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Your own personal romantic timeline:
(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)
Step 4:Ask important questions.
If you’ve gotten this far in your romantic timeline, you are now beginning to date and you are actively looking for your dream partner.
This is the key step in your timeline to go from healthy dating to a healthy romantic relationship.
You must ask questions. No, not just anyquestions.
Yes, their favorite color or favorite place to vacation might be cool and interesting for small talk but you want real information. This deciphers between frogs and your dream partner.
If a person you’re dating answers anything different from what’s been placed on your list of personal wants, you know exactly what to do.
Best questions to ask as during a date:
- What’s your relationship like with your mother or any leading lady figures in your life?
- How often do you speak with your family?
- Do you want a family of your own one day?
- What are your views on homosexuality/lgbtq+?
- What kind of hobbies do you take part in?
- Are you religious?
- What are your long-term goals?
- What are your views on gender roles?
- Are you an introvert or extrovert?
- How well are you in social settings?
- Are you skilled at communication and comprehension during disagreements?
- Are you okay with being wrong sometimes? And admitting when you are?
- What comes first in your life; ego or empathy?
- What’s your zodiac sign? (Very important. LMAO!)
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Your own personal romantic timeline:
(Follow these steps to go from a healthy dating life to a healthy romantic relationship.)
Step 3: After analyzing your list and coming to your conclusion, if your list and answers say you ARE ready to date, begin to actively look for this person.
This isn’t a Disney movie, a healthy romantic relationship will not just fall into your lap. For some, maybe, but we’re being realistic here. Actively look for this person.
- Date multiple people.
- Get phone numbers.
- Ask questions. (Most important, ask about family life, ask about beliefs.)
- Go for your type. (It’s okay to decline if someone doesn’t meet your preferences- physically and mentally.)
- Stop feeling obligated. (If a person doesn’t fit your list, stop texting/talking with them.)
- Stop being afraid to be rejected. (Everyone has been rejected before, even the person you’ve been rejected by.)
- Stop becoming too attached so quickly. (If they aren’t checking all boxes on your list, you shouldn’t be falling for them. That’s just setting yourself up for failure.)
You have the blueprint/map for your ideal partner so there’s no way you can fall for a frogwhile dating. The only way to fail, is to lower your standards and go against the list you’ve created for yourself. Stop going against your list and get the person you truly want.
Healthy Romantic Relationship Tip 5:
- Anger/Rudeness/Disrespect.This is something that’s rarely talked about because it’s completely overlooked within most relationships. But, NEVER disrespect your partner. Not out of anger, not out of pettiness, not in a joking manner, never.
- Now, everyone has emotions and feelings and sometimes you’re just not having a good day. We’ve all been there before but the key to any healthy romantic relationship is learning how to control those emotions and feelings.
- If you feel yourself becoming too upset or angry at the moment, step away, go for a drive, listen to music, explain/communicate to your partner, “Baby, it’s not the time. I’m having a day.”
- There’s many alternative routes to take before becoming rude/disrespectful to your partner. And the moment you decide to disrespect your partner for any reason, is the moment your relationship becomes unhealthy and you lose respect for one another.
- When angry or upset, as humans, we sometimes tend to say things that we do not mean, causing disrespect or rudeness. For some, this may seem minimal and not too big of a deal but it is because you can nevertake those words back once you say them. This will hinder not only your relationship but the way your partner feels about you.
- Your partner will never forget your words whether they took them well or not. That’s why it’s important to take alternative routes to continue a healthy relationship.
- (Do’s:step away if you become too angry, communicate to your partner what’s going on.)
- (Dont’s:swear/curse at your partner, call your partner names, disrespect your partner because you’re angry, feel the need to hit below the belt.)
Generally, if disrespect comes easy to you toward your partner, the relationship has already become unhealthy and it’s best to step away. You should never feel comfortable disrespecting anyone you love dearly.
Femininity Tip 8:
- Submission.Listen babe, stop blaming your lack of submission on other people. It’s all us and we know it.
- We were taught to be independent and do everything for ourselves but this is because we come from women who “did everything themselves.” We were taught tobe a strongwoman, just like thembut baby, I’m here to tell you that those days are through.
- As long as your submission isn’t fumbling your finances or messing with your bank account, exude that submissive energy.
- Let him do it.
- Submission has been objectified and we’ve seemed to have lost the true meaning.
- Submission has never been inferior, submission makes you superior. And this does not apply to just relationships, you can use your submissive energy daily. Even as a single woman. Especially as a single woman.
