#domesticviolence
The video of what this vile beast did to that woman turned my stomach. If there was ever an open a shut case this was it.
BUT HOLD ON TO YOUR SEATS BOYS AND GIRLS!
Guess what shithole country we live in? That’s right the good okd U.S. of A.
L’Daijohnique Lee was charged with at leadt one felony after Dallas police filed criminal mischief charges for allegedly damaging her attacker’s pickup truck AFTER she was beaten up on.
Dallas PD have lost their minds. This woman could have ended up in the morgue the way she was attacked but this is what you turn around and do? Because you were FORCED TO UPGRADE your charges on her attacker? I want to see if this woman gets the same energy out if these hashtag movements like they got for everyone else especially black men.
#DaiLee #metoo #timesup #whitesupremacy #policecorruption #domesticviolence #blackgirlsrock #blackgirlmagic #themtoo #dallas #dallaspolice #dallaspolicedepartment #amberguyger #bothamjean
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#SaveLives - We need crowdsourced housing and help in the United States and everywhere!
With MILLIONS of victims, we can only solve this if we work together!
If we could get 1 pilot city in the USA to help victims of domestic abuse and domestic violence, it would be amazing!
If you know of any organizations willing to work with an organization that’s run successfully for 4 years, please look into this model. I wish I could offer a room one day too, but how can we when there’s no voluntary process?
How can we when we don’t even know where victims are or how to communicate with them?
SupportBrightAct too - they’re in the most #innovative city in #Sweden which wants to streamline #help for domestic abuse.
When I mentioned Safe Haven Community in #Australia, they didn’t hesitate for 1 second to add them to their list of #resources.
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Lots of free resources with great information and supportive focused communities
One of my favourite components is that there’s a personal growth tracker that can help you work towards improved mental, emotional, social and physical health
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If you’re challenged by domestic violence in your personal life, you are protected from job discrimination in your professional life if you work anywhere in New York State. It’s illegal for your company to treat you worse or discriminate against you because of DV or stalking behavior of any kind, and if you have any physical or emotional condition as a result of the DV, your employer must “reasonably accommodate” (be flexible) and treat you no differently than it would any other employee with a temporary disability. If you work in NYC (or Westchester), the law goes even further, requiring your employer to accommodate your DV situation even if you aren’t hurt or disabled. Make sure your company knows about your DV challenges, so put it writing to so you can prove it later. Contact Deborah at 212-766-9100 or 845.201.0200 if you need further guidance or just want chat in confidence about your related situation.
#stop.domestic.violence
#domesticviolence
#domesticabuseawareness
#awarenessiskey
#feminism
#womensrights
#womensrightsny
#misogyny
#sexism
#stalking
#NYCHRL
#NYSHRL
#womenworking
#girlpower
#womensrightsnarehumanrights
#womenempower
Speaking my truth brings me the liberation of being heard. It catapults my self-worth to a higher degree knowing I am free to experience life and share my heart. It helps me release the weight of my truth within and make space for true peace to come. Speaking my truth is the highest form of self-love I can give myself. I’m grateful to be able to do this as well as bring it to those of you seeking to let your voice finally roar after being suppressed. Sweet liberation ✨
#bodylovebritt #abundance #truth #throstchakra #balance #selflove #selfcare #liberation #plussize #plussizemodel #plusmodelmag #plussizefashion #plussizeblogger #travelblogger #tucson #arizona #spirituality #mindfulness #ascension #oneness #narcissisticabuse #narcissistrecovery #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #selfhelp #intuition #unconditionallove #twinflames #soulmates #plur (at Arizona)
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I’ve been deeply heartbroken for two years. I’ve faced a lot of pain, negativity, deceit, and darkness. I fell in love with a married person who didn’t love me back and who I thought was my twinflame , I felt deeply manipulated by somebody who considered themselves a “friend”, I moved home and faced domestic abuse from the narcissistic tendencies of my family, I questioned my sanity, and I miraculously found my way out of it all.
I have felt locked up, unable to share this with the world. But now is that time. Here’s my truth. Please watch my video. Link is in my bio or can be found here for outside platforms: https://www.youtube.com/XBrittney89
#narcissisticabuse #narcissists #twinflames #twinflame #spirituality #ascension #unconditionallove #truth #recovery #mentalhealth #narcissism #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #narcissistabuserecovery #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #codependent #codependentnomore #codependence #strength #throatchakra #throatchakrahealing #awakening #selflove #selfcare #bodylovebritt
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Beautiful creatures cannot be confined. Her wings will grow, she’ll find the sky.
