#homoromantic
More often than not, the letter ‘A’ hanging out at the end of the LGBTQIA+ acronym is either overlooked or, worse, ignored.
Although representation and visibility is improving, asexuality (applied to a person who does not experience sexual attraction) is still met with confusion.
With that in mind, Attitude asked asexual activist, model and writer Yasmin Benoit to lead a conversation about her community with two other asexuals, Daniel Walker and Richard Ng, in the Attitude Sex & Sexuality issue, out now to download andto order globally.
Shining a light on the different shades of asexuality, the trio unravel the knottiest issues they have had to face – including the most maddening misconceptions…
Yasmin Benoit - 24, asexual and aromantic (not desiring of romantic relationships at all)
“I have overwhelmingly been met, after I initially came out, with straight-up disbelief… It can get some messy reactions; I’ve had times where I’ll be sitting at someone’s house, drinking a cup of tea, talking about a TV show, and then the next thing you know, I’ve got six people asking me about how often I masturbate and what’s that like.
"I’m like, ‘I’m just here to drink a cup of tea, that’s not what we’re doing today’. It invites some very inappropriate, sometimes aggressive, sometimes very uncomfortable reactions.
"Whenever people say to me, 'If you haven’t had sex, you can’t know’ – especially if a guy says that, a straight guy – I’m, like, 'Well, how much gay sex did you have before you realised you were straight?’ Usually, you quickly find that they didn’t have much gay sex before they determined they were straight.
"Also, when they say you haven’t found the right person yet – there are loads of asexual people who have found the right person and they’re still asexual; they’re in love with the person, they have a family with the person, they’re in a platonic relationship, they’re soulmates.”
Daniel Walker - 24, asexual and homoromantic (romantically by not sexually attracted to the same gender)
“I definitely see people assuming it’s a mental health issue, or you’re depressed, that’s what’s causing your asexuality. Or even in some extreme cases, that when they find out someone is asexual, they assume someone must have been traumatised.
"What I have seen quite a lot recently is the misconception that asexuality means that the person is inherently non-sexual.
"What I mean by that is, asexuality is defined by a lack of sexual attraction, but that is completely separate from a lot of other things which are sexual; for example, having sex or masturbating or watching porn or even dressing in a way that society would see as sexual.
"People assume that if you’re asexual, you must completely desexualise your appearance, and you can’t masturbate and you can’t watch porn, whereas I feel like – I don’t know, it’s not a standard other orientations are held to.”
Richard Ng - 25, asexual and heteroromantic (romantically but not sexually attracted to the opposite gender)
“For me, the biggest [misconception] is this idea of, 'You couldn’t possibly know that you’re asexual, because sex is a good thing and if you had experienced it…’
"There’s lots of things in that: Firstly, equating sexual orientation with sexual activity: I personally don’t engage in sexual activity, but obviously some asexual people do… If I say I’m asexual, they’ll refuse to accept it because, as it happens, I’m a virgin, I’ve never had sex, and they will read into that 'Oh well, you are naive about this, you couldn’t possibly know that you’re asexual, you’ve just not met the right person’.
"My parents are actually GPs and when I first came out to them, I can’t remember exactly how, but there was this sort of like, 'Maybe you need to see someone about this’. I don’t know, latent testosterone or something like that.”
Read the full feature in the Attitude Sex & Sexuality issue, out now to downloadandto order globally.
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Happy Ace day to all my fellow Acespecs
To the Asexuals, Demisexuals, Greysexuals
To the Aceflux’s and cupiosexuals,
To the lithosexuals, fraysexuals
To all those on the ace spec that I haven’t listed
To the sex favourable. the sex indifferent, the sex repulsed
To those who are acepec: arospec, hetero romantic, bi romantic, homo romantic, pan romantic
To those still questioning or confused
To all those who are apart of this community (sorry if I did not list above)
You are all valid and beautiful.
Happy International Asexual Day
friendly reminder that you don’t need to justify your sexual orientation to anybody, whether you’re homosexual, bisexual, pansexual or asexual!
friendly reminder that you don’t need to justify your romantic orientation to anybody, whether you’re homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic or aromantic!
friendly reminder that you don’t need to justify your gender identity to anybody, whether you’re binary, non binary or use mogai identities!
friendly reminder that you don’t need to justify your pronouns to anybody, whether you use commonly used ones, rarer pronouns or neopronouns!
friendly reminder that you don’t need to prove to people that you’re “one of the good ones”!
friendly reminder that you don’t need to justify your existence to anybody, whether they be a stranger or a friend!
you don’t exist to be an argument for or against a political cause, and you shouldn’t feel the obligation to prove to people that you have a right to exist as who you really are.
The Bathroom Situation
Since school is starting soon, I want to give a quick reminder to all my fellow trans/nonbinary people. If you want to start using a different bathroom, make sure you are prioritizing your safety. I know it sucks to have to use the wrong bathroom, but I don’t want anyone to be harassed and potentially hurt. If you have to, use the bathroom during class where there won’t be as many people in the halls to see. Your school’s clinic should also have a gender neutral bathroom. Just remember to be safe!
The only way is gay
lgbtq watercolor flower wallpapers (based on this post)
lesbian | gay
bi | trans
queer | pan
ace | aro
nonbinary | genderfluid
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agender | genderqueer
butch | femme
intersex | bigender
demigirl | demiboy
transfem | transmasc
omni | aroace
oriented | angled
sapphic | achillean
ace lesbian | gay ace
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Character Prompt: A teenage asexual boy who is sex repulsed. He is an incredible artist and spends his time drawing pictures of strangers on the street. He has a boyfriend who is not asexual. However, his boyfriend is very loving and never crosses any boundaries.
Pride is finally here, and it’s time to celebrate those who are proud!!!
Doesn’t matter if it’s pride or not. Show the proud people around you, that you love and appreciate them!!!
This go out to the LGBTQIA+. You are loved and appreciated, never let anyone knock you down, you precious human being!!!
I love you all!!!
Bert and Ernie have been written as a gay couple, but Sesame Workshop has confirmed Muppets aren’t sexual. Based on this evidence, we can conclude that the two of them are asexuals in a homoromantic relationship. In this essay I will
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Asexuality & Romantic Orientations
HAPPY INTERNATIONAL ASEXUALITY DAY 2021 to all my Asexual & Asexual Spectrum followers <3
thanks to @queerouterspacecat for the polyromantic & polyamorous correction
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