Gender variance, or gender nonconformity, is behavior or gender expression by an individual that does not match masculine and feminine gender norms. People who exhibit gender variance may be called gender variant, gender non-conforming, gender diverse, gender atypical or genderqueer, and may be transgender or otherwise variant in their gender identity. In the case of transgender people, they may be perceived, or perceive themselves as, gender nonconforming before transitioning, but might not be perceived as such after transitioning. Some intersex people may also exhibit gender variance.
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actually no make this a thing. itd probably be so good for making trans girls feel safe
im glad like at least 500 people can agree that gender affirming prosthetics shouldnt be exclusive to just trans people. honestly this goes for cis guys too feel free to get some breast forms. just dont be surprised if afterwards you decide you dont want to be a guy anymore
Can y’all stop forcing celebrities to have to say that they’re actually not non-binary and instead they’re just gnc.
Whenever a celebrity is gnc, instead of initially celebrating it, people are like ‘this celebrities comes out as non-binary? This celebrity is now trans?’
And then they have to explain that they don’t see clothing as guys clothing or girls clothing and they just want to wear whatever they want
And THEN people celebrate it, even though some people online think they just haven’t realized they’re trans yet.
With how minuscule the probability of someone being trans is, can people just appreciate the initial thought that a celebrity is breaking free of gender norms therefore helping younger kids realize they can be gnc too.
Let gnc people EXIST
Y'know, there’s actually quite a few sex researchers now who believe that the number of trans individuals is actually a lot lower than the current number. What they believe is that individuals are actually gnc, get depression when they aren’t accepted as a boy or a girl, and then develop body dysmorphia as a symptom of their depression. Which actually makes a lot of sense because some brain scans of trans individuals look like “this is the other gender’s brain,” but some brain scans look like “this is just a regular person with depression.”
I’m not saying that all transgender people are just gnc with bad experiences, but according to the research, a lot are. And this may be why the trans community has such high suicide rates. So instead of insisting that people are trans or bi when they do something that isn’t stereotypical of their gender (whether it’s wearing clothes, having a hobby, behaving Butch/effeminately) like people on this site are wont to do, you should just accept people like! they! are!
You’re not gonna like it when you find out about how the LGBT community treats cross dressers. People are actively witch hunting them, telling them they’re just in the closet because wearing a dress for fun totally means that you have to be a girl right??? It’s not like cross dressing is a performance similar to drag or cosplaying where people get dressed up and put on a different persona…
On another note, can we please stop with the “If you have to question if you’re trans, then you absolutely are trans, sweaty!!!” bullshit? Questioning our identity is how we solidify it and grow more comfortable with it. Pestering people that the slightest bit of doubt about their gender identity is undoubtedly evidence that they are trans, is just furthering their misery. You are not “saving” people, you are actively contributing to the raising numbers of detransitioner and suicide cases.
Cross dressing, drag, and gender non conformity, while it may have some ties, is not lgbt. People who identity with or participate in those things mentioned may be lgbt, but doing those things doesn’t make them lgbt.
So if a cis/het person wants to participate? Let them. They’re allowed. It’s not rude or ignorant or appropriation. They’re not hurting anyone by having fun like the rest of the people there. Stop forcing them to think they’re something they’re not.
Gender creative stimboard for @i-like-starswith themes of astronomy and stars, planets, wax melting, and blankets/just generally soft things.
Gender Creative is a term for when one’s conception of their gender, or gender in general, intrinsically differs from the prevailing social norms. In particular, it is commonly used for when a child or teenager rejects gender norms and stereotypical expression, commonly seen in children who are raised without a prescribed gender (known as “gender creative parenting”).
On Sept. 16-17, TLC, GSA NetworkandTrans Youth - Truth Project will host a two-day organizing workshop for transgender and gender nonconforming youth of color (14-21) in the East Bay Area.
I love when baby gays are clearly still unlearning a lot of biases and like every couple of months try to find a progressive reason to explain why men wearing dresses makes them uncomfortable. Like obviously transmisogynistic caricatures are Bad but if it’s just a guy irl who wants to do drag or something that’s literally fine. This has been a thing longer than you’ve been alive
Also like I need you all to understand that historically the line between gnc & trans people has always been way less distinctly defined than you want it to be. And for a lot of people that’s kind of the point. Drag in particular is about radical self expression it’s about taking gender performance and turning it into a literal show and it rules
To the people in my notes talking about “it’s okay if gnc men make you uncomfortable as long as you don’t police anyone <3” no it’s not actually. You need to think about why that is and deconstruct it. Lol
Why tf can’t gay ppl just put their gotdam feet on the gotdam floor when they sit wtf are we afraid of are we constantly in a state of ‘the floor is lava’ and why can’t our brains register what is and is not a chair???? Why are we like that????
