Hey Folks,

I want to apologize for the time it has taken (and in advance for how long it might take) to get Missing e back up and running completely for Tumblr users.

You may find yourself needing to temporarily disable Missing eorsome of its features to use certain features of Tumblr. Please know that I’ll be working on tweaking the new Tumblr interface soon!

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I’m busy at work. Things are definitely interesting and I like what I’m doing, but I’m burned out some when I get home a lot of the time.

It may seem like ages ago, but I pretty much just moved to a different country, to one of the biggest, most complex cities in the world. I want to see more of this place. Go skating at Rockefeller Center.

My new apartment isn’t 100% ready yet. The furniture is built and I’m mostly unpacked, but there’s still painting to do and stuff to buy and set up. I don’t even have Internet there until next week.

I am spending several evenings in the next couple weeks doing technical phone interviews for an IT Director position at a family member’s company.

I am going back to Toronto, where I will be meeting with my real estate lawyer and the ex-to-be to finalize the separation agreement and sign all the closing documents for selling the house. On that note, it is also my now-meaningless wedding anniversary in three weeks. I am processing this.

Tumblr’s new interface looks great in some ways and poor in others. I want to hunker down and get Missing e back up and running, but it is slow going.

I apologize that it is taking more time than you or I would like, but perhaps you’ll understand.

Hello everyone! I have been gone for quite a while. I’m so sorry that I haven’t posted on here. I won’t make excuses on why I have been gone and bore you with some story about my life, and how I’m so busy that I just never have the time to post anything. That would be a total lie. Truth is, I’ve just been lazy. I’ve been posting way more on Instagram….

I just find that its easier for me to take pictures, write a short caption, and be done. But I’ve kinda been missing Tumblr. So I’m going to hopefully be posting more. We shall see how often that is…

But if you want to, you can check out my Instagram ( onceuponachapterr ) where I try and post everyday, if not, every other day. 

Anyway, if you’ve ben following me since my absence, thank-you. I don’t deserve it and I will try and make it up to you all.

Happy Reading!!

     I’m sorry that I always seem to dominate the conversation with all my fears and all my tears, as if I can’t find the time to let them go at any other time. I’m sorry that it seems like you only ever get to see me when I’m like that. I’m sorry that I overcompensate and accidentally suffocate despite my best efforts not to entangle and complicate. I’m sorry that we got stuck staring at each other across a square table spewing the same words that we’ve spewed for some time now, instead of working side by side on some project either one of us could have dreamed up. I’m sorry that conversations always seem to go south and I’m not fun to talk to lately; I know that wears on you and only pushes you farther from what I say that I want. I’m sorry that I overthink all the tiniest things and calculate the damage I could do, and I’m not more free-spirited around you like I am with everyone else. I’m sorry I’m not the friend that you deserve yet and that I’m always so caught up in my own head. I’m still trying to figure out how to fix that and so much more. And I’m sorry I’m apologizing now in a series of apologies instead of just making changes in my actions, but I won’t give up because I know I can do better, and you’ll never have to see me like that again.

~A.G. 11/13/19

Hi!

I wanted to apologize to you all for abandoning my blog without any warning. I really was feeling down back then (thank you for your cheering up messages!)… Also I kind of lost my interest in zero waste. I mean I’m still trying my best to live low waste and use the tips I were using before and sharing with you, maybe I also found some new ones. There are many better zero waste bloggers, I wanted to share my own story, but at that point I felt like there wasn’t much more for me to share. The lockdown really clipped my wings. 

I’m finally back on Tumblr, but I will be posting on my new personal journal blog, I’m leaving the link below if you want to check it out ;)

Take care 

My new blog: https://darlenesparkle.tumblr.com/

(PS. I completed my “decluttering 1000 things challenge”! It was really a thing! I recommend you trying doing something similar, it’s really worth it!)

Still Better Apology Than Twilight…

I swear I didn’t forget abt this blog I’ve just had a lot on my plate recently lmao school is-

They say that we, Romanians, are technical geniuses. Well, not me apparently. When I was away this weekend, some scumbag hacked into this account and posted pictures of girls. I’m so sorry this happened. The only intention of this page is to spread all the wonderful things about Romania.

Just so you know: everything is safe again and the posts are deleted. Thank you for all the kind messages about this hack. You guys are great.

