reminder that you can recover from social anxiety!
you are lovedandpeople do like having you around. you are worthyof friendships you feel secure in and you deserve to be confident in yourself. one day you’re going to be able to do all those things you wish you could but don’t because of the anxiety. one day you’ll look back and see how far you’ve come. you can do this <3
[Tweet by Fran, @galacticidiots, saying, ‘Who needs therapy when AO3 is full of those 10-20K one shots where nothing happens except huge feelings and deep conversations that somehow make you feel the entire spectrum of human emotion.
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I prefer both, of course. But there are many things that I’d never even considered COULD be related before reading about them on AO3, never mind connecting them to my own experiences.
I still go read hurt/comfort to figure out which trauma I’m currently ready to process. I read about stupid Batkids getting lost in their own undercover identities while trying to figure myself out. I read about abuse while trying to parse my self-hatred. I read about good parents and siblings while isolating myself. I read about trauma recovery … while I continue to recover from trauma.
I’m back with another form of Dissociation: Dissociative Amnesia. You may commonly ask yourself why you can’t remember things? Or do you have memory loss? These could be signs of dissociative amnesia, a common type of dissociation that differs from other types like maladaptive daydreaming, depersonalization and derealization. In this video I’m talking you through what is dissociative amnesia, types of dissociative amnesia and treatment of dissociative amnesia. What is Dissociative Amnesia & and what are the treatment options? Frequently I am asked questions like this: Why can’t I remember my childhood? What does it mean that I don’t remember? Does trauma cause memory loss?
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In this video I’m talking about one form of Dissociation, Maladaptive Daydreaming. Recently, I made the video 5 General Types Of Dissociation & How To Deal With Them (linked below) and many of you asked for me to do deep dives into each type. This first video is part of a series and I’m speaking to Maladaptive Daydreaming. Is Maladaptive Daydreaming bad? Is it good for you? Maladaptive Daydreaming help, how to best manage it, and so much more. Make sure you wait until the end to see how to best manage this form of dissociation. And let me know in the comments which form of dissociation you want to see a deep dive on next.
What are antidepressants? How do antidepressants work? Do I need antidepressants? Antidepressants or therapy? Well if you’ve ever had any of these questions, then you should watch this video. In this video I’m talking you through what antidepressants are, how antidepressants work with the brain, and when you may need antidepressants versus just therapy. I’m lucky enough to be joined by my friend and neuroscientist Ben Rein, Ph.D. from Stanford University, because as you know, I am not a neuroscientist!
In this video, I’m talking about 8 reasons that you may be afraid to recover from your eating disorder. As a licensed therapist who specializes in eating disorders, I’ve worked with many patients who are afraid to get better. Let’s talk about the 8 common reasons someone may be afraid to get better and recover from an eating disorder. We’ll be talking about eating disorder recovery, bulimia recovery, anorexia recovery, binge eating recovery, or any type of eating disorder recovery; or fears associated with getting help for eating disorders. Let me know what other types of videos you’d like to see in the comments.
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Many of us may feel sad, alone or maybe even nothing after the holiday season, and this can be very common. I get asked a lot this time of year: why do I feel so sad? or why do I feel like nothing? or why do I feel so alone? or why do I feel this way? There are many reasons that have been studied as to why we feel holiday depression, or some refer to it as January depression, or seasonal depression, or seasonal affective disorder. Regardless of what you call it, here are 3 reasons I feel depressed after the holidays, and more importantly, how you can help challenge or support yourself during this time. Any other tips that have worked for you? Support the community and leave them in the comments. Shop my latest book Traumatized https://geni.us/Bfak0j
Where mental health meets pop culture, this is What’s Happening? with Kati episode 3! In this episode, I’m talking about Selena Gomez’s new mental health platform, Wondermind, Taylor Swift and the infamous scarf referenced in All Too Well (10 minute version) from Red (Taylor’s Version), Lush Cosmetics deleting their social media, US aid money for schools in America and Grimes talking about her reaction to social media and being a public profile. Tune in and let me know what you think in the comments!
