it took me so long to realize my toxic friendships so here are some of the signs from my experience:
-bailing on your plans last minute;
we made plans all the time but when the day came i would always be the one left in the dust with a half-assed excuse as to why they couldn’t come… i was always expecting to be canceled on and was surprised when they didn’t
-running to you during hard times but not being there for you
i was always the first one she would go to when she was sad, but when i needed someone she wasn’t there
-making you feel guilty about things you shouldn’t feel guilty about
got in a fight because i finally spoke up about how i’ve felt for years, and then once i started to distance myself for my own good i got the “i deserve better than this” speech…
- always wiping away their tears when they cause yours
was i always making her feel better and helping her? yes. was she the cause of my tears most of the time? also yes. <<and that’s not okay!
-getting dropped the second something “better” came along
we were inseparable, right? well, right until she met a new friend and then there was never time for me anymore.and once that friend was gone she was running back to me with the “we haven’t talked in so long !!”
so, i stepped away. i did what i’ve needed to do for so long. and if you have these toxic friendships i strongly encourage you to step away too. you realize how much other people care. you realize that doing all the work to keep someone happy isn’t a friendship. you realize that a friendship is building eachother up and there’s effort from both people. and i know it can be hard because sometimes your toxic friendships are with the people you consider your best friends. but if they really want you in their lives they will start to make an effort once you’ve left. if they dont make an effort to build a real friendship again then you aren’t losing anything important and you’re much better off without them.
Take a moment to appreciate what this beautiful moose is doing and has done for all of us.
1. ALWAYS KEEP FIGHTING.
This gave us hope. Gave us strength. Told that it’s okay to feel the way you’re feeling, it’s okay to hit the ground but you must stand again, keep fighting the fight. That we got your back, you’re not alone in this fight. You’ll get through it, stay strong. Don’t use hope. When life knocks you down, never give up. Always keep fighting. Don’t underestimate your own strength. AKF - MADE US STRONG.
2. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
This helped us get comfortable in our own skin. Yes, people don’t think they deserve to be loved, that they are not good enough. They find it hard to feel comfortable in their own skin, their own body. Told that you are beautiful the way you are, love yourself. Go easy on yourself, forgive yourself for the hard times. Mistakes make you who you are. Stop hating yourself for everything that you aren’t and start loving yourself for everything that you are. LYF - MADE US LOVE OURSELVES.
3. I AM ENOUGH.
“I AM ENOUGH! And so are YOU.” Because sometimes you feel like you can’t fight and sometimes you feel like you just can’t love yourself. When that happens, remember that you are enough. You’re enough as you are.
If you’re feeling down, go find something easy to do, to boost your confidence! Something you’re good at, or something you’ve never tried but it’s easy to learn! Remember, you’re awesome, and you’re good at things, and you’re worth a lot. Have a happy day, and if you feel like it, reblog and tell me about something you did today, or you learned, or just a hobby you’re really fond of! I’d love to hear.