Music: Choir
I was that woman for 12yrs… But with God I left! To save my kids life and my own… I will NEVER!!! Be THAT!!!!!!! woman again to no man! I’m a Queen a true Queen made by God’s hands! BLESSED!!!! Is the man God blesses to have such a Queen… #domesticviolence #crynomore #strongwoman #hardlife #lifematters #abuse #realqueen #blessed #newlife #newme #iamspecial #mylife #startingover #7yrsago #imgoodnow #trustinggod #faithful #nomore #mytestimony
By Sonia Taneja
You know when you go to your doctor’s office and tell her about your cough and she tells you what you can do about it? Everything in that visit – from the lung exam to the prescription she gives you and even the conversation she has with you – is taught in medical school. I will save you lots of tuition money and one year of rotating between classrooms and hospital rooms to let you in on a little secret about what it takes to be a good doctor. It isn’t knowledge of every disease and it isn’t even an understanding of how drugs work. It’s mastery of a simple, dying art – the art of listening well.
To be honest, I initially thought being trained on ‘how to listen’ in medical school was futile. To be even more honest, I thought it was ridiculous. We listen and respond all the time – to our teachers, our parents, our friends. I believed that as long as we communicated with our patients using some degree of emotional quotient, we really couldn’t mess this up. It’s not brain surgery or anything, or at least not yet.
And could listening even be taught? Working with clients at Sakhi for South Asian Women taught me that, apparently, it can and somewhere along the way, I may have learned.
There is a rather significant component of listening that I never used to follow before medical school and before Sakhi – the not talking part. I would respond to the problems that friends would bring up with me by offering them prescriptions and solutions almost immediately. This did several things, none of which were assuaging their anxieties: I would cut them off from the opportunity to give me more of themselves, effectively telling them that I understood them, their concern, and their perfect solution completely. At best, this type of interaction can cause people to feel that sharing additional information might be unwelcome, making further conversation unlikely. At worst, it makes them feel unheard and abruptly judged. And when the topic is difficult for people to put into words, like with medical issues or experiences of domestic violence, their induced silence becomes far more dangerous.
Friends weren’t usually looking for to-do lists from conversations like this. They wanted to know that their problems were valid and that I would be there for them, no matter what. Similarly, a patient recently diagnosed with diabetes isn’t only looking for insulin. They want to know that their fears about living with a chronic disease are common and that their symptoms are real, but that they will be able to manage their new lifestyle with professional support. The best way to treat peers and patients is to treat them well – to ask, to listen, to understand, and then to hand them tools so that they can carve their own path to recovery.
When I spoke to my first client at Sakhi, all I wanted to do was to prescribe. Within the first few minutes, I wanted to tell her to run, to leave her house immediately – what else would you want for someone who describes her own home as unsafe, threatening to her life? Bound by my year of clinical training, however, I only said that I thought she was strong and that I was happy she came to Sakhi. “Tell me more,” I added. As she left our meeting, she expressed that she had never talked about everything that had happened to her out loud before, “It felt nice.” There was much more power in my open silence than in my prescription.
Doctors see their patients at their most vulnerable: sick, weak, often unclothed. But Sakhi for South Asian Women does the same – clients may not be exposed physically, but to share the intimate, traumatic details of their lives that are often considered by our own communities as unspeakable personal issues or ghar ka mamla is naked enough.
This stigma concerning domestic violence that is prevalent within South Asian community is impregnated with fear – the fear of being burdened with uncomfortable information and unsolicited responsibility. What will people say about her? About me? Log kya kahenge? Why should I get involved? And as a result, the people who could mean a safe location to stay or a phone number to call don’t. A community of potential listeners is lost.
That’s the sad thing about our world. Society makes us think that those who are struggling are weak.
But the clients at Sakhi have taught me that those who struggle are strong enough to do so without breaking. And the only thing strong people need to turn their strength into action – action to win custody of their children, to work within a complicated legal system to convict their partner of violence, to find a job that will support their new family and themselves – is to be heard, to be seen, and to know that they are not alone. To my beloved South Asian community, let’s listen.
