#you deserve to be happy
Let yourself be a beginner. Start something new that interests you, even if you don’t know where it will lead to. Make mistakes. It doesn’t matter how you do it, at least start.
my joy doesn’t have to look like yours
You deserve to feel happy.☀️
you are the only thing that 100% will be for you for the rest of your life, take care of yourself
it took me so long to realize my toxic friendships so here are some of the signs from my experience:
-bailing on your plans last minute;
we made plans all the time but when the day came i would always be the one left in the dust with a half-assed excuse as to why they couldn’t come… i was always expecting to be canceled on and was surprised when they didn’t
-running to you during hard times but not being there for you
i was always the first one she would go to when she was sad, but when i needed someone she wasn’t there
-making you feel guilty about things you shouldn’t feel guilty about
got in a fight because i finally spoke up about how i’ve felt for years, and then once i started to distance myself for my own good i got the “i deserve better than this” speech…
- always wiping away their tears when they cause yours
was i always making her feel better and helping her? yes. was she the cause of my tears most of the time? also yes. <<and that’s not okay!
-getting dropped the second something “better” came along
we were inseparable, right? well, right until she met a new friend and then there was never time for me anymore.and once that friend was gone she was running back to me with the “we haven’t talked in so long !!”
so, i stepped away. i did what i’ve needed to do for so long. and if you have these toxic friendships i strongly encourage you to step away too. you realize how much other people care. you realize that doing all the work to keep someone happy isn’t a friendship. you realize that a friendship is building eachother up and there’s effort from both people. and i know it can be hard because sometimes your toxic friendships are with the people you consider your best friends. but if they really want you in their lives they will start to make an effort once you’ve left. if they dont make an effort to build a real friendship again then you aren’t losing anything important and you’re much better off without them.
// I had a pretty hard year, but a good reminder is that every singe day of 2017 I was loved by family, I was able to give my love to others, and I was employed, sheltered, full, and warm. I’m not going to make any resolutions, because I can never keep those (motivation definitely isn’t my strong suit), but I am going to visualize good things coming to me and continue to do the things I know I can do well that make a difference in the world. I can give love to strangers and make scary, vulnerable, painful situations so much better, and I’m going to keep doing that all year long.
What will you do?
#newyearseve #nonewyearsresolutions #newyearsplans
[img text: 2017 was hard, but you made it through. You did your laundry, cooked meals, and took out the trash. Maybe not always, not as often as you should have, but you did it.
2018 is going to be better. Maybe not perfect, but better. You’re going to be gentle with yourself, expect great things, and offer kindness to others.]
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