This is a little comic I made about the journey I went through in discovering that I’m ace and coming out. It’s drawn in the same simple style I used for my hourlycomics, which is really only a step above thumbnails, but I wanted to go ahead and share it. At some point I plan to redraw it properly for my comic siteandTapastic account, and maybe even print it!
One thing about the comic’s timeline that I wanted to address… When I first came out as ace on social media last November, I actually did come out as demisexual. But since that time, I gained a greater understanding of both myself and the ace and aro spectrums, and realized that demiromantic ace was a much more accurate fit for me.
In the months that followed my coming out as ace on social media, I slowly began coming out to close family and friends in real life. I was worried about how the people closest to me would react, but it’s gone pretty well so far!
I made this comic to address the doubts, questions, and confusing aspects of myself that made it so hard to understand or explain how I felt before I found the ace community. I especially wanted to represent those who, like me, didn’t realize they were ace for years because they were misinformed or didn’t even know it was an option… who fall into the gray area of the ace spectrum or aren’t sure how to define their asexuality… who worry about whether they’re “ace enough” because they’re gray ace, sex favorable, or both. I hope this comic helps any fellow aces who feel like they can relate to it! :)
(And BTW… any flames from discoursers about my support for ace inclusion in the LGBTQIA+ community will be used to toast marshmallows and then deleted.) ;)
It’s National Coming Out Day, so I thought I’d give this comic a reblog! It tells the story of my journey of self-discovery, questioning, and coming out as demiromantic ace. :)
“A very extraordinary revelation was made at an inquest recently, before the Coroner for Salford, England. The body of a man was found in the sluice at Mode Wheel, on the river Irwell, and in the evening an inquest was held. On inquiry, it was found that the deceased, who went by the name Henry Stokes, was in fact a woman; that she had worked as a bricksetter for about a quarter of a century; that she had been twice married during that period; had kept a beer shop in Manchester during the early part of her career, but in every way conducted herself as a man. The jury, after an examination, returned a verdict of ‘found drowned.’“
~The Alleghanian. (Ebensburg, Pa.), 08 Dec. 1859. Chronicling America: Historic American Newspapers. Lib. of Congress.
“CHICAGO, Oct. 19.–Fred C. Thompson, whose trial and acquittal on charges of killing Richard C. Tesmer disclosed he had posed as a woman for fourteen years, has filed a petition in superior court to restrain the police from interfering with his appearance on the vaudeville stage. Thompson resumed feminine clothing after his release several weeks ago.”
“George Green, aged 74, died at Petersburg, Va., last week. He had been married for 35 years. He was a woman. He married a widow, who was so humiliated when she made the discovery that she had married a woman she was ashamed to disclose the fact. However, after living with her female husband so many years, a genuine attachment sprung up between them, and she now mourns the departed with genuine grief.”
~From The Bellefontaine Republican. (Bellefontaine, Logan County, Ohio), 25 March 1902. Chronicling America. Lib. of Congress.
since apparently it will literally kill you idiots to listen to trans women:
(tw for censored slurs, trans fetishization, censored nsfw text)
the word f*mboy is commonly used on trans fetish specific porn websites to describe trans women what a fucking surprise!!! /s
oh what’s this? the literal admission that f*mboy is another word for l*dyb*y, which is asian slang for a trans woman?? what???? also saying that f*mboys can identify as male or female but are “genetically male”?? huh!! wonder what that could mean!!!!
anyway anyone who responds to this to be a loser trans fetishist/transmisogynist is gonna get another censored terrible trans porn title as their only response i’m just saying that now.
listentotranswomenyoufucks
Using the 10th and 11th least popular urban dictionary definitions (that are no longer in the top 20 definitions for femboy on the site) and finding mislabeled videos means fuck all.
Yes tr*p is a slur, but femboy ain’t.
Yes trans woman should not be mislabeled in porn, but that is on the person mislabeling, not on the label.
And yeah urban dictionary is popular vote based, so cisgender phrased narratives using invalidating language like “biological male” or clumsy (mis)use of pronouns may occur, because there’s more of them cisgender people able to vote in the world than trans and queer identified folx. But that’s a problem with cisgender people mislabeling and misidentifying. That is not a problem with femboys.
If you go to urban dictionary right now, none of the top definitions are sexualizing.
Femboy is not an inherently sexual label.
As far as I can tell, femboys are a community of men and nonbinary folks want to explore femininity, and the label provides AMAB people more social acceptance for expressing femininity. Feels like a AMAB societal equivalent of tomboy emerging.
Your issue is with mislabeling and cisgender people not understanding gender, not with the label, nor community of people exploring their identity that you claim to be opposed to.
since apparently it will literally kill you idiots to listen to trans women:
(tw for censored slurs, trans fetishization, censored nsfw text)
the word f*mboy is commonly used on trans fetish specific porn websites to describe trans women what a fucking surprise!!! /s
oh what’s this? the literal admission that f*mboy is another word for l*dyb*y, which is asian slang for a trans woman?? what???? also saying that f*mboys can identify as male or female but are “genetically male”?? huh!! wonder what that could mean!!!!
anyway anyone who responds to this to be a loser trans fetishist/transmisogynist is gonna get another censored terrible trans porn title as their only response i’m just saying that now.
listentotranswomenyoufucks
Using the 10th and 11th least popular urban dictionary definitions (that are no longer in the top 20 definitions for femboy on the site) and finding mislabeled videos means fuck all.
Yes tr*p is a slur, but femboy ain’t.
Yes trans woman should not be mislabeled in porn, but that is on the person mislabeling, not on the label.
And yeah urban dictionary is popular vote based, so cisgender phrased narratives using invalidating language like “biological male” or clumsy (mis)use of pronouns may occur, because there’s more of them cisgender people able to vote in the world than trans and queer identified folx. But that’s a problem with cisgender people mislabeling and misidentifying. That is not a problem with femboys.
If you go to urban dictionary right now, none of the top definitions are sexualizing.
Femboy is not an inherently sexual label.
As far as I can tell, femboys are a community of men and nonbinary folks want to explore femininity, and the label provides AMAB people more social acceptance for expressing femininity. Feels like a AMAB societal equivalent of tomboy emerging.
Your issue is with mislabeling and cisgender people not understanding gender, not with the label, nor community of people exploring their identity that you claim to be opposed to.
