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The secret behind envy
The secret behind envy
When you are jealous or envious of someone, of what they have or have accomplished, you’re truly just staring at your own potential, and wondering why you haven’t unlocked it yet. Deep down, you want to unlock that potential, but for various reasons, the false solutions you’ve created around yourself to protect you from perceived harm and danger have barred you access from reaching and fulfilling…
0 - The Leap this is when you take the plunge and let yourself begin to fall.
1 - Falling This is the honeymoon phase everyone talks about. Includes giddiness, constant excitement, dreaminess, drawing hearts everywhere, smiling all the time. There’s also a fair amount of anxiety as you aren’t sure yet if it’s right. This is especially true if you’ve been hurt before.
2 - Sinking This is when the crazy giddiness starts to wear off. You’re still falling, but more slowly, there’s more substance, and a warmth and peace starts to grow around your relationship.
3 - Digging You find yourself on solid ground. All the low hanging fruit of getting to know each other is gone, to get deeper you have to really dig into who they are, ask deep questions, have big conversations. It takes effort, but it’s worth it. Deep friendship starts to form. It’s more work, but the reward is also greater.
4 - Building You have become each others’ best friends. You know each other SO WELL. You start working as a team, creating, planning, making memories, establishing relational and life habits and having experiences. What you build now will become the foundation for a life together into the future.
what comes after these stages? I don’t know yet. I guess we’ll find out :)