#trauma recovery

In this video I’m talking you through two forms of dissociation: Depersonalization and Derealization (also known as DPDR). In looking at depersonalization disorder and derealization disorder we’ll explore: what it is, the symptoms and coping skills. If you’re looking for DPDR symptoms or DPDR recovery or just depersonalization recovery or derealization recovery, then make sure you to pay attention as we take a closer look.   

For all 5 common forms of dissociation, watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FFxFj… 

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Today we are going to talk about child on child sexual abuse, because it’s not often talked about and there are so many issues and misconceptions out there, which is why today I want to offer 10 MUST KNOW FACTS,  from shame, to abuse cycles, and trauma, to parental response and so much more. And really quickly on the topic of trauma I want to remind you all that my new book Traumatized is available now, in it I talk about what trauma is, how it can feel, and of course, how we can heal. You can order your copy today by clicking the link in the description or find it wherever books are sold. Unfortunately, children abuse other children. This could be because they themselves are being sexually abused by someone, or have viewed sexually explicit materials and are acting out what they saw. This isn’t commonly talked about because it can be hard to imagine it happening, and even harder to view a child as a perpetrator. But it is common, and therefore it’s important that we discuss it, which is why I am going to explain the 10 must know facts about it, so let’s get into it. This video will cover child on child abuse, sexual abuse for children, child abuse therapy, what is child abuse, child abuse help, sexual abuse support for kids, what is sexual abuse, childhood trauma, childhood ptsd, ptsd and much more.

Resources:https://www.childhelplineinternationational.org

For help call RAINN: 1-800-656-4673 

In the UK go to: https://www.childline.org.uk/ 

Stage fright was the most important fear I’ve ever faced, and my greatest lifelong fear. As a child I was constantly pushed onto stages to perform at talent shows and other events despite the overwhelming anxiety I would experience, so when I gained autonomy as an adult I stayed as far away from stages as possible. I chose work like photography and being an interviewer that kept me behind the scenes and out of the spotlight. Standing in front of people to speak or perform was the last thing I desired for myself.⁣⁣
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I probably would have stayed in that comfort zone my entire life if my love for this cause and humanity didn’t give me the drive I needed to use my voice. Ironically, I would now consider public speaking and performing to be what I do best! Overcoming this fear has unexpectedly opened up a whole new world for me, connecting me with gifts I didn’t know I had and sides of myself I never knew existed.⁣⁣
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Tomorrow I will post a video of myself facing my stage fright. Is there a fear you faced that ended up being a catalyst for major growth and positive change in your life? Please share your answer in the comments.⁣⁣ #ReclaimYourVoice

The Idea That Changed My Life || My awakening inspired within me the longing to bring hope to people’s lives, but I didn’t know exactly how I was going to do it until one evening a short while later. I was hanging out with @tungztwisted when he put on the movie Exit Through The Gift Shop, Banksy’s Academy Award nominated documentary. I knew very little about Banksy at the time and I rarely watch movies, so I was unenthused about it and my mind began to drift before he even pressed play. But in the opening credits alone, these lyrics by @RichardHawley hit me like a bolt of lightning:⁣
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“Those people, they got nothing in their souls⁣
And they make our TVs blind us⁣
From our vision and our goals⁣
Oh, the trigger of time it tricks you⁣
So you have no way to grow⁣
But do you know that tonight the streets are ours⁣
These lights in our hearts they tell no lies.”⁣
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All of a sudden this film had my full attention. I’d never heard music like that, music with a message trying to awaken people. But then again my awakening had only recently happened and my eyes and ears were newly opened to receiving messages like these. As the movie progressed, I watched as these street artists used their art to create powerful messages of rebellion, subversion and disruption. That’s when it clicked for me and I sat straight up. Sean noticed this and intuitively, brilliantly, handed me a notepad and a pencil and said, “Write.” And I did. I couldn’t stop the ideas from flowing and couldn’t seem to write them all down fast enough.⁣

Finally it all came together: I was going to create what I called a ‘humanitarian street art project’, using my art to anonymously create messages that would inspire hope. I knew that so many people in this world were hurting and I wanted to do something to let them know someone cared about them; I had learned firsthand that there was something so powerful about being on the receiving end of unexpected kindness, specifically when it was coming from a stranger. The project came to be called ‘500 random acts of beauty: the pursuit of positive change through beautiful thinking’ and I committed to dreaming up and executing 500 acts that would add positivity to the world, even if it took me my whole life to do them. In fact I hoped it would take me my whole life, because that meant it would keep my mind in a state of looking for opportunities to do so―a state of beautiful thinking. Most of all what I hoped was that it would create a ripple effect, that when someone was on the receiving end of one of these acts of kindness, they would be inspired to do the same for someone else, the same way woman at the train station in New York had done for me. ⁣
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It was this idea and the decision to act on it that completely altered the course of my life.⁣