- Homework: Allow that random man to open your door, allow that guy to carry your groceries, allow that dude to pay your tab at the register. You’re a woman for god’s sake, a feminine woman, a queen. If you wanted to do it yourself, you could, we all know that but you’re not. You’re way too pretty for that.
- As a feminine woman, the only thing you should be worried about is what nail color you’re going to get next week. Let the men, do a man’s job and trust me babe, they’ll enjoy every moment of it. Men love to feel needed.
- (Do’s:saying “yes”, “it’s so heavy”, allow a man to do it for you.)
- (Don’ts:saying “no”, do everything for yourself.)
Femininity Tip 7:
- Voice/Tone.Babe, soften up that voice. You know that voice you put on when you’re talking to your crush, yeah, that one. Use that voice all day, everyday. This voice is the voice that makes you a feminine woman in any room. At any time.
- If there’s any thing that exudes femininity, it’s the soft, knowledgeable voice, leaving your luxurious lips. It’ll make everyone around you see you for who you are, the feminine woman you long to be.
- Feminine woman have kind eyes, kind mannerisms and extremely kind voices. Soft voices pull you in and make people extremely comfortable around you. It also makes people want to respect you because they see you as a warm, kind and seductive woman.
- Women who “seemingly” apply this to their everyday careers: (Ari Lennox, Jhené Aiko, Janet Jackson, Beyoncé.)
- Your voice doesn’t have to be extremely high but you don’t want it to be too low. Find your balance and picture yourself speaking with your favorite person/crush. That voice is your femininevoice.
- (Do’s:Hum, drink water, speak slowly and softly, speak quieter to reach your seductive tone)
- (Don’ts:speak too loudly,speak too lowly, speak too quickly.)
Why you must Make Yourself a Priority
There is a lot of talk about self-care on this blog, but the truth is that self-care begins with prioritizing yourself. There are a lot of benefits to making yourself a priority. On the other hand, if you ignore your needs and put the needs of others first, many problems can arise.The consequence of putting others before yourself is people pleasing.
So Why You Need To Make Yourself A Priority?✨
If you truly want to love yourself and respect yourself, you must put yourself first. We can also influence how others treat us by how we treat ourselves. It is also important to carry yourself in a certain manner for people to treat you the same. Here are 4 ways that have helped me make myself a priority in my own life…
Create a weekly schedule
Make sure you take time for yourself! You can do anything you like, whether it is studying new things, hobbies, relaxation, crafts. Whatever your interests are, make clear time for them unapologetically. This is one of the ways you’ll begin to love yourself better since you’ll get to know yourself better.
If You Need Help, Ask!
In all this, remember to ask for help whenever necessary. Being your own priority doesn’t mean alienating yourself. Build a network of trusted and dependable friends, people you can be yourself around. Our guards are much more heightened when we’re surrounded by the wrong people and nobody needs that
Create Strong Boundaries!
Establishing boundaries will help you avoid situations you do not want to be in. The moment we do not set boundaries, we are inviting everything into our lives, good and bad alike.By knowing what matters to you, you will be able to create some boundaries. When you know yourself, putting boundaries against things that aren’t aligned will be much easier.
Learn How To Say No!
This is a part of going with the flow. Saying no and being firm about it are two important skills. Don’t give in to the temptation to do something you don’t want. Your tendency to change your mind easily is something people will recognize and know they only have to ask several times before you agree. Some ideas illustrate how to say no politely if you think giving a flat no is rude.
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5 Ways to Express Your Emotions in a Healthy Feminine Manner Pt 2
If you haven’t seen part 1 yet, CLICK HERE!
Here’s are 5 more ways to express your emotions in a healthy feminine manner.
Pamper yourself
Wash your hair, go shopping, treat yourself to a spa day. Whatever it is that helps you unwind and feel pampered do it! This isn’t a long-term solution to unresolved feelings it might be a quick fix to turn your day and mood around.
Invest in therapy
I highly encourage all women on their journey to better themselves to go to therapy.We are all the products of our childhood, and many of us have experienced trauma as children. It is your job to explore those feelings and get to the root of your issues. A therapist who has experience can help you with this!
Process your emotions
Rest and recovery should be a part of all processes. Take time to reflect on what triggered your emotional state. Dealing with your emotions is the key to healing.
Exercise
Regulating our emotions can be made easier through exercise. When we exercise, our body releases dopamine and endorphins that give us all types of good feelings of reward & pleasure. In addition to it being good for our long term health.
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To being a black woman living her best life
To all my Black girls out there, please know that you are loved and that you do not always have to show up for others, especially in a society that doesn’t always show up for you.