It’s just that I don’t have the time and calm I need to take care of the blog. But I’ll go back…

Hey there! Im back .. I’m going to skip my typical intro of apologizing after being missing for a long time … and continue that because of work, and things like life itself, I’ve been absent. Not because I am no longer interested in Evangelion but because of time… and yes, I apologize for that … This is a “safe” place to me …

I hope everyone is well and safe from everything that is happening. Take care of yourselves please and stay strong.
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Holis, estoy de vuelta.. Voy a saltearme mi típica introducción de pedir disculpas después de haberme desaparecido por largo tiempo … y proseguir con que, debido a trabajo, y cosas como la vida misma, he estado ausente. No porque ya no me interese Evangelion si no que por el tiempo y si, pido disculpas por eso… Este es un lugar “seguro”

Espero que todos estén bien y a salvo de todo lo que esta sucediendo. Cuídense mucho por favor y fuerza.

Just letting you all know I won’t be posting myself for a while. I’m having an “I’m really fucking fat and hate my body” kind of… Well I don’t really know what it is, that’s just how I feel right now. Sorry for the inconvenience.
-Missy x

Hi All, as usual I have been absent from the blog for far too long yet again. I have been thinking about dressing (the expression of my feminity) and it’s lack of presents in my general life. I’ll keep the story short this time but offline I’m rarely in contact with anyone with the subject being my dressing. Only online have I found a way to express my femininity, through this blog. I’m going to try to keep active on this blog and not let issues/personal problems in my offline life get in the way of expressing my femininity through pictures I post here.

I have a considerable backlog of pictures, from a dressing session at home in January! and yet another BWBG Photoshoot in March! which some of you may have already seen a few pictures of. These will be posted once I have posted the photos taken at home in January, I shall be scheduling them all over the next few days to post daily over the coming weeks. Until then, if you’d like a sneak-peek, take a look at Cindy’s Flickr.

NOTE:I believe this recent BWBG Photoshoot to be the best yet! and yes, I plan on returning again this year for another spectacular Photoshoot! <3

I’m not going to promise any sort of upload schedule, I’ll just say that I’m going to try my best to enjoy expressing my femininity in the way that I know I can and try my best not to let anything pull me away from that. If I have personal problems with my offline expression I’m going to do my best to make sure that does not affect my activity on this blog.

Hugs from Lucy <3 x

I made a post last night because I had a bad one and I was mad and just wanted to rant, but I didn’t think it through. I deleted it and I’m sorry for posting it.

I’M SORRY

I want to apologize. I’m sorry that I have had to pull you down with me into this antechamber full of cold blood bags. It’s hard to believe such a room exists, that there is really a room where they just put bags of blood. But they stack up and stack up. When I got here, they didn’t cover the door, but they do now. I don’t think anyone ever comes for the blood bags again. No, really. It’s drafty. I’m so sorry.

Hold one of the bags, and feel the blood inside.

This is my mothering instinct talking.

I’m sorry for how this ends, in a chamber that used to lead somewhere.

NIINA POLLARI

If you’ve been following this account for a while or just found it now, you may have noticed I haven’t posted in a while. I am having some problems with Tumblr that’s probably down to my phone, but that’s not the only reason and I felt like I should explain instead of ghosting this account.

Right now, mentally, I am notdoing great. I got a job (wahoo) and while it is nice to be earning money again after a year of unemployment, it’s tiring in more ways than one. I’ve been having extreme back pain that comes in waves out of nowhere and, especially in hot weather, I’m sensitive to migraines that’ll knock me off my feet completely for days. Not to mention, I am still in college and since it’s getting near the end of my course, it’s verystressful.

There’s also the fact that I’m not completely happy. I’m trying not to overshare too much, but the way I perceive my body is shitty at best and I still struggle to take proper care of myself, even with the ‘easy’ things like brushing my teeth or eating proper meals..

I still post art though, I’m most active on my Tik TokandInstagram(both@yuhbrosad), and I have no plans to give that up since it’s a comfort hobby of mine. However, until I get into a healthier routine, finish college, and sort out my phone troubles, I won’t be using my Tumblr.

Sorry for the lack of content and thank you for the new followers that have popped up despite my absence (I get emails notifications that make me smile :) ). I hope it won’t be too long until you hear from me again. I’ve got a drawing tablet on the way and I can’t wait until I get to work on my projects properly again.

Thank you all for the support, happy pride month (I’m ace and queer if you were wondering :p), here’s some art you may have missed :)

I initially responded to this ask in the middle of last night.

