy adventures! Good friends – some truly fond memories associated with the guy. I’ve always lusted for life experiences. These, not only inform me as I continue though my life, but amass to a treasure trove of moments that I wouldn’t trade for anything. That said, living inauthenticly was slowly rotting me from the inside out.

I tried VERY hard to be heteronormative, and cisgendered. I ignored myself, and focused on everyone else. My education, my career… I kept busy and hoped that my gender conflicts would simply go away like my childhood asthma. I believed for so long that it couldn’t be any different than it was, that it eventually became the truth. Until, finally, it wasn’t. So you can imagine how HARD coming out was.

It was me claiming myself, FOR myself, for the first time in my life – EVER, and facing the reality of who I actually am.

This is why I get so annoyed by people who refer to transitioning as a “choice” or a “lifestyle,” by the way. What a stupid, hurtful thing to say to someone! I didn’t choose being transgender anymore than I chose to have been born in New York, or to have blue eyes or to be allergic to crab. Every year – GLOBALLY – hundreds of transfolk are murdered, just for trying to live their best lives in their own damn skin. That’s. Fucked up.

That’s 1.4 MILLION or so Americans getting getting denied healthcare, being harassed by law enforcement, losing their jobs, and being shunned by family/friends/spiritual communities because why? People can’t wrap their head around the complexity of gender?!

But yeah, it’s a party. Woo-fucking-hoo. (Insert facepalm, here.)

The reality is, we humans exist on spectrums. Gender, sexuality, physicality; like a person’s identity, we are never only “one thing or the other.” And that’s GOOD because diversity and life experience. And for real, this is how it’s been the entirety of human existence. The idea of a binary, is an archetype. Like roman gods. Mars, for instance, is not an actual person, but rather a representation of a TYPE of person. A mentality. A glorified ideal. Such is the ideal of “binary man” and “binary woman.”

It’s all a gray area people, try to keep up.

One of the most beautiful things about being transgender (IMHO), is its intersectionality. It’s a kind of equalizer. What that means, is that ANYONE, can be born trans, regardless of cultural/ethnic origin, political affiliation, religious views, social standing, ableness, intelligence, health…. – in a sense, trans people are all people.

And THAT, dear internet, is BEAUTIFUL to me. And that is why I am free and have pride and what, next weekend, I’ll be celebrating.

Stay strong, live your best life and have a happy pride. <3

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Happy New Year! Ig #girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #girlslikeus #transisbeautiful #mtf #girlslikeus #

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“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.✨❣️✨™️ #girls

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Wading into the often problematic abyss of Twitter can cause you to think many things, especially if you’re a trans person of color. Like the world has a lot of growing up and learning to do when it comes to the gender spectrum. Or that the only trans folks mainstream society tend to know about are celebrities. Sometimes, you even feel like you’re just one unique blip on the social media radar.

All of those are true, but you’re not alone. There are plenty of trans folks of color spilling T, discussing their experiences, and in general, just taking up space (and rightly so). Here are some dope people that you should follow immediately (only if you want to get your *intersectional* life on a daily basis)!

Check out the list here.

I swear to God, every pair of shorts I buy is gayer shorter than the last. I love it

Hot girl summerrrrr ⭐

Holy shit, I have so many social events coming up over the next couple months

  • Friend’s birthday party TONIGHT
  • Partner’s birthday TOMORROW
  • Belated Father’s Day in one week
  • Best friend’s baby shower in three weeks
  • My wedding shower in late August

I’m excited, but I’m also so nervous. The majority of my transition was spent in quarantine (I started HRT in Sept 2019) and I feel like I’m reentering the world as a totally new person. I’ll have to think about things that I haven’t had to in so long, like introducing myself to strangers, using public facilities (like bathrooms), and looking/dressing very differently to people I’ve known for a long time. Honestly, it’s overwhelming.

At least the party tonight will have a lot of queer people in attendance, so it’s a good first outing. And my partner’s birthday will obviously be a safe time since it’ll just be us and a few very close friends. It’s my bffs baby shower and my own wedding shower that has me losing sleep and self-medicating with pot.

I’m not being dramatic or paranoid when I say that there will be transphobes at the baby shower. My friend and her husband are big supporters of mine, of course, and other mutual friends will be there too, but there are a LOT of conservatives in her family. And baby showers are soooooooo gendered; I’ll be forced to navigate a very binary, cis world. I’m more than happy to stick with the women if and when it comes time to split the party up along gender lines for games and such, but it’ll be real weird knowing that there will be many people there who know that I was AMAB. I feel stuck between dressing moderately femme (like a floral blouse and jeans) to avoid being “too much” and drawing attention to myself (and thus away from my friend and her husband) and not dressing femme enough to draw attention to myself when in among women. I want to dress very femme (a dress, makeup, maybe a slight heel) so that even people who know I’m trans can see that I’m at least putting in the effort to pass.

My wedding shower has me worried about all the same stuff, though the stakes feel even higher for fairly obvious reasons. We’re having it at a vintage tea house and– like my cis spouse– I want to really lean into that and wear a poofy dress, lace gloves, and a fascinator, but that’s a HUGE jump from how my family has been used to seeing me for the past 34 years. My mom and sister have been attending pride with me since 2017 and they are awesome at getting my name and pronouns right, but even when I try to dress moderately femme in front of my extended family to remind them that I’m not a man, no one else even tries to get my pronouns right.

Fuck. This was a longer post than I meant for it to be.

Aromantic transfems are:

  • Amazing
  • Fantastic
  • Absolutely 10/10
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