We are horrified by the Trump administration’s treatment of trans and gender nonconforming people. Please reach out to your trans friends and family this week.
my mom is also intersex - and she was bullied relentlessy. when her hair was short, her peers harassed her for “looking like a boy.” these same peers were violent with her. so, she’d almost always let the hair dresser do whatever they wanted, as long as they didn’t cut it short. and it never made her happy.
but after literal decades, she finally got a pixie cut. a haircut she wanted. she looked so bright and happy after getting it, and she looks much more like herself. it wasn’t “just hair” for her; it was healing and joy. and i’m sure for some intersex, trans, nby, and gnc people reading this, it isn’t “just hair” for you, either.
if you’ve been holding off changing anything about your appearance because of bigotry or dismissal: please know that no matter what, you have permission to do what you want with your body. i and so many others support you. it’s never too late to do what makes you happy.
you do not need to physically transition to wear the clothes you like. you do not need to physically transition to use your name and pronouns. you do not need to physically transition to stick up for yourself when people misgender you or call you the wrong name. you do not need to physically transition to be trans, and physically transitioning does not make anything you do as a trans person more valid.
you are entitled to your truth. you deserve the things that make you feel happy and empowered. regardless of where you are in your journey and what your journey looks like. there are no prerequisites to transness and trans self expression.
having socially ‘transitioned’ my name years ago, it feels amazing to finally have my name reflected correctly on legal documents, identification, etc. not only that, "X” as a gender marker has recently become a possibility for me…!
except, you know. not really. because everything always has to be complicated for me. always. and America is fucking ridiculous.
in this video, i talk about my personal experience with socially changing my name, the process & timeline of legally changing my name in Nevada / Washingon state, and go on a tangentially relevant rant about why i personally detest the term “deadname”.
for those interested in looking into legally changing your name and/or gender marker, check out these amazing resources:
legal ‘transition’ as a non-binary person in America is a joke, but i managed to not be overly bitter about it in the video somehow. just know that there was and is much internal screaming regardless. :’)
My senior year of college at the University of Georgia was the first time I used the women’s restroom. For the longest time I had avoided public restrooms whenever possible. As a then very visibly gender non-conforming person, the men’s restroom was a historic site of violence. It wasn’t so easy for me to blend in. The constant stares in public, the misgendering (calling me by the wrong pronouns), and the glance-overs in men’s restrooms verified that for me.
As I walked into the women’s restroom, my heart beat rapidly in my chest. Would anyone assume I was trans? Would someone yell at me or out me? Would there be mass hysteria? It was a busy period between classes, so there was a larger influx of women than usual. But no one paid any attention to me. I walked past the other students with ease, did what I needed to do, and left. From then on, I never questioned which restroom to use. That is, until all of this “bathroom bill” business started to rear its ugly xenophobic head.
The CDC currently has a vile public awareness campaign going around that boldly erases that transgender and gender nonconforming youth face the brunt of violence within the LGBTQ community.
Their excuse? They haven’t figured out the right metrics or terms to use to account for gender identity in their research.
This is unacceptable. Transgender/GNC folks didn’t just sprout up yesterday, we’ve been around. You’ve had decades to get this right and you continue to wallow in ignorance while trans folks of all ages experience poor interactions with the healthcare system and society at large.
I fixed the graphic, but we can’t let this go. #ProtectTransYouth
Also, some stats:
A 2013 survey of middle & high school LGBTQ students found 74% were verbally harassed for gender identity and 55% for gender expression.
72% of victims of anti-LGBTQ homicide were trans women and 67% of anti-LGBTQ homicide victims were trans women of color in that same report.
This week marks one year since Black transgender activists in the United States organized Black Trans Liberation Tuesday. Held on Tuesday, August 25, the national day of action publicized Black trans experiences and memorialized 18 trans women, predominantly trans women of color, who had been murdered by this time last year.