✐ TODAY’S STORIES ✐ ✐ Selena Gomez launches her mental health platform Wondermind https://cnn.it/3oIFRkz
✐ Taylor Swift. Jake Gyllenhaal & the scarf – Taylor Swift Red (Taylor’s Version) Re-recorded along with a dozen songs cut from the 2012 original + an insider look from Jared (self-confessed swiftie) https://bit.ly/3pKbzxg Taylor Swift - All Too Well: The Short Film https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tollG…
please do not read if hearing about eating disorders is harmful to you!!!
but I’ve really been struggling lately and I’m making the choice to try to get better. I’ve had disordered eating since I was 11 and just as soon as I left for college did it spiral into a full blown eating disorder. I went downhill very quickly and my health hasn’t been the best.
if anybody could offer any advice to help me push myself to recovery would be so so helpful. I have tried to up my calories these past couple weeks, but I am truly terrified of upping them anymore. I’m stuck eating 1200-1300 and I know that’s a huge step, but it is simply not enough. I still am obsessed with tracking everything and constantly am thinking about food. I simply cannot bring myself to eat anymore than that.
if anybody has any advice as to help me get into a good mindset about all this please let me know because I am going into this alone. I’m not able to get any help from my parents or doctors, so I need to have enough strength to do this myself.
if you are struggling too or not eating more than 1200-1300 calories please get help because spiraling so fast has been the worst thing that has ever happened to me. this ruined me. please know that your body deserves love and nourishment the way it is. I love you all
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i know you’re lonely. i know it feels comforting to slip into the same old familiar loneliness. the same religiously good hurt of refusing yourself the things you need and the space to heal. i know it feels beautiful to have something to worship. i know in this cold, confusing world, having goodness be safely defined as thinness within a community with whom you can push for that ideal feels like a comfort. i know it feels safe and familiar. but if you think that this is something that you can compartmentalize and keep safe tucked in a corner of your life, you can’t; and if you think it ever ends, or that your ideal is something you will ever reach, you’re wrong. this disorder is a parasite, and it will take over every corner of your life and every minute of your time and in the end, you will not be rewarded for it. no one will like you any better, least of all yourself; no one will thank you for hurting yourself like this; the world will not turn rose-coloured, your head will not clear and your perfect life will not materialize. you will come out of the end of the tunnel and you will have lost years of your life that you can never get back, and you will realize you were worshipping a false god the whole time. you will realize you never needed to change to wake up with a smile on your lips and birds singing in the window, you never needed to change to dance in the kitchen with your significant other or feel the warmth of another’s presence and laughter. if this made you doubt yourself at all, come and take my hand. i know the grave is comfortable, but don’t let yourself sleep yet.
i know you’re lonely. i know it feels comforting to slip into the same old familiar loneliness. the same religiously good hurt of refusing yourself the things you need and the space to heal. i know it feels beautiful to have something to worship. i know in this cold, confusing world, having goodness be safely defined as thinness within a community with whom you can push for that ideal feels like a comfort. i know it feels safe and familiar. but if you think that this is something that you can compartmentalize and keep safe tucked in a corner of your life, you can’t; and if you think it ever ends, or that your ideal is something you will ever reach, you’re wrong. this disorder is a parasite, and it will take over every corner of your life and every minute of your time and in the end, you will not be rewarded for it. no one will like you any better, least of all yourself; no one will thank you for hurting yourself like this; the world will not turn rose-coloured, your head will not clear and your perfect life will not materialize. you will come out of the end of the tunnel and you will have lost years of your life that you can never get back, and you will realize you were worshipping a false god the whole time. you will realize you never needed to change to wake up with a smile on your lips and birds singing in the window, you never needed to change to dance in the kitchen with your significant other or feel the warmth of another’s presence and laughter. if this made you doubt yourself at all, come and take my hand. i know the grave is comfortable, but don’t let yourself sleep yet.
you are valid. you deserve Kindness and respect. you deserve rest and nourishment. you deserve to be seen and loved and heard. you deserve laughter and delight. you may not always have these things, but you are always, always worthy of them. remember, and try to steer your lifeboat toward them.
please try your best to stop or limit the amount of self-deprecating jokes you make. i promise that you are worth so much more, and that it will help you so much in the long run.
you may have been worse recently, you may have relapsed recently, you may have taken a lot of steps back recently, but please don’t be too hard on yourself. i know that you are disappointed with yourself, i know that it hurts, but now is not the time to give up on the fight; please keep trying, as best as you can. hope is not lost, and you will get back to the place you were before, and continue to recover.