In the morning, I felt my response was too harsh. This was just one of so many similar asks, and certainly not the rudest. It just hit at the wrong time. A couple things were going on, and I’m always wordy so I put the second half under the cut.

1)Lots and lots and lots of people were calling me white on Tumblr. Some of them came at it sideways (“it’s giving White Savior,” “passing people might as well enlist,” “did your brown rub off in the shower lol”), but plenty more just straight-up called me a white person.

I’ve been really open about white-passing on Tumblr over the last year, because I feel that’s an important disclosure to make when I talk about Romani issues. I experience a lot of bigotry because of it. A lot. As in, at least one new asshole every couple weeks. I get deluges of it any time I post about something controversial.

I’m not white. I don’t have a “white side.” Both my parents are Romani, as are all four of my grandparents. It’s veryracist to call me a “white person” just because I don’t look the way you expect a POC to look. Not to mention, none of you actually know what I look like.

I assume, in my kinder moments, that people think they’re punching up. You can’t really punch up at a Roma anywhere in the world, okay, but many Americans don’t understand that. I have some privileges. I breathe through it and move on.

Days like yesterday, I’m less charitable. It was too much.

2)I was answering a lot of messages and asks.

I did notexpect to get so many questions. People wanted advice on how to navigate conversations about the Oscars with white people in their lives. Some younger people already had upsetting conversations, and just wanted support.

(If you’ve sent me an unanswered message, I promise I will get back to you as soon as I can. If you sent an ask, be sure you come off anon so I don’t have to answer you publicly. I don’t want you to see a rude comment before I can take care of it.)

I know that the Tumblr consensus was that everything I said in my post was “common knowledge.” I experienced first-hand that it is not. I left the post up as long as I did because it really was helping people. They felt safe to contact me, and talk over things that made them vulnerable. Several of them started their messages by telling me they felt stupid, and that sucks! They aren’t stupid! It was hard to watch so many BIPOC imply that everyone should know how white people will react, so it’s infantilizingto say the quiet part out loud. Not everybody has your life experience. Not everybody has your social awareness. It doesn’t make anyone an infantbecause they need this stuff explained to them.

I’ve tried very hard to be a safe place for people to come online, and that’s why I took down my original response to this ask. I rarely lose my temper on here. I just let myself get stretched too thin.

Was my post “necessary?” I don’t know. What would make it necessary? Is it enough that some people found a sympathetic ear, and some advice from stranger who won’t judge them for asking?

Was it “very stupid?” No. It was probably worded badly, but it was also true. If you don’t learn how to navigate situations like this from a relative or a friend, you’re going to learn it the hard way. It’s awful. I don’t want people to end up in awful situations.

Look, I’m a mom and an aunt. I know I bring some of that energy to Tumblr. So many of my followers are teenagers, and young adults. I always want young people to have the knowledge and the tools to make a choice, and to stand by that choice when it gets challenged. I want them to avoid some of the heartbreaks we had to endure.

There is no “common knowledge” when it comes to race relations, and it’s frustrating to see smart people act like it exists.

So, anyway, I took the post down because people were being both anti-Roma and anti-white-passing. That hurts. I can take criticism pretty well online, even when it’s en masse, but I’ll admit that this kind of bigotry wears me down. You can hate my post for its own sake. You don’t have to disrespect my race.

I struck a raw nerve, and that definitely wasn’t my intention. Honestly, I’m not sure why the post got so much traction. I apologize that it was worded in a way that made people feel talked down to. That’s my error. I truly don’t have an opinion on who was in the right/wrong at the Oscars, but I do know a lot about protecting yourself in white spaces. When we watched it happen live, in our living room, I knew immediately that ordinary people were going to get hurt. My inbox proved me right. So, I am very sorry for the way I said it. I’m not sorry for saying it.

I also apologize for bringing up spanking/smacks in the post, and I admit that I did notexpect it freak so many people out. Maybe that’s a function of my age/stage of life? Maybe where I grew up, or the culture I as raised in? I think it was triggering. That was in poor taste. I’m sorry.

There was criticism I agreed with, and will take to heart.

XOXO, Earnest

Sorry for the inactivity on this channel.
During the summer months: July, August, September activity will be minimal due to traveling.
Stay tuned, Thanks and I wish everyone the best of luck.  

and
REMEMBER
Work hard;  Be nice to people and Don´t get lost or killed!

