You ever just try to understand the logic behind biphobia? Like, we’re allowed to be a part of the LGBTQ+ community, but only when we’re in a same sex relationship. But we also can’t like people of the same sex unless it’s in a threesome with someone of the opposite sex. But also we don’t even exist. Like if you’re gonna hate on us at least get your stories straight
Focusing on the literary and historical representation of irrational emotions or phobias, Fear and Loathing seeks papers on topics and authors from any period, which aim to demonstrate the extent to which literary-historical study offers us unique insight into the cultural politics of emotions. Given the growth of both affect studies and historical enquiry into emotions over the past decade, Humanities scholarship has generated a rich and varied body of work on the representations and histories of emotions, sentiments, feelings and affects. This two-day international conference seeks to build upon this research and upon the relationship between the Humanities and the study of emotions more generally. Some key questions that we envisage animating the discussion at this conference include (1) how might we define phobia/fear/loathing within the context of the Humanities? (2) How have literary works been complicit with and/or reactive to dominant social phobias? (3) Can the archive be deployed to historicise feeling? (4) What role do the Humanities have in challenging contemporary phobias? We welcome proposals for individual papers and panels that address any of these core questions. Moreover, possible research topics for submission can include, but are by no means limited to:
Phobia & Academia
Archival Objects
Disability/Variability/ Disease
Bodies and Minds
Trans & Homophobia
Letters and Diaries
Propaganda
Outsiders/Others/Freaks
Religion/Theology
Human and Nonhuman Animals
The Monstrous
Borders and Territories
Aesthetics
Science and Technologies
Please send title and abstracts (300 words) for proposed papers and panels, along with a short biographical note (100 words) to[email protected] Deadline for submissions is 31st January 2014.
Which of the following responses to someone coming out as queer [gay/lesbian/bi/trans] is homo/bi/trans/phobic?
Ok, but why are you telling me?
You can do whatever you want, but I just don’t know about it.
You’re disgusting and sick
I will love and support you whatever you chose to do, but my beliefs say you’re debased
What about my grandchildren?
That’s fine dear [internally “OMG what are our relatives going to think?”]
Enough already, there are queers everywhere, what’s the big deal?
Answer? All of the above.
One of the things about disclosing your sexuality, or even, as in Daley’s case, speaking about who you’re dating without naming your sexuality, is that it is an experience that shouldn’t have to happen. In an ideal world. But it is still necessary, and this is something many straight people will never experience, and thus perhaps never understand. Most people assume you are straight, unless you have a stereotypical queer attribute. The burden of this unquestioned assumption is on queer people. And it’s not a nice experience. However, the burden should be on straight people to show that they understand the difficulty of being in the closet, coming out, and that they are supportive: not to erase the difficulty by saying ‘well, gay people can get married now so what’s the big deal?’ I experienced (and continue to experience) many people’s silence in response to saying I was bisexual – which, even if they did care, feels like they don’t understand the difficulty coming out can be. Hundreds of years of society’s prejudice around homosexuality isn’t diluted immediately by gay marriage being passed, or the idea that ‘it’s ok to be gay now, so why are all these queer banging on about it?’. A law doesn’t automatically change people’s attitudes. Queers still get bullied at school [99% of LGBT teenagers hear homophobic language used in schools, and 84% find this distressing in some way], same-sex couples often don’t feel comfortable holding hands or kissing in public, and homophobic attacks still occur in the UK frequently [http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2013/11/05/uk-man-who-forced-victim-to-drink-urine-in-homophobic-attack-has-jail-sentence-lengthened-by-3-years/], families often still wish, secretly or not, that their children won’t be queer, and LGBT people still fear telling their loved ones that they aren’t straight.
Therefore, a young famous sportsman discussing his dating preferences openly IS NEWS. There are only very few ‘out’ sports men and women, and this is not because there aren’t any! Daley’s video is therefore a hope giving display of honest bravery that is a real encouragement to young queers who are struggling to come to terms with their own sexualities. As Owen Jones says [link below], it was still illegal in 1980 to be homosexual, and sports stars were unable to speak freely about their sexualities. He goes onto say that Britain has changed over the last 20 years – and it’s amazing that many have responded with love and support. But this doesn’t mean coming out isn’t necessary. It just means its a little more acceptable.
There are two responses which need to be distinguished.
One says ‘This shouldn’t be news, but the reality is that it is, let’s talk about why’ and the other ‘This isn’t news, I wish people would talk about something else, Tom Daley’s sexuality is none of our business.’
