I recently heard from many different people that they don’t like to be alone or they don’t know how to be alone.
For someone who loves spending time alone and focusing on myself – I found it very weird, but yet interesting. I
wanted to know more about it to get to the bottom of the issue. Don’t they have any hobbies they can enjoy? Don’t they like to watch moves or read a good book? Yeah sure…
I’ve been thinking a lot about naming this post. I would call it Butterfly syndrome, but it doesn’t quiet exist, so let’s just pretend this is something I made up.
It is a feeling of being stuck at one point of your life, as if you feel like you are not going anywhere.
I’m sure a lot of you have felt this before, but I decided to give it a name. I chose those name since butterflies go through…
Don’t we all have this need to be alone sometimes?
I feel like my brain reaches a point when it can’t be around people anymore and I just have to get away from everyone and be alone. Do my own things, and recharge my batteries.
Have you ever felt like that? Not sure, let me tell you a few signs:
you are constantly frustrated with even the tiniest things
1. Don’t beat yourself. We all make mistakes, have bad experiences, and get it wrong at times.
2. Don’t dwell on what happened. Choose to learn from the past – but remember that your power’s in the present and the future.
3. Remember your potential, and what’s possible for you. You’re not that one experience or bad result.
4. Don’t let others’ expectations shape and influence your goals. It’s not their life you’re living … So decide what you will do.
5. Imagine how you’ll feel if you persevere and, despite all the obstacles, achieve success. That’s surely worth the effort, even thought it’s hard right now.
6. Just take one small step … It will rebuild your confidence … And then take another … And another after that.
The mind is the limit. As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something, you can do it, as long as you really believe 100%. -Arnold Schwarzenegger
Reread your old writing, especially those scenes you’re most proud of
Write something silly. It doesn’t need to be logical, consistent or included in your story. Write something dumb
Compare your old writing to your new writing. Seeing how much you’ve improved can be very motivating
Explore different storylines, those type of storylines that would never make it into your story, but you’d still like to play around with. Create AUs!
Choose one of your least favorite scenes and rewrite it
Act out your scenes
Read old comments from people praising your work
Create a playlist that reminds you of your wip
Team up with a friend, write AUs for each other’s characters
Create playlists for your characters
Draw your ocs/make memes of your ocs
Draw/make memes of your friend’s ocs
Don’t push yourself to get back into writing the thing that made you stop writing in the first place, try writing something else!
Write what you wanna write, no matter how cliché it might be. If you want to write it, write it
Take a break, focus on another hobby of yours. Consume other pieces of media, take a walk to clear your head
You don’t have to write in chronological order if it isn’t working for you! Sometimes a scene you aren’t interested in writing can become interesting after you’ve explored other scenes in the story
Read bad reviews of books or TV-shows. You’ll unlock appreciation and motivation for your own writing
Create a new storyline, or a new character! Anything that helps bring something fresh into your story. Could even be a completely new wip!
Not writing every day doesn’t make you a bad writer. Take a break if you feel like you need one
Remind yourself to have fun. Start writing and don’t focus all your attention on following “the rules.” You can get into the nitty-gritty when you’ve familiarized yourself with writing as an art. Or don’t. It’s fiction, you make your own rules
Go to sleep, or take a nap. Sleep deprivation and writing does not go hand in hand
Listen to music that reminds you of your characters/wip
Remember why you started. Know that you deserve to tell the story you want to tell regardless of the skill you possess
Why not Me? Is a common question.
I recently heard from many different people that they don’t like to be alone or they don’t know how to be alone.
Don’t we all have this need to be alone sometimes?
