#forgiveness
If you’ve ever hurt me in your life, bullied me, reticuled me, laughed at me to hurt me, said something to me to make me feel worse about myself, anything that was mean, I’m not here to say “fuck you”, I’m not here to say “screw you, if it weren’t for you, my life would be a thousand times better”. I’m here to say I forgive you, I’m here to say that it’s ok and that no one is perfect, not even me. I understand that what you were saying to me was coming from the hurt and pain you were feeling inside and that you were secretly suffering as well. I am not here to judge you for your past but to tell you that the past doesn’t matter and yeah, it hurt, but I’m alive, I still have a loving family, friends, and I go to a great school. I have no reason to hold onto that anger and hurt you caused me at the time, you have turned me into a stronger and more willed person. Thank you.
Bill Maher Gives ELITIST Rant Against Student Debt Forgiveness
I’ve posted a new fic on AO3. I wrote this for Passion Week (the week before Easter), about Eärendil’s journey through the Calacirya to ask mercy of the Valar.
People talk about forgiveness like it’s this nonchalant choice you suddenly make in one second before you meet your friends at Panera for lunch and not this excruciating, gradual, meticulously tended to, bloody, sweaty, insane, bone scraping, tooth grinding rebirth of the self.
Christ’s Descent into Limbo
Sebastiano del Piombo, 1516
Museo del Prado, Madrid
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You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind. You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you. It doesn’t matter what others did to you, you are going to forgive them because you don’t want to feel sick all the time. Forgiveness is for your own mental healing. You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself. Forgiveness is an act of self-love.
— don Miguel Ruiz
The truth is, sometimes you willhurt people. Sometimes, you will hurt people, and then life will move on, and you won’t have any way to apologize, or make up for it. But, your past mistakes do not define who you arenow.You are allowed to move on without guilt haunting you over things you might have done years ago. You are allowed to come to terms with the things you did that were wrong, to change, and to grow from those experiences; you will never be stuck in one spot if you will yourself to own up to it, pull yourself up, and start again.
وَهُوَ الَّذِي يَقْبَلُ التَّوْبَةَ عَنْ عِبَادِهِ وَيَعْفُو عَنِ السَّيِّئَاتِ وَيَعْلَمُ مَا تَفْعَلُونَ (25) سورة الشورى
هذا بيان لكمال كرم الله تعالى وسعة جوده وتمام لطفه، بقبول التوبة الصادرة من عباده حين يقلعون عن ذنوبهم ويندمون عليها، ويعزمون على أن لا يعاودوها، إذا قصدوا بذلك وجه ربهم، فإن الله يقبلها بعد ما انعقدت سببا للهلاك، ووقوع العقوبات الدنيوية والدينية. { وَيَعْفُو عَنِ السَّيِّئَاتِ } ويمحوها، ويمحو أثرها من العيوب، وما اقتضته من العقوبات، ويعود التائب عنده كريما، كأنه ما عمل سوءا قط، ويحبه ويوفقه لما يقر به إليه
ولما كانت التوبة من الأعمال العظيمة، التي قد تكون كاملة بسبب تمام الإخلاص والصدق فيها، وقد تكون ناقصة عند نقصهما، وقد تكون فاسدة إذا كان القصد منها بلوغ غرض من الأغراض الدنيوية، وكان محل ذلك القلب الذي لا يعلمه إلا الله، ختم هذه الآية بقوله: { وَيَعْلَمُ مَا تَفْعَلُونَ } تفسير السعدي
25- And He it is Who accepts repentance from His servants, and pardons evil deeds, those from which repentance has been made, and knows what they do (yaf‘alūna, may also be read taf‘alūna, ‘you do’). * تفسير Tafsir al-Jalalayn
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“Comprehend the breadth and length and height and depth of the love of Christ.” ~Ephesians 3:18
“When we’re naked and ashamed and alone in our brokenness, Christ envelops us with His intimate grace. When we’re rejected and abandoned and feel beyond wanting, Jesus cups our face: ‘Come close, my Beloved.’ When we’re dirty and tear-stained and despairing, Jesus Christ is attracted to us and proposes undying love: ‘All that you’re carrying I take…and all that I am is yours’.”