Sonia Taneja is a student at the Yale School of Medicine interested in working at the intersection of social justice, public health promotion, and medicine, towards a goal of health equity for historically disenfranchised groups. She has worked as a Parker Huang Fellow in India studying the mental health of female sex workers and women coerced into prostitution and also has an MSC in Public Health from the London School of Hygiene & Tropical Medicine where she studied race as a barrier towards cervical cancer screenings in the U.S. Outside of work, Sonia is an avid comedy clubber, Bollywood watcher, and bhangra dancer. She is a summer 2016 intern with Sakhi for South Asian Women.
Sun: A Short Film by Harminder Phull
A mother and her teenage son struggle to live with an alcoholic and abusive father and husband. After years of feeling helpless with no safe place to go, they make a difficult decision to try and salvage what’s left of their family but they may already be too late.
Thoughts from the Filmmaker
Sun is about the things we hide, consciously or unconsciously, from our friends, from our families from ourselves. The percentage of women exposed to some form of abuse (mental, verbal, physical - many various forms) compared to how little it’s discussed clearly demonstrates that this is a very hidden and avoided topic. We wanted to bring light to the ugliness that gets covered up, especially in an era of social media obsessed relationships that focus more on putting on a good face in public instead of addressing their problems. This problem is even worse in South Asian communities where there is a palpable and real push AGAINST ever talking about domestic abuse, coupled with a lot of victim blaming. So ultimately, that’s what Sun really is about, the secrets we all keep from each other. Whether it be a mental health issue, addiction or spousal abuse, there’s a culture of keeping quiet amongst South Asians about these issues and a reluctance to get help. It’s only when these secrets come to light does anything change in the story and it’s the same for reality, we have to shed light on domestic violence, addiction, mental health to move forward and to hopefully heal.
I think first and foremost we want people to acknowledge the problem exists and acknowledge that we aren’t talking about it. Why is that? We’ve shown the film at 8 festivals and everywhere we go people come up and say they either know someone who experienced something like this or have experienced it themselves. Yet if you ask what conversations they’ve had, many would say that the post-film discussion was their first! There are many causes, contributing factors and unique circumstances that bring about these situations. Alcohol is a major factor but the relationship is not one to one. We chose to bring light to both issues in our film, but we hope that the discussion rises above just alcoholism and abuse. Many of us have had the experience of where an relative drinks a little too much and it’s often passed off simply as “Oh, he just likes to drink.” Or we’ve seen someone grab their spouse a little harder than usual, give them a little shove, maybe raise their voice at them whenever we see them and we often think nothing of it. Simply a small argument between a husband and wife that doesn’t warrant any attention. Sometimes the smallest of gestures have the largest of stories. Sharing these stories with each other is what we’re trying to encourage through this fictional film we’ve created. Knowing that you’re not alone in suffering from domestic violence or addiction can be a powerful realization that might just push someone to admit they have a problem and get the help that they desperately need. Our hope is that this film would touch someone in this situation and maybe, just maybe, make them realize that the only way to move forward and heal is to bring these things to light for themselves and more importantly for others. Every survivor of abuse or addiction that comes forward to tell their story only helps others in the same situation realize it’s okay to get help, to talk, to find their own happiness and to take back their lives. We hope our film gives them and the support structures around them the courage to stand up and talk about it - it won’t solve everything, but it’s a start.
Harminder Phull has spent the last five years honing his skills as a screenwriter. His directorial debut was in 2013 with his film Baggage, the story of a lonely South Asian truck driver who makes a difficult and dangerous decision to smuggle drugs and send money back home. Baggage went on to premiere at the Punjabi International Film Festival 2013 and played in festivals in both New York and San Francisco. SUN is Harminder’s second film as both writer and director, and went on to play at 8 film festivals across North America winning two awards. You can find him on Twitter @harminderphull
I Once Was Blind: When Intimate Partner Violence Happens To Those We Love
I Once Was Blind: When Intimate Partner Violence Happens To Those We Love
“Ayo, I don’t even know you and I hate you!”
It was a random moment during a road trip in November 2020, that my connection to “Love Is Blind” by Eve featuring Faith Evans deepened. I passionately rapped the words along with Eve and began to see the connection between Intimate Partner Violence (IPV), commonly referred to as domestic violence.