Hey guys, its L here. I jsut wanted to apologize for two things. 1. Being the situation with the asterick. I didn’t mean to confuse anyone or make anyone feel like they are being left out. I’m working on a way to include everyone and not be problematic. 2. That rant I put up months ago. That was really not a response befitting the situation and not appropiate behavior for a mod. So again, I apologize.-L

Plato: it’s always who was Socrates not how was Socrates

Xenophon: socrates was in fact a rat bastard-

Right, I honestly can’t believe I’m having to make a post like this but here we go..

A couple of days ago I found two gifs of Mark Gatiss loose on the internet. Not from a tumblr page, nor any website with a creditable name. I then uploaded these two gifs onto my dashboard and it gained a tiny bit of attention (less than 20 notes).

From here, I ended up getting an individual who claimed the gifs were hers- and I’m not doubting this, it’s whatever- and then proceeding to comment a url to the original post.

Great. That’s fine! Absolutely okay!

I merely then stated that the url didn’t work for me. But I apologised on my post, proceeded to ask if the individual would still like me to put their name down as credit, even though I didn’t get the gifs directly from her and had no form, therefore, of knowing who originally made them.

I had no answer. I then scrolled through my own dashboard and saw that this individual had made an entire new post with the whole of the gifset they had made with a smaller caption, at the time, of simply stating that they’d seen a post go round with two of their gifs and so she was re-posting the original.

Again, this is absolutely fine. No worries.. but I proceeded again to apologise, offer to give credit or, alternatively, just delete the post. I, again, had no answer.. but then saw that another comment had been added, indirecting me about taking the gifs and stating that people should give credit “and no- the ‘internet’ doesn’t count”. As though it was like I was lying about where I had found the gifs- I wasn’t. Trust me, I’m not that desperate for gifs, nor feigning recognition for running a three second video through an app to make it into a gif.

Once again, I apologised. I took down the post, reiterated that I genuinely didn’t find them on tumblr or anything alike, said sorry once more for the confusion and even reblogged their post stating my apology, outlined my mistake, and encouraged others to instead return to the original post and share from there instead.

I haven’t heard back from the individual at all during this, despite it being a fairly long time since I messaged and they have made other posts/comments or whatever since. I will now be taking the action to simply block them and get on with it- which is something I didn’t think I’d have to due as I usually love my interaction with the tumblr community.

I just never expected to be so rudely indirected and ignored following an honest mistake in which my apologies were ignored, despite my removal of what they claim I “stole”. Frankly, I feel pathetic even making this post, but I understand we have mutual pages in common and I just want to make it clear that I am not a bad person. I admit to my mistakes and errors, apologise for them, and rectify the situation to the best of my ability.

And I know it’s not really the point, and I know some people get more possessive over others about things.. but the fact this has come about over a gif is what has upset me more. Nothing would stop me taking literally about 3 minutes of my time to screenrecord the EXACT time stamp of the video in which this gif came from, and running it through a free app on my phone to make it a gif.. thus, making it my own. If it was an original piece of art work I found, honestly I’d accept any slander I received. As an artist, I’d be gutted seeing something that took hours of my time gaining attention without being credited.. but this was two gifs.. probably took no more than 5-10 minutes to make the entire set. By using an app and a public video available to everybody.

I just.. I’ve been having an awful time in my life with my mental health, and maybe this is why I’m taking it to heart a bit more. But being targeted by somebody over double my age over something so tiny has really upset me, especially since I tried all I could to rectify and apologise for it.

I won’t be on here for a while now. I need to sort my head out and let this blow over. I know it sounds dumb, but I just can’t be on here right now. Apologies to people enjoying my fics, I know I said I’d update soon, but I’m just not in the right headspace.

If you’re just going to comment negative stuff, don’t. Please. If you’re just going to forward this on to the person I blocked. There’s no point. I’ve apologised, I’ve deleted the post, and they’ve chosen not to accept. If they still make comments about me, I don’t want to know. If you can’t accept that this has upset me, just block me- I don’t want to have to deal with negativity on an account that has been my comfort for over four years now on a website I’ve loved for so much longer.

I’m going to delete the tumblr app and be completely inactive for a few days at the very least. Sorry again to the person I upset, sorry if you truly thought I stole something you had made intentionally, and sorry to anyone who I’ve upset in the process. Sorry for making this post.

See you whenever,

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