thegyusorcerer:

sweetalcremie:

alloaro actually means hot as hell thx for asking <3

as an aroace I agree. alloaros are hot asf imo

As a child, I never understood why anime characters got a nosebleed when they saw someone attractive.

…..I still don’t. Allosexuals explain

thegyusorcerer:

I was remembering how earlier this year I was using the labels “homoromantic asexual” or “ace lesbian” to describe myself. For a few months, those labels helped me understand the lesbian experience and how I related to it and ultimately to know if I was really a lesbian or not. I knew I was asexual and I was sure of that part of me, but… romantic attraction was always more complicated to understand bc I didn’t know if I had felt it or not.

I was sure that I didn’t feel attracted to men at all (romantically or sexually) but women… it had me wondering; aesthetic attraction and all haha. Hence, why the lesbian label helped me understand that. I came to understand that I do experience platonic and emotional attraction very strongly towards women/female aligned people but it has never been romantic in nature. Eventually, I learned I’m an aromanticasexual person. I’ve never experienced romantic attraction and I had mistook it for platonic attraction towards my similar gender all along. I had never desired a romantic partner either, it was more of the idea of one. But I’ve never felt that desire directed at someone specific, regardless of gender.

I guess I’m writing this for anyone out there that needs it: it’s okay to be confused, it’s okay to be wrong and think you’re x when you’re actually z. It’s okay to try on different labels and find the ones that describe your experience better, the ones that you’re comfortable with. It’s okay. I promise

Yea I went through something similar.

My crush on that one girl faded over the holidays and when I realized, I was baffled for a moment. That had never happened before.

But looking back at my “feelings”, I realized I was right every time I said it wasn’t a crush. It truly wasn’t.

I just admire that girl A LOT, I still do. But those weren’t romantic feelings nor seggsual attraction. It was just me “forcing” myself to put those unnamed emotions into a perfectly labeled box, as per usual.

Plus, I have a history of always having someone to “obsess over” in order to excuse myself for not paying attention in class or to procrastinate stuff I’m supposed to be doing.

Truth is, I’m way happier when I’m “crush-free” and not thinking of someone at all. I wish I could uninstall this need to have “an object of affection” when I just don’t want to have it.

OP is right. It’s okay to think that you’ve finally found the labels that suit you and later to realize that they don’t fit as well as you thought. It’s okay to skim through multiple labels until you find the right one(s). Or not. Deciding to stay sans-label isn’t a bad thing either.

Good thing queer exists, I use it for more often than you think

thegyusorcerer:

fellas, is romance overrated? yes or yes:

yea

autochorissexual, demiromantic, genderfluid and what-have-you

ace and aro and so on and so forth

platonic-roses:

Time for another aro positivity post because we all need and deserve it!

• Shoutout to aros who experience some level of romantic attraction, shoutout to aros who feel zero romantic attraction
• Shoutout to aros who feel deep love for their friends, shoutout to aros who don’t put emphasis on platonic relationships
• Shoutout to aros who partner up, shoutout to aros who don’t partner up
• Shoutout to aros who want to reclaim the word “love”, shoutout to aros who want to reject the word “love”
• Shoutout to aros who are also ace, shoutout to aros who aren’t ace
• Shoutout to aros who are out, shoutout to aros who are closeted
• Shoutout to aros who are accepted for their identity, shoutout to aros who receive hate for their identity
• Shoutout to aros who feel like they belong in queer spaces, shoutout to aros who feel rejected in queer spaces
• Shoutout to aros who feel included in aspec spaces, shoutout to aros who feel disconnected to the aspec community
• Shoutout to aros love being aro, shoutout to aros who hate being aro
• Shoutout to aros who love romantic content, shoutout to aros who hate romantic content
• Shoutout to aros who use microlabels to define their orientation, shoutout to aros who just use the word aro
• Shoutout to aros who have known they’re aro all their life, shoutout to aros who found out later on in life

Shoutout to aros

Does asexuality cause people to perceive their gender differently? Like, I’m not sure if I’m nonbinary or anything, but I definitely feel disconnected from my gender, and have noticed a trend that other asexual people are more likely to be nonbinary than other sexualities.

Does the lack of sexual attraction lead to that disconnection to your gender? As in, not being able to relate to the others of your assigned gender in the same way due to not being in touch with sexuality in the same way as them? It may also be similar with aromantics, I’m not sure.

If anyone has any further input or ideas on this I’d love to know because I’m really interested in this concept.

I’m asexual and aromantic for everyone except for

2 D B o y s

(and girls)

I was just starting to forget how asexual and aromantic I really am and then my volleyball team party happened oops

They were all talking about their sexual and romantic experience, their types, and their desires for the future and I was just sitting there like “what the fUCk. Is sêx.”

Also it’s surreal to hear people a year or two younger than you talking about their sëxūãl êxpèrīéncē