#asexual post
As a child, I never understood why anime characters got a nosebleed when they saw someone attractive.
…..I still don’t. Allosexuals explain
please share what you came up with as an explanation for why you didn’t feel sexual attraction before you knew about asexuality because i feel like every asexual has a story. like there’s the classic “i thought everyone was just joking,” but there’s also “i thought i just wasn’t trying hard enough to be attracted to people” and “i decided ‘the thought of kissing them doesn’t make me want to throw up’ was attraction.”
asexual questions
***cw: brief mentions of sex***
- when did you first hear about asexuality? did you identify with it right away?
- did you question being ace for a long time before using the label?
- what experiences/feelings made you first question if you were asexual?
- what did you struggle with most when questioning if you were asexual?
- do you know anyone irl who is also asexual?
- do you identify with any of the sexual preference labels (sex favorable, sex indifferent, sex averse, sex repulsed, sex ambivalent)?
- what (if any) other labels do you use to describe your identity?
- what makes you feel secure/validated in your identity?
- what’s your favorite thing about being asexual?
- what’s your least favorite thing about being asexual?
- what do you wish allos understood about asexuality?
- are you out as asexual to friends &/or family irl? if so, how do they feel about it?
- in what ways and to what degree does being asexual impact other parts of your life and identity?
- do you feel supported & represented by the asexual community? why or why not?
- what is your favorite canon asexual character or asexual headcanon?
you cannot accidentally fake being asexual. if you’re not pretending on purpose, you’re not pretending at all.
hey! i made a redbubble to sell ace pride designs! i’ve only posted a few things so far, but more is coming soon :)
you know what? i like being asexual. asexuality is good. using the label asexual makes me happy. i am comfortable being asexual and i wouldn’t change if i had the choice.
tip for anyone questioning if they’re asexual: if reading about people’s experiences with being ace consistently makes you think, “but doesn’t everyone feel like that?” you’re probably not allosexual
it’s weird how some people assume every asexual completely avoids every form of media with sexual content. aside from the fact that lack of sexual attraction ≠ hating sex, just because someone likes reading about or watching something doesn’t mean they want to do that in real life. i like reading about hybrid animal species, but i don’t want to become a liger breeder. my favorite books are a series of unfortunate events, but i don’t want to go to a boarding school where i live in a tin shack filled with crabs. i love learning about ancient rome, but i definitely don’t want to live there. so why can’t aces like watching r-rated movies?
“if you’re dating someone and not having sex with them, there’s a problem with the relationship.”
people think asexuals often don’t really understand sexual tropes in movies/books/shows because we’re ~innocent little babies uwu~ but it’s actually because their believability usually relies on the assumption that the audience knows what sexual attraction feels like
we are allowed to like being asexual. we are allowed to enjoy asexual experiences. we are allowed to be proud of being asexual. we are allowed to love asexuality.
the romantic attraction that allo-aces experience is as important and real and significant as the romantic attraction that alloromantic allosexuals experience
i’m doing a giveaway for an asexual pride flag on instagram right now!!
discovering you’re asexual can feel really lonely and isolating. so let’s all share our favorite things about being ace! i’m glad it’s made me learn about different types of attraction, because i understand myself a lot better now than i did before realizing i was asexual. i also love how welcoming and supportive the asexual community is.
please share yours!
kinda weird how even though amatonormativity and everything in our society being sexualized negatively affects everyone, asexuals and aromantics are ignored whenever we try to bring attention to these things
the WORST relationship trope has to be “we’re attracted to each other but also fundamentally incompatible as a couple so we’re going to stay together and just fight all the time” because it perpetuates the ideas that the only thing a successful relationship needs is attraction and that it’s better to be in an unhealthy relationship than not in a relationship at all. in this essay i will
sexual attraction is far from what distinguishes us from other animals. it doesn’t make anyone’s life complete and it doesn’t stop people from being lonely or unhappy.
so how could not experiencing sexual attraction make you broken?
“is this plot line very unrealistic or do i just not understand sexual attraction?”: a study in consuming media as an asexual person
To all my neurodiverse/mentally ill/traumatised asexuals and or aromatics:
You’re still valid. I love you. Your sexuality is valid despite your circumstances.
Can some wonderful ace/aro person please clarify to me that asexual means not feeling sexual attraction but it’s perfectly valid to be ace and also occasionally want to engage in sexual behaviours? Because that’s the only thing stopping me from realising I’m asexual
Disclaimer that you’re valid af if you’re sex repulsed or not and I love you
heres a little reminder to you all that if you are asexual you are completely valid and I love you, and if you are aromantic you are completely valid and I love you, and if you are aroace you are completely valid and I love you
