#siriusxremus

CW: sexualization/ fetishization

So this probably won’t get as much attention as my other ATYD posts because this one’s actually serious, instead of “oh my god this fic is sad!” But I feel like it’s a crucial conversation we need to have.

I feel like for the most part, people in this community do really well with talking about how mlm is fetishized, but I’m becoming increasingly concerned because of the posts I keep seeing where allies are trying to make sure wolfstar or gay ships aren’t being fetishized, when in reality sometimes it’s okay for things to just be slightly sexual.

Sexuality is not taboo and we need to be careful not to make it out to be taboo.

I feel like the LGBT and MLM communities have come so far and I think it could be harmful to our communities to reintroduce a stigma around gay sex and gay people being sexual.

It is not fetishizing to talk about gay sex in passing, and it is not a bad thing.

For example, I saw someone make a joke about Sirius and Remus having a sexual relationship (specifically in all the young dudes) and someone called them out (politely) asking why they had to go to a sexual place to describe the relationship between Sirius and Remus. And while I think it is important to have these conversations and check our internal biases about gay men and make sure we are not constantly sexualizing them, sometimes, things are just related to sex, sex can be a subject and not be inherently bad.

I then saw someone else saying that ATYD can get fetish-y because of the way Remus is more sexual around the full moon. But that’s not a bad thing! And it actaully fits the story perfectly, around the full moon remus feels everything deeper. Magic,emotions, and so it makes sense for his desires to also increase. 

This is been all over the place but basically what I’m trying to say is yes it is good to check our biases and politely call people out when they might be accidentally fetishizing gay men. But we can’t talk about sex, specifically gay sex, as something that is improper or wrong, because it is the opposite of progress to denormalize talking about gay people being sexual. Gay sex isn’t a subject that we should discourage having conversations about.

I really wish I could better articulate what I’m trying to say but I’m tired and I cant word things to save my life, just be careful when trying to deconstruct fetishization of gay men, because as much as that is bad stigmatizing gay sex isn’t helping anyone either.





Laser Tag

Sirius, on the blue team: Truce, okay?

Remus, on the red team: Sure, love.

*Later*

Remus, shooting Sirius: Bitch, you thought.

Sirius: *banging a quill on the table in frustration*

Remus: Stop that! How would you feel if I banged you on the table like that?

Sirius:

Sirius: I-I don’t know the correct answer to that question

Remus: why is the bottom of your pants wet?

Sirius: there was a puddle

Remus: okay, but why did you jump in it?

Sirius: it was a puddle.

Remus, pointing at Sirius: This sir is my emotional support wizard

James: Everyone has a gay cousin

Sirius: I don’t have a gay cousin

Remus: Babe, you are the gay cousin

Sirius:

Sirius:Oh.

Remus: Look me straight in the eyes and tell me you didn’t just do this

Sirius: I can’t look into those eyes and be straight at the same time

Sirius: Let’s get one thing straight

Sirius:

Sirius: I’m not :D.

Lily, trying to form a plan: Okay guys, we need to think straight

Sirius: We’re fucked

Sirius: My gaydar’s unmatched. I can tell if a person is gay just by a glance.

James: Moony’s been hitting on you for four weeks?

Sirius:

Sirius: He ?

Remus: You have more qualities than you think Sirius *points to Sirius’s chest* you have this.

Sirius: I have great tits yeah

Remus:

Remus: I was talking about your heart, why the fuck do I even like you-

Sirius: Everytime I see you, I get really happy and my heart skips a beat. You’re just so cute and I love you so much.

Remus: Aww, thanks!

Sirius: Yeah, no homo though

Remus:

Sirius secretly runs all the Snape hate accounts on Tumblr and Instagram and you cannot tell me otherwise.

Sirius: *wears one of those tik tok leggings that makes the butt look fat to tease Remus*

Sirius:Remusss

Remus, drinking coffee and reading a book: Yes what is it, babe?

Sirius: look at mee. I need attention :c

Remus: *looks at him and chokes on his coffee* Fuck~

Sirius::D

Sirius, trying to make small talk: Soo how’s life?

Remus: Exhausting and depressing. 2/10. Wouldn’t recommend.

Summertime’s over but not for me and you

Thinkin’ bout the things we still have left to do

And I don’t know what tomorrow’s gonna bring

But if I got you, then I got everything

Oh, baby, you’ve been makin’ me crazy

The way my heart has been racin’

I’ve been feelin’ you lately, lately

Take me out tonight, where there’s music and there’s people and they’re young and alive…

Feeling overwhelmed

After the full moon