The first attitude longs for an ideal and equal society where having to disclose one’s sexuality won’t any longer be necessary, because the ‘assumption’ will be that everyone is accepted. However, it is still necessaryand that this necessity is one of social justice. Daley himself recognises that he shouldn’t have to do a video to explain to his fans that he’s dating a man, but the reality of society is that he does, and has, therefore we must ask why. And it’s quite simple really: if someone feels it is necessary, to disclose their sexuality, to escape the pressure, fear and distress of ‘being in the closet’ – then who are we to say ‘you don’t need to do that?’ And the media storm proves that society isn’t at a stage where it isn’t news. But is this surprising when many in religious organisations still believe that it’s sinful? There is a direct correlation here between society and the religious attitudes. The second reason is that there is till a stigma attached to not being heterosexual, and coming out challenges the ‘heterosexual dogma’ of society.
The second attitude affectively wants to brush questions of sexuality under the carpet, keep them private, and not admit that they are politically relevant. It’s a disavowal of the difficulties queer people face in everyday life by not having the privilege of being straight. Try walking down the street with someone of the same gender holding hands: see what type of response you get – try to put yourself in a queers shoes.
But if Daley’s video helps one young queer not feel like they must self-harm today, stops another planning their suicide because they’ve seen it’s ok to be queer, or helps a teenager apologise to their queer friend after abandoning them when they came out, isn’t it worthwhile? Isn’t the desire to end discrimination, oppression, violence worth a media storm that sometimes gets the focus wrong? Is this really replacing ‘more important issues’ going on in the world? I think that hate crime, mental health, suicide and discrimination are pretty important issues really. This is a chance to be an ally! Show your support, rather than thinking it’s irrelevant.
[And this isn’t even to mention the question of bisexuality that has been erased from the discussions of TOM DALEY IS GAY - but another day perhaps].
Liking blondes is a preference. Refusing to date anyone who is bisexual because you think we are all greedy or more likely to cheat isn’t a damn preference. It’s being a biphobic asshole.
if you’d be Perfectly Happy dating someone UNTIL you Find Out/(Suspect?) they are {Some Minority Group} then, really it is NOT a “preference”
Fact: Your partner should never hold your orientation against you, expect you to stay closeted for them or claim to be gay or lesbian instead of bisexual, isolate you from LGBTQIAP+ friends or community, treat you as less trustworthy because of your orientation, or threaten to out you. These are all examples of biphobia and can be signs of an abusive relationship.
Fact: You don’t have to be “old enough” to be bi, and you don’t stop being bi when you become older or if you get married. Bisexuality is not limited to a certain life-phase, nor is it a statement of sexual availability.
Fact: Bisexuality isn’t limited to women. There are bisexual nonbinary people and bisexual men. The stigma attached to bi men needs to go: you are no less of a man if you are bisexual.
another one for that “bisexual woman dragged through civil court humiliation after speaking up against more powerful partner” bingo card we’ve all been working on
ALT
ALTALT
ALTALT
ALTALT
61% of bisexual women report* being raped, having endured physical violence or been stalked by a partner. Bisexual women are almost five times as likely to experience sexual abuse and twice as likely to experience stalking, compared with heterosexual women. This is the reality of bisexual women speaking up. I fully expect to see a similar situation play out soon with Megan Thee Stallion with the additional factor of how much race plays a role in whether women are believed or not.
British transphobes have graduated to claiming that bisexual women are tainted by our association with men and thus change the “vibe” of women-only spaces. It’s true, every time I walk into the room, I’m also bringing the spirit of every man who’s been inside my vagina. They live up there like lil ghosts.
This people are genuinely the goofiest dumbest bigots.
Considering the fact that some lesbians have previously had relationships or children with men, this kind of thing is especially gross. Like, this is also punishing some lesbians for having lived through internalized homophobia/lived in very hostile and unsafe environments.
the powers that terfs give men are just insane. they act like being a man makes you a fucking chaos magician bending reality to your whim.
This is literally not changed at all from the 1970s political lesbian shit that birthed TERFery, that’s the fucking wild thing. Like, there have been no advancements in this discussion at all in the past fifty fucking years. They are still saying the exact same shit.
This is part of the reason, by the way, that I’m so adamant that you can’t use anything that comes from that entire swath of transphobic 2nd-wave feminism. You can’t use the term “compulsory heterosexuality” without reckoning with the fact that its coiner thanked Janice Fucking Raymond in the foreword of the writing which established the term. You can’t use definitions of lesbianism which center men or define lesbianism by its exclusion of men without reckoning with the fact that this centering of men comes directly from wanting to exclude trans women.
The only way to stop drinking that tainted water is to drink from another well.
Yes to all of this, but for extra weird? is the genderqueer flag, does she fucking think all genderqueer folks are afab and not even a little masc? Wtf?
No, unfortunately those symbols are used by TERFs on Twitter to mean the suffragette flag, and are a means of marking themselves as TERFs. They just happen to be close in color to the genderqueer flag.