~Ann Voskamp || The Broken Way
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* Al-Ghazali Letter to a Disciple: Ayyuha'l-Walad | Al-Ghazali, T.J.Winter
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* Agenda to Change Our Condition | Hamza Yusuf
* Being Muslim - A Practical Guide | Asad Tarsin
* The Quest for Meaning: Developing a Philosophy of Pluralism | Tariq Ramadan
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* Daily Wisdom: No.3: Islamic Prayers and Supplication | Abdur Raheem Kidwai
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“Out beyond the ideas of right-doing and wrongdoing, there is a field I will meet you there. It’s the world full of things to talk about.”
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#myphotography of beit elkady gate, old cairo…
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Fear not, little flock; for it is your Father’s good pleasure to give you the kingdom. Luke 12:32 How majestic, magnificent, and glorious our God is. It is amazing to think that the very one that spoke the entire universe into existence, the stars, the planets, the galaxies, everything you see on Earth, and you, loves you. Do you get that? The most powerful being in the entire universe, the…
I would like to visit you for a while get away from the city maybe I shouldn’t have called but someone had to be the first to break taught we can sit on your back porch relax talk about anything it doesn’t matter I’ll be courageous if you’ll pretend that you forgiven me I know I let you down again and again I know it didn’t really treat you right I’ve paid the price and I’m still paying for it every day
We all make mistakes,
We couldn’t be human if we didn’t,
They say learn from your mistakes,
But maybe it isn’t that easy.
I realise now,
Maybe it isn’t the mistakes we make but our attitudes around them,
Maybe it is time we stop trying to fix the mistakes we make,
And rather move on and leave it in the past.
If we stop dwelling on our mistakes maybe we will be better,
Maybe we won’t blame ourselves anymore,
I have finally had a revelation,
We need to not punish ourself and try to fix our mistakes,
But leave them in the dust and continue our lives.
-A lesson I am finally learning.
Halfway there
And back again
I was a leaf on the wind
Without you
It could have been
What it could have been
But I could never be
What I could never be
And will you ever forgive me?
I was a fool to make you love me again
I was a fool, I was wrong
Thinking about when John and sherlock are on the train about to explode,,, and John says “of course I forgive you”,,,, of course,,,, I will always forgive you,,,, I can never not forgive you,,,, and I will always try to make it right,,,, and don’t you know? Can’t you see it? Of course… of course I forgive you
What is meant by finding your why.
Something that anyone who has ever been involved in a situation of infidelity will over and over again is a one word question, why?
In general the first thing that any cheater will come up with will be the rationalizations they used to give themselves permission. The most surface shallow things. Relationship issues, not enough sex, not enough emotional connection, not feeling appreciated valued, the thrill, the ego boost so and so on.
But that is not what the betrayed is asking. No we’re not asking for something so shallow and surface, we’re not asking what stresses in your life lead you to the point where you decided cheating was an option. What we are looking for is why cheating was ever an option in the first place.
Every relationship has issues, every relationship has stress and difficulty. Yet not everyone reacts to such stresses by cheating.
After all, there are always other, better, honest, honorable, ethical and effective options available. Talking, counseling, divorce /separation. All of those are valid options and reactions to any excuse that any cheater can dream up.
That’s the real question that is being asked when a betrayed partner asks why. That’s the question that any cheater who wants to change and re-earn trust. What was it about your thinking, psychology, background, philosophy etc that put such a destructive choice on the table.
Once again, not what temporary thing in your life lead you to consider it as a choice, but how was it ever a choice to begin with, and what are you willing and able to do to remove that option from your mental toolbox so that we can have some confidence that the next time life throws stress or temptation your way you will choose one of those healthy ethical options and not cheat again.
That’s why addressing “relationship” issues in the wake of infidelity is pointless when it comes to addressing the trauma caused by it. Even bringing relationship problems up while discussing the matter validates cheating as an option.
This does not mean that relationship issues don’t matter or aren’t important, but ultimately when it comes to the question of infidelity they are irrelevant because the choice to cheat is separate from whatever motivated them to the place where they made that choice.
Think about it this way, if someone is driving and someone else cuts them off in traffic there are any number of ways that they could react, some are more healthy than others and some are much worse.
If someone reacts to being cut off by pulling a gun and shooting at the person who cut them off the problem isn’t the person who cut them off, the problem is whatever it is about them that made them think that shooting someone was a reasonable reaction to the situation.
That’s exactly what the cheater did, they may have had a justification to react in some way to whatever it was, but they chose something that was not an appropriate response.
So that is what is meant when we ask you to find your why’s.
