#actually borderline
dont ya love it when your friend says you looked much prettier when you were skinnier :)))
nah bro im not depressed i just lit a candle
Another Love - Tom Odell
Male Fantasy - Billie Eilish
Don’t Wanna Know - Bo Burnham
Brand New City - Mitski
INSPIRED BY:
photo: Virgilio Carnisio
song lyrics: haunt me (x 3) - Teen Suicide
Midsommar (2019) dir. Ari Aster
Do you feel held by him? Does he feel like home to you?
Evangelion title card
Please Don’t
Happier Than Ever - Billie Eilish
Sarah - Alex G
Goodbye - Bo Burnham
Words by Mark Strand
New York I Love You but You’re Bringing Me Down - LCD Soundsystem
“If something someone tells you angers you, or bothers you. It means there is something there for you to work on.”
It is cause for thought.
Like if something someone says to you bothers you, it being big or small, truly does bother you there is a nerve of yours that was touched.
An insecurity someone poked and you didn´t like it.
If you cant brush it off and continue your day, it means some sore wound of yours was touched. and that means some work might need to be done!
Although,dont feel bad for getting angry..no one likes having their insecurities exposed in anyway or another. Its normal to have an explosive reaction, to give out a sarcastic remark as a defense mechanism … or even a very honest angry comment.
But do take into consideration that something might have been poked within you that you are still sore about. And take note to see if any work on it can be done!!
Working out our insecurities is a big step to recovery !
So keep an eye out!
But one thing we should always NOT do , is scold the person.
If you see your bpd person already curled up and having the guts to be open and honest with you about their feelings in a situation when they made a mistake or they are in the wrong, do not scold them about it and point out their mistake like a punitive parent.
because chances are;
we already know all of that. We are already beating outselves in the head with it. Telling ourselves how dumb , how cowardly and how stupid we are for failing. so having a trusted person reflect those feelings to us, is even more destructive to us than hearing it from ourselves.
you truly want to help ?
Give them a hug, a kiss , hold their hand. Lend them an ear, listen atentively. Even if you dont understand what they are going through , listen to their woes.
tell them ”it´s ok to make mistakes” and that “they are strong”. Tell them that you “believe they will do better next time.”
Maybe just, tell them “Things will be ok”
That´s we all need to hear that sometimes.
Do you still feel like your bpd person needs to hear some hard truths?
Make sure you tell them once they are stable, once they can hear the wisdom in your words. Once they dont focus so atentively on all the negativety, and start getting consumed by paranoia. Dont be a punitive person and jump to scolding. Make sure they focus on improving, and not on their failure. Express how you believe they can change and encourage them to, back them up to it. Explain that, this event doesnt change the way you view them. That it doesnt change the fact that you like/love/adore them.
Just because we are sensitive, that should not isent us from hearing what needs to be said. But those precautions are needed.
And not just to people with bpd, we should be gentle to everyone.
Be gentle to those who make mistakes. Be gentle to people that genuingly want to change. Be gentle to those who come to you searching for a shoulder.
realizing there’s more layers of trauma than you thought
