INFJ Writing Problems

So I have this right now and thought why not write about it. I think a lot of writers get problems writing but, considering in INFJ, I think it would be really hard on us and here are my reasons.

1)Judging/Perfectionists. I think that since we are perfectionist, it’s harder for us to write a book because, for me, I tend to reread my books so many times, trying to edit it, to a point where I think it’s terribly written and I just throw it out the window along with my hopes and dreams.

2)Plotting. So as an INFJ, we like to think of the future. So, with me, if I can’t plot a book (which is 99.9% of the time since I suck at plotting) I will throw the book away, not inspired to write anymore of it.

3)Distractions. For me, this might be another big one. I am always thinking so my own thoughts are a distraction along with something called Netflix. What I find myself doing to help with this is sitting down in a comfortable place, with my laptop as my writing tool, headphone, and turn off all electronics, and focus on writing. When I listen to music, there is always to me a certain artist I will listen to that helps me write instead of distracting me.

4)Impatience. I guess whenever I write I tend to want to rush through the book to finish the book and end up making the book sound terrible during the first draft which links back to Judging.

Thats my top four so far. I hope you all could relate to this. Again this my opinion based on experience. Hope this helps in anyway!

How I’d react to someone liking me back —>

Me: *blushes and runs away like a little child*

(A letter to a special someone…ps I’m not saying his name. Also has nothing to do with infj, this is just me getting things off my chest)

Dear X,

Our friendship is the greatest thing I have bestowed. To that, I am so thankful. You are my best friend, we share the same sense of humor, I enjoy sharing memes and talking about our lives with each other. I find myself looking forward on seeing you again, every day almost.

We have been friends for a very long time now, and the one thing I admit here that I have a secret, a secret I don’t think I can ever tell you. It can ruin things for us, a friendship I longed to have for the longest time.

But my secret is my feeling for you… it goes deeper than just friendship.

I long for a day we end up together, you ask me out on dates, on adventures. I long to spend all my time with you. I have had crushes before, feelings for someone once before, but never have I felt the way I feel with you. It’s like the ones I thought I liked before, it was nothing, it didn’t mean anything, not compared to my feelings for you.

You respect me more than anyone has in my life. You are kind, your smile brightens my day more than the sun in the desert. You care for me when I’m at my weakest, caring for my feelings when no one, not even myself would. You are generous, wanting to help every single person in need, even if they probably don’t deserve it. You see the goodness, the light in everyone you meet, even if it was dim, you still see it and appreciate it. You are a gentlemen, holding doors for me, holding my bag even if it has only my wallet and phone inside. Your laugh makes my heart feel warm, knowing it’s not a fake laugh, but more genuine, and makes me want to jump around the room like I’m 16 again. You make things seem possible when it may not at the moment. You have helped me in so many ways, become a better person. You make me want to be better person, seeing the way you are, the way you treat others.

That is why I could never be with you.

I say these things to reflect my own feelings, and to let them go, down the stream so I can just enjoy our friendship now, not wanting to hurt it, not wanting to get myself hurt with it.

I know you will never read this. You will never see how much the small things you do have a strong impact on me, how you have a great impact on me. You are an amazing person, and I hope the best for you. I hope that you meet someone who is perfect for you. Who reflects the same kind, generous, and respectful personality as you possess. I hope you find someone who make you feel like perfection exists.

Yours truly,

A friend

“Three passions, simple but overwhelmingly strong, have governed my life: the longing for love, the search for knowledge and unbearable pity for the suffering of mankind.”

—Bertrand Russell

INFJ/ Sagittarius,/ Ravenclaw/ Dark Academia/ Writer/ Southeast Asian Moodboard

Made for anon

It’s not that I’m not happy without you, but—

You’ve become that song I play on repeat, the one I can’t get out of my head. You’re the piece of art that moves me to tears, you are the mountains and wind that set my soul free; without you life just isn’t quite the same.

To my followers, I am very sorry that I haven’t been posting as frequently as I should be. Frankly, I’ve been running out of material as of late, and I just don’t have any ideas.

Do you guys have any suggestions or requests?

INTJ apologizing after an argument:I’m sorry that me being right offended you.

INTJ apologizing for being late: I am so sorry, it’s completely my fault. I didn’t account for traffic and then I woke up late because I was an idiot and- *continues for five minutes*

INTJ: You know, maybe if I open up to someone, it won’t be so bad. Getting someone else’s insight on my emotions might be helpful, and possibly healthy. I’m going to go vent about the current inner turmoil I’m experiencing.

*Later, when INTJ has finished writing an essay on what’s going on in their head*

INTJ: And so that’s why I think I’m feeling this way.

Person: *either says “oof” or never responds*

INTJ:…

INTJ: Welp, that was useless.