The song has always been one of my favorite songs. As a child, it was because of my love for Eve and storytelling. In early adulthood, however, it was having experienced a similar situation as the one described in the song. I connected to the lyrics written about her sister/friend who she felt unable to protect from intimate partner abuse.
As a child, I sang the song not truly understanding the truth behind the lyrics. Understanding came when one of my close friends confided she was in an abusive relationship. Over the years, I stood helplessly and angry on the sidelines, watching the effects of IPV play out in each area of my sister’s life. All of my efforts and cries fell on deaf ears. As my journey in maternal and child health continued, I began to recognize and understand the impacts of intimate partner violence and domestic violence on birth outcomes and maternal and child health and also the impact that it was having on my friend’s life.
For Black women, sisterhood is an integral part of our life journey. We take pride in being able to be there for our sisters. But what do we do when our help and being there are not enough? Over the course of “Love is Blind,” Eve takes the listener on an emotional journey of sisterhood and contemplates what happens when our help is not enough. She embodies the feelings of helplessness and anger experienced when your close friend/sister is the victim of intimate partner violence with excruciating accuracy. Intimate Partner Violence, according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), is defined as “abuse or aggression that occurs in a romantic relationship.” (It is important to note, however, that romantic relationships can be sexual and non-sexual).
Intimate Partner Violence can be expressed in one or a combination of the four following ways—physical violence, psychological aggression, sexual violence and stalking.
Psychological Aggression
Psychological aggression is the category that non-verbal and verbal abusive communication—mental and emotional abuse—falls under. Isolation and financial control are other tactics of psychological aggression.
Sexual Violence
Sexual violence encompasses control over sexual and reproductive health. Each way, minus stalking, is alluded to in the various lines throughout “Love Is Blind.”
Perinatal Intimate Partner Violence
Perinatal IPV is intimate partner violence occurring anytime within one year of pregnancy and one year after pregnancy. This distinction is critical because the majority of reported cases happen to women during reproductive ages (18-34).
Pregnancy and the overall perinatal period are a highly vulnerable time for people; hence, it is important to look closely at the impacts of abuse during that period and work to prevent it.
Nationally, one in four women experiences IPV, according to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Eve captures her friend’s experience with perinatal IPV. In the final line of the first verse, she wrote: “I could have killed you when you said your seed was growin’ from his semen.” My sentiments were not exactly those of Eve’s, but my friend also experienced perinatal IPV.
Days of action are planned for 10/5 & 10/6 for #BreshaMeadows a 15 year old girl being held in a detention center on suicide watch after shooting her abusive father in self defense. Much of the advocacy around freeing Meadows is rooted in efforts to end mass incarceration, especially of young black people, and in efforts to provide justice for victims of domestic abuse. Meadows is among the up to 10 million children in the United States who are exposed to domestic violence annually, and among the black children who are detained at a rate 4.5 times higher than white children.
“Criminalizing Bresha in this context sends a harmful message to survivors and their children — that even in the most desperate of situations, they will be punished instead of helped,” the OrganizeFor petition reads.
Experts say that children who experience domestic violence are more likely to have depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts. Meadows’ incarceration only adds to that emotional toll.
Prior to shooting her father, Meadows had run away from home at least twice, and even reported the domestic abuse to the police. She told authorities that her father, 41-year-old Jonathan Meadows, threatened to kill her family and constantly beat her mother, Brandi Meadows, who filed a protective order against him in 2011. She later withdrew the order, as is common with domestic violence cases.
“The United States incarcerates more children than any other country,” Nnennaya Amuchie, law fellow at Unite for Reproductive and Gender Equity, wrote in an open letter to prosecutors Tuesday. “Is this what justice looks like? Bresha should not be punished for surviving abuse. Bresha should not be punished for protecting herself and her family.”
Meadows’ next hearing is scheduled for Thursday. #FreeBresha #BlackLivesMatter #BlackGirlsMatter #BlackWomenMatter #MisogynoirKills #DomesticViolence #EndTheCycle #TheWholeSystemIsGuilty
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Today my family remembers my cousin Morgan who was lost to #domesticviolence. Ever since her death, I have tried to pay more attention to this problem. No one should have to lose a loved one this way. My thoughts and prayers go out to her childen and sisters. You are not forgotten and you are loved. #breakthesilence #dontbeafraid
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