Before I get to the question, there’s something I want to touch on that I hope can become a common practice: getting people’s *consent* before opening up to them about our pain. Trauma can complicate things and there may be times when we can’t stop the words from coming out, but for those times when we are able to, it’s important to check in with someone before having discussions with them about serious subject matter. We never know what someone might be going through in their lives, or how our story might trigger them, or how they simply may not be in the right place that day to listen and hold space. Not only does this help us to not negatively impact their wellbeing, but it’s a safety measure for ourselves as well; opening up and talking about our trauma requires making ourselves vulnerable and if we don’t receive the support we need and deserve through that process, it can be retraumatizing. It’s a good practice to ask someone, “Are you in the right mental space to hear this right now?” and to be clear about the type of support you are hoping to receive before talking about your experiences.

Regarding the question posted here, what happened when you first told someone your story? Why did you decide to talk about it? Who did you tell? How did they respond and how did you feel? Please comment below if you are comfortable contributing to the conversation.

A year or so had passed after escaping LO when I came across the term “psychological abuse”. Up until that point I didn’t know I’d been abused and I’d been judging myself for still being so emotional about the past. I didn’t have the space in my new relationship with David to speak about the details of what I’d gone through so I kept a lot of the truth inside. But as I read about the signs and symptoms that day, I realized I finally had a name for it. The way he would insult me and scream at me, his extreme possessiveness, the explosive anger and threats he would use to control me—it all fell under the umbrella of psychological abuse. This was a huge step forward in my recovery because there was a sense of detachment from the turmoil now, an understanding that the inner chaos I was experiencing was an appropriate response to this sort of trauma. Now that I could identify what I’d been through , I could educate myself on it and learn how to move forward. || #Carborundum for calm and gentle grounding. Said to help with inner expansion in an orderly and organized manner.

Shortly after leaving LO, I went out on a date. A few days after that I started talking to someone else. And a month or so after that I got into a relationship with someone new altogether. I rushed into situations in pursuit of the experience of love and happiness I’d felt robbed of with LO, unaware of how deeply his actions had actually impacted me. I thought I’d left at the first incident of abuse, since I’d ended things the moment he hit me; I had no idea that I’d just experienced three years of psychological violence.⁣

The new relationship was great at first because David was loving and devoted. But when I was with him I found myself acting in ways I hadn’t before. I was on edge. I was reactive. Needy. Possessive. It was a major trigger for me if he in any way displayed inconsistent behavior because that was a warning sign I’d once ignored, to detrimental consequences. LO had acted like such a nice person initially and I’d failed to detect the imminent abuse―what if my judgment was wrong about David as well? How could I trust that he too would not transform into Mr. Hyde the moment I let down my guards? I had no idea how to feel stable or safe and with the ongoing tug of war within me between wanting to trust him and feeling too terrified to do so, I constantly felt like I was on the verge of losing my mind.⁣

With the traumatic memories playing on repeat, I became vigilant at all times for any sign that I might be in danger, in an effort to protect myself from going through the same things again. Although in a sense it felt safer for me to stay in this state of readiness, I was actually revisiting the trauma over and over again as I constantly scanned my environment for its warning signs. ⁣

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Helpful Links:

• types of anxiety disorders
• what causes anxiety?
• calm breathing technique 
• coping with a panic attack
• counseling: does it work?
• four As of stress management
• grounding techniques
• home tips to reduce anxiety
  
• learning to say no without feeling guilty
• ocd help
• overcoming chest tightness
• medication info
• muscle relaxation
• trick for social anxiety
• rules for coping with anxiety & panic
• self help strategies for PTSD
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• social skills tips
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• vitamin deficiency & anxiety
• yoga poses for stress relief
• 12 foods for stress relief
  
• 9 steps to reduce anxiousness

Activities and DIY:

• alpaca sock plushie
• anxiety workbook for teens
• anxiety relief - jar spell
• calming glitter jar
• comfort box
• cute stress relief kit
• panic workbook
• stress relief bath and shower recipes
• worksheet: learn to attack unhelpful thoughts
  
• zen and anti stress colouring sheets

Interactives: 

• 100,000 stars
• 6 games for anxiety & depression
• blahtherapy
• boosterbuddy
• disgruntle me
• do nothing for 2 minutes
• emotions wheel
• make everything ok
• mindshift phone app
• neonflames
• planetarium
• rainymood
• stress analyst
• the thoughts room
• the quiet place project
• worry rockets