#introvert
My entire life is an unorthodox metaphor.
Is there anything genuine under all this sarcasm?
If you get along super well with your hostfamily, consider yourself blessed. If not, that’s where the deep problems start. I gathered this from others/personal experience. It can be this way, but it doesn’t have to. Really depends on hostfamily.
At the beginning, you have the guest status. Your hostfamily (let’s focus on the hostmother) is polite to you and accepts that you need time to adapt. It is when you leave that status that it hits you like a punch in the stomach. You are starting to being criticized for everything that you do. How you eat, speak and stand. Selfdoubt begins and puts everything in question you did over the past months. Your hear things like “You do this always wrong”. When she stops sugarcoating her words. You are shocked because it’s the first time you hear this. Now tell me: What happens if your whole personality is the reason? What happens if you’re being told you need to change to make this work?
How can an introvert become an extrovert and vice versa?
I don’t happen to know the answers but I hope to find them along the way.
Don’t we all have this need to be alone sometimes?
I feel like my brain reaches a point when it can’t be around people anymore and I just have to get away from everyone and be alone. Do my own things, and recharge my batteries.
Have you ever felt like that? Not sure, let me tell you a few signs:
- you are constantly frustrated with even the tiniest things
- you cringe when the phone rings or you…
My natural habitat. My favorite place to be. #lovemyhome
#introvert #pugnest (at The House of Ravage)
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I feel less alone
By myself
On a deserted beach
In a foreign country
Than I do
In a room full
Of people
Me, the introvert at the beach
Walks to the left away from the crowd
My friend, the extrovert
Walks to the right straight towards the crowd
@eastpakstyle-blog 과 함께 자가격리를 하는 생활에 관한 그림을 그렸습니다. 원래도 집순이지만 강제적으로 벌써 3달 가까이 집순이로 지내니 사실은 내가 사람을 정말 좋아하고 의지하는 사람들이 많다는걸 깨닫고 있는 요즘이에요. 그래서 소라게 여인이 친구에게 편지를 받는 그림을 그려봤습니다 - 실제로 친구들에게서 편지를 주고 받는게 너무너무 기분이 좋더라고요. 물론 영상통화도 좋지만! ✉️
Illustrator Subin Yang @yangsubinie: ‘I was already a bit of a homebody before the quarantine, but after being forced to stay in, I realized I actually rely on so many people for living both physically and mentally. Here’s an introvert hermit crab lady delighted to receive a letter from a friend while staying indoors.’ We believe now is a good time to share positivity through creativity, and celebrate the work of the talented artists, creators, photographers, and animators we work with.
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It’s socially acceptable to tell an introvert to be more social but it isn’t socially acceptable to tell an extrovert to spend some time alone and quiet
Feeling Judged…
(Warning this is a bit dark I realized and also this is from my own experience about being an INFJ now enjoy)
People say it’s okay to be different. It is, it’s what makes us all unique. It’s the fact when you meet people and they look at your personality up and down, judging if your uniqueness is worth their time is what’s scares me. I know I am different, I feel different every time I talk to a person, feeling them judging me. I can sense the awkward tension in the air and the look in their eyes, it makes me nervous. I then began to question myself.
I decided to modify myself in order to get to know a person better. If they like people who are more hyper, I get a bit hyper. If they like a person a bit more calm, I calm down. If I know they like music, I bring that topic up more often. The one thing I don’t do is change who I am for a person. If I love art, I’m not going to stop. If I love singing in the car to every song when no one can hear me, I will continue to do so. If I have a secret obsession with Chis Evans, imma continue my secret tumblr page whether they like it or not. I don’t stop being me, I just modify myself a bit to understand and relate to a person, have common ground before trapping them into a contact of friendship.
Hope you all liked it and can relate to this somewhat.
When my friends try to convince me to attend social events
Me:
i feel like I live in a different reality. one that is a little less sure of itself, a little less confident, a lot more anxious and things seem more impossible here and often when my reality collides with others’, it comes breaking down because it’s weak, because it’s a little less real, because it’s just mine. sometimes it feels like my reality is up against the “normative” reality. and more often than not, it loses.
Online Classes + Dark Academia
I’m in a terribly urgent need to romanticize my life because that’s how I get through it. Online classes might kill me but at least I can die in style.
- Waking up five minutes before your class starts and logging into it while still in bed.
- Waking up too early before class to complete the readings you forgot to do.
- The moment you decide to un-mute yourself and speak out in class even though it feels like your social anxiety might kill you.
- The moment you decide not click the un-mute even though you know the answer because your social anxiety might kill you.
- Taking naps in between class breaks.
- Wondering if the pandemic has made you dumber.
- JSTOR, Academia, and other websites are your life now.
- Doing extra readings that you found while you were down the internet hole.
- Handwriting turning into a scrawl because no one else needs to read it.
- Reading whenever you want, even while in class.
- Classes that make you feel connected with the world even from so far away.
Always complaining about never doing anything but when people actually offer to do things with you you say no.
In order to honour students for doing well in school lets put them through extreme stress and anxiety by singling them out and forcing them to come up in front of the rest of the school and receive a certificate. That should make them feel good.
*puts myself out there*
*brings myself right back*
I hope you guys are having a great day. ✨ Here’s another picture taken by the great @brunobalmokoun . I like this picture a lot because I think it really reflects a big part of my personality. (Ahaha he told me to look mean to get that expression but I think I just look like me. I am not an actress ) I am an introvert but also a very emphatic person. I had a very strict education and I have always been told to make people comfortable. Because of that I pass as nice and patient, though I am not sure this is accurate. I am quite transparent though (so if I don’t like you, you’ll still know). I often wish I could just be a forest nymph so that I could be peaceful with all my sisters. We could just pick fruits from the trees and just have space for imagination and love far away from ego problems and human non-sense. What mythological creature do you identify to?
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Wearing @aakarintimates
@brunobalmokoun
#forestnymph #aakarintimates #indianlingerie #indiandesigner #caribbeanmodel #guadeloupe #brunobalmokoun #luxurygown #golden #sunkissed #introvert #lingerieblogger #lingerieaddict #indiedesigner (à Guadeloupe)
https://www.instagram.com/p/BtlzUYqgJFa/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=2o1q05r1gje
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Do other INFJ’s have trouble communicating their thoughts and feelings?
Yes.
INFJ have trouble communicating their thoughts and feelings.
It is one of the banes of an INFJ’s existence.
Romantically, we won’t articulate how we feel about someone until we are 1000% sure they feel the same way or that they have told us first.
Sometimes we feel that when a person knows us well, they should always know what they mean, that isn’t always true. If we don’t say anything, they won’t know.
We let people take advantage of us and sacrifice our boundaries when we love and care for someone until we stand up for ourselves.
We use music to speak for us.
We write better than we speak, so if you want to know how we truly feel, ask us to write you a letter.
Music can say things that we can’t find the words to say.
Many of us do not like rejection, especially in dating, so we sit on the sidelines more often than not unless we know the person is interested.
We let things that bother us slide when we care for you
Many people don’t value our opinion, and if we discover it, we find other ways to show others that we have a lot to bring to the table
An INFJ has to trust you to be comfortable and vulnerable
Our body language and facial expressions can say more than our words may ever.
Be patient and help INFJ’s be comfortable around you if you want to know and understand who they are at their core, loving individuals.
We are just so afraid of prior hurts occurring again that we become guarded
