tbh as an aro I feel like the best kind of ships are the ones that you can look at from a platonic angle. As in if these characters were strictly friends with nothing romantic going on between them, would their dynamic still hold up and be enjoyable? if the answers yes then that’s probably why the ship works and is fun but if the answers no like whats the point.
honestly some of y’all want a significant other so badly and can’t understand why you can’t find one, but have no sense of boundaries or healthy expectations of what a relationship is like. in a committed long-term partnership you get left on read, you wait for texts back, and you can forget about each other when you’re busy. sometimes you fall asleep without saying goodnight and sometimes you’re too caught up to text each other before 6pm. that’s how it is. thinking that you can’t be deeply, beautifully in love and still wait more than “1.75 hours” for a text back is such an unhealthy and unreasonable expectation of what love is, and you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you can’t allow the other person to exist on their own apart from you. if you’re projecting your anxieties and insecurities onto a partner who doesn’t even exist yet, then you aren’t ready for one.
YES! omg someone finally put it into words. I was literally talking about this with my friend yesterday and we agreed that the over-romantization of romance has made people have a very poor and toxic idea of what a romantic relationship actually is. glad to know more people agrees
a question for my fellow demiromantics and demisexuals!
when you’ve developed an emotional bond with someone and the famous ✨attractions✨ are experienced: which comes first for you? romantic or sexual? both at the same time? Or has it happened that you only feel one and not the other with different people? Tell me all about your demirose experiences!!
Alloros and alloces can also reply too! As a demiromantic, do you experience sexual attraction first? And as a demisexual do you experience romantic attraction first? Tell me about it too!
I’m a demirose (both demiromantic and demisexual). The couple of times I’ve experienced romantic and/or sexual attraction it has happened like this:
friendship -> emotional bond -> romantic attraction -> physical/sensual attraction -> sexual attraction.
If you don’t want such technical terms , in conclusion: after developing that emotional bond towards someone, I experience romantic feelings for them first and sexual ones later on. They’re not immediate tho… sexual feelings take longer to develop (probs the whole sex-indifferent thing I’ve got going on too ).
a question for my fellow demiromantics and demisexuals!
when you’ve developed an emotional bond with someone and the famous ✨attractions✨ are experienced: which comes first for you? romantic or sexual? both at the same time? Or has it happened that you only feel one and not the other with different people? Tell me all about your demirose experiences!!
Alloros and alloces can also reply too! As a demiromantic, do you experience sexual attraction first? And as a demisexual do you experience romantic attraction first? Tell me about it too!
talking to a friend today I realized that the reason I haven’t dated anyone yet (despite enjoying romance) is literally bc I haven’t liked anyone that way. And I’m not one for blind dates or dating apps or any other express way to find a partner . The only time I have liked someone that way, in the past, it wasn’t reciprocated and I haven’t experienced those kind of romantic feelings in years. So yeah… the demiromantic struggle ✨
People be like “everyone’s demiromantic” and then blind dates, dating apps, set ups with random people and asking out someone you just met; are all a thing. The point is that the romantic attraction, romantic interest, in that person is there since the beginning. If not you wouldn’t have agreed to all of those romantic gestures and events.
Someone that’s demiromantic does not get that initial attraction, romantic interest in a person. It usually takes weeks, months if not years! for a demiromantic person to feel romantic attraction towards someone and they only do so BECAUSE they’ve formed a close, emotional bond with the person beforehand. The “oh, shit. what’s this feeling?” moment, that comes after a long time of knowing one person.
It’s that time of year again. Let’s get it my funky, little aros and nifty, little arospecs!
Check out @aromantic-official for history of asaw and prompts for each day! Responses to the prompt are tagged #ArosAndArrows and #BeingAromanticIs
[image description: one square with the aro flag as the bacground. Text is on each stripe of the flag. The stripes read: arospec, awarness, week, feb 16 - feb 22, #ASAW2020 #arospecawarnessweek. The text colors are black, dark green, light green, white, and grey respectively for each stripe. End description.]
*there was a brief correction of the end day from feb 20 to feb 22*
It’s the a-spec siblings!! I wanted to post these together because they’re both kinda pride themed… I mean, how could I not color Nike in ace colors when the prompt is literally a spade?!