This is Deja vu of when I once got some weird hate here on Tumblr telling me that because I’m bi and not lesbian I have never experienced actual homophobia. Because… homophobes care if you’re bi now? You really think a homophobe will come up to a bi woman and her girlfriend and go “Oh, you’re only HALF gay? My mistake. Carry on.” (Note: I do not consider bisexuality to be “half gay”. I was using antiquated idea on purpose).
“Excuse me, before I call you a slur, can you clarify your identity so I can call you the correct one?”
apparently that twitter account belongs to the founder of lgb alliance ireland (or used to, bc they’ve deleted lmao) so apparently they didn’t know or care what the g and b letters stood for huh
Pansexuals:Ignoring the many posts and documents battleaxe bis write about how pansexuality inherently re-defines bisexuality and harms bisexuals “Why can’t you just let people have fun?”
May 17th is the International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia
(Image Description under the cut)
IDAHOBIT’s date was selected to commemorate the removal of homosexuality from the World Health Organization’s International Classification of Diseases. While this was a crucial step, many people, including asexual and aromantic people, are still pathologized today and considered in need of medical help. Outside of what’s in our graphic, here are some other ways that ace and aro experiences are pathologized and problematized:
Low sex drive/arousal has two diagnoses in the latest DSM, with an exception for people identifying as asexual. This still treats sex (and particularly a certain amount of it) within romantic relationships as the norm.
A current defining “symptom” of schizoid personality disorder is a lack of interest in romantic dating or sexual behavior.
Aspec experiences are often conflated with autistic experiences, to the point that people are assumed to automatically be both. This hurts ace and aro people, allo autistic people, and autistic people on the aspec.
The “sexual dysfunction” section of the current DSM assumes sex within the context of romantic relationships, making it difficult for nonpartnered aroallos to receive care.
For a deeper dive into this, TAAAP made a whole presentation about how healthcare professionals currently treat aspec people and how they could do better. You can find that here: https://taaap.org/2021/04/23/helping-professionals/
assuming bi youth only experience marginalization and oppression when they’re in same gender relationships makes as much sense as assuming that gay people only experience marginalization and oppression when they’re in a relationship
it doesn’t
exactly.
sexuality isnt a choice. relationships are. you can’t just opt in and out of oppression. if that were true bi people would only date the opposite gender.
this not even getting into the ridiculousness when it comes to nb people therefore not having a same/opposite gender to date anyway
Im cis im straight im female im human i believe in eqaulity of those who are bisexual asexual gay straight lesbian trans. I believe everyone should be treated with respect. But it seems respect has turned into merciless verbal violence on this app. Equality once meant “respect and rights for everyone no matter the differences” now it means “respect for only them just cos there special” I remembered when everyone was united as one as equal and wasn’t judged now i can’t step on the cis support board without seeing tumblr trans people calling cis “horrendous” or telling them to die. Theres so much support in the tumblr trans community but little did we know that support was gonna create assholes and people who show no love or empathy and only focus on the negative past and oppression
This in general has put a strain on not only cis people but those who are bisexual and asexual slowly shaming them telling them bisexual doesn’t exist biphobia doesn’t exist bisexual is a sexuality being an asshole and discriminating and threatening a sexuality (bisexuality or asexuality) is considered biphobia or aphobia if kin is a belief and has a phobia then why don’t real sexualities have it? Why cant they be respected “lgbtq+” is now “lgtq” And isn’t the way it was I can’t look at this constant exclusion of bisexuals and asexuals its terrible they are just as valid as gays and “queer” and god knows the mess of a trans community on this app. I can’t respect you if you don’t respect my sexuality or theres i don’t support exclusion i support equality and love not the continuos hatred over heterosexuals bisexuals asexuals and cisgendered people enough is enough till this goes to far.
R.A.S : No problem, Bughead will date even if we need to straight-wash and erase one of Jughead’s most iconic characteristic
Riverdale fans : We want Choni
R.A.S : Sure thing, we will make Choni happen and they will have a pretty little screentime and a lot of moments cut
Riverdale fans : We want Falice
R.A.S : Ok you will get Falice even if it will be very rushed with little to no screentime.
Riverdale fans : We made some crazy theories and -
R.A.S : They are cannon
Riverdale fans : We want Joavin
R.A.S : sorry :)) sweety :)) but Kevin belongs with Moose who still griefs over his gf and pretty much also cheated on her two times. Also don’t forget to buy our dvd with the deleted Choni scenes you won’t see otherwise
content warning: explicit talk of childhood sexual abuse & religous trauma without going into detail; explicit mentions of acephobia, biphobia, homophobia
this is one of two posts that i’m going to (hopefully) post on the topic of sexual abuse / violence and consent issues. this specific post is a submission to @resourcesforacesurvivors‘ series on Intersectional Ace Survivor Stories and pertains to navigating childhood trauma and religious family as a not-so-young-anymore black, non-binary, bi / pan asexual. while i have talked briefly about the topic of this post in a video, for the most part the experiences discussed in both posts are ones that i’m only just now sitting down and thinking about. please bear with me as i try to put things into words.
i’ll be honest with you. i’m extremely hesitant about posting this or drawing any kind of connection between myself and sexual abuse. why? well, for one, my online presence isn’t exactly anonymous. on top of that, i don’t actually view myself as a survivor. even identifying as a victim at all is something that i’m still coming to terms with.
regardless of how i view myself, you, dear reader, might view me as a survivor and/or a victim after reading this (or the upcoming) post and quite frankly, i’m not sure how i feel about that. it almost feels like posting this is a calculated risk of sorts that i’m taking.
the goal: to put a story that seems to be uncommon out there for those who might benefit from hearing it.
the risk: being viewed as or associated with something that i don’t don’t even view myself as or associate myself with. having people attribute who i am to this trauma.
…well, enough with the stalling. here goes nothing.
when your (a)sexuality and/or gender is blamed on childhood trauma that you didn’t even know happened to you, how do you even begin dealing with it? and where do you even go from there?
Bisexuals were essentially accused of murdering women via HIV in the 80s, either because we were intentionally duplicitous or because we were out of control maniacs who couldn’t resist unsafe sex. For many people of that generation, this was their first time hearing about bisexuals. Now folks want to pretend that didn’t influence today’s perception of bisexuality.
Also I love “date whoever, we don’t care” when that is SO clearly not the case; y’all are pretty clearly obsessed with who bisexuals fuck. That’s why y’all are always making posts about whatever bisexuals are doing and who we’re doing it with and why y’all are constantly in our inboxes about who we’re dating and nagging us about our preferences. Y’all ARE obsessed with us and it shows.
- calling a canon bi m/f couple “bihet” and saying it’s not a bi rep if they end up in m/f relationship.
- headcanoning a female character who dated multiple men as “lesbian” and undermining her canon relatioships, saying she only dated men because of comphet.
- saying that shipping a canon bisexual female character with men is a “wlw erasure”.
- telling people they can’t headcanon wlw/mlm characters as bi even though they do exactly the same for mlw characters.
New one I’ve noticed:
- After a character is explicitly and specifically confirmed as bisexual, refusing to ever call them “bi” or “bi rep” and literally only ever calling them “wlw” or “wlw rep”
Literally saw multiple Amphibia fans on tiktok harassing people who headcanon Sasha as transmasc in any way and calling them “problematic” because “she’s wlw” and “it’s erasing wlw rep”, even though Sasha is not some nebulous “wlw”, she’s explicitly bisexual, the show’s creators use the word bisexual, Sasha has a bi flag in the show, and Sasha would still be equally bisexual no matter what gender she was. Obviously that example is transphobic as much as it’s biphobic, but the absolute refusal to call her bi even when talking about what kind of queer rep she is and basically just treating her as a lesbian is weird to say the least.
Roland Emmerich: "You have to understand one thing: I didn’t make this movie only for gay people, I made it also for straight people,” he said. “I kind of found out, in the testing process, that actually, for straight people, [Danny] is a very easy in. Danny’s very straight-acting. He gets mistreated because of that. [Straight audiences] can feel for him.”
Roland Emmerich: "You have to understand one thing: I didn’t make this movie only for gay people, I made it also for straight people,” he said. “I kind of found out, in the testing process, that actually, for straight people, [Danny] is a very easy in. Danny’s very straight-acting. He gets mistreated because of that. [Straight audiences] can feel for him.”
“Bisexual women and their boring boyfriends” I know this is hard for y’all to hear, but I actually don’t give a fuck if you think my boyfriend is boring; “they want us to roll out the red carpet for their ugly boyfriends” I actually don’t give a fuck what you think about my relationships and who I date; I don’t know how to explain to y’all that NOTHING WE DO IS FOR YOU!!! Our relationships aren’t not for you, we dont do ANYTHING for you! We’re not gnc for you (for those of you saying it’ll make you like us more), our relationships aren’t for you (you can have your hurt feelings about our ugly/boring boyfriends or us being poly, I do not fucking care), and we are certainly not bi for you or your attention. Nothing bi people do is for or about you, and you can cry to your Twitter followers about whatever it is we’re doing that you don’t like, because I do not care.
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
ALT
![projectqueer:[image source]Roland Emmerich: "You have to understand one thing: I didn’t ma](https://64.media.tumblr.com/4736de0b3fc1b4d9f1cab3e2a223cf87/tumblr_nv94irIFf21qb8zwko1_640.jpg "projectqueer:[image source]Roland Emmerich: \"You have to understand one thing: I didn’t